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  1. J

    Talking to specialists in front of Mum

    What I find really hard is the way some professionals think that because my loved one has dementia she doesn't understand or hear. It hurts me so much when they say Dementia or end of life in front of her.
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    Mum getting kicked out of care home help

    No we thought things were settling down to be honest, a wee bit in shock to get the letter to be honest.
  3. J

    Mum getting kicked out of care home help

    We had a few issues with my mums care home and had meetings to sort them out, not enough to eat at tea time. Just a toasted teacake etc, room had excrement on floor, walls bedclothes etc, mum sitting in a pool of urine when we visited, was told she was quiet so we left her, after the meeting...
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    Food in a care home

    We are in the process of trying to move my mum just now as there is other issues we aren't happy with, cleanliness etc, thanks for all your help.
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    Food in a care home

    My mum has lost over 2 stone since going in the home, we have spoken to them about this and they promised she would have a hot meal at tea time, this is at 5 pm but again yesterday all they put down in front of her was a teacake, sometimes they have soup with it sometimes they don't, if she...
  6. J

    Food in a care home

    Hello, I was just wondering what kind of meals they serve in care homes, I know it's a bigger lunch and smaller evening meal but just wondered what kind if thing they get for an evening meal as my mum just gets a toasted teacake and I don't think that's enough.
  7. J

    They don't tell you these things...

    Moved to tears What an excellent post and so very very true.
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    Can this really all be dementia?

    I know what you mean, that was one of the things that got to me when my Mum was in the home, everyday when I went to visit she was like ' right lets go then get my stuff' as if I was there to take her home, when I couldn't she would get really angry and tell me to go away then if I wasn't going...
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    At my wits end

    It does look like that is the only option I am left with but it does leave me feel like I have failed my Mum.
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    At my wits end

    I do live with my mum, I am her full time carer so can't just walk away i'm afraid, I know it sounds cruel but it is like she manipulates me, she can be so cruel one minute aggressive violent etc then she is almost sitting on my knee stroking me telling me she loves me and trying to force money...
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    At my wits end

    Social worker came on Thursday, again I feel like I was lulled into a false sense of security, Mum got up in a good mood for the first time in ages, no ranting, no shouting or swearing, social worker was pleased with how Mum was and then she left and then again things went back to how they were...
  12. J

    Can this really all be dementia?

    Thank you, you spoke so much truth there that I am now in tears, you are all wonderful on this forum and I wish I had found it ages ago.
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    I want Mum to go into residential care

    Looking back I think the best thing for My Mum was being in the care home, I hold my hands up and say I think I did wrong bringing her back out and I do feel I am being selfish by trying to keep her out as long as I can as I can see I have to think of her needs as well as mine and my Dad's and...
  14. J

    Can this really all be dementia?

    I probably should have said in my first post A little more information, because I am new here and was frustrated whilst writing the post I didn't put in as much information as I should have, when my dad was in hospital in April for a triple heart bypass my mum become much worse, I put this...
  15. J

    The day before the move

    I understand how hard this will be for you, but you have done all you can for your mum, I hope your mum settles in well, thinking of you.
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    Can a person just be faking it?

    My mum is the very same, everything has to be about her and no one can have a conversation except her and like you say if my dad says anything nice to other people there is hell to pay as she accuses him of sleeping with them, If i go out and leave my boyfriend with her she speaks to him fine...
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    Can this really all be dementia?

    Thankyou so much for your answers, Saffie, I have mentioned it to the GP but all I get is yes that's the dmentia, no help at all, My mum is on Mematine I have asked if there is any more help but I was told she is on the maximum dose. Pigeon11, My mum has a social worker who comes out to...
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    Can this really all be dementia?

    Hiya, I am new to the forum after trying to search google for some help with my situation, I live with my mother and father, my father has poor health and my mum has dementia so I am caregiver to them both, I find myself asking everyday is it dementia my mum has or is there something else...