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    Hard work persuading her to take tablets

    My mum had problems taking tablets and we used hide them in food.We later had all medicines in liquid form.She had vascular dementia and when she was admitted to hospital they assessed her swallow which was delayed and may be the reason for her former problems.
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    Dad keeps losing his keys

    Keys My mum had no patience with my father but as the disease progressed she became more tolerant.My mum was with my Dad 24/7 so I had a lot of sympathy for her and felt she just needed a listening ear so she could unload.Also providing some respite was important as my Dad wouldn't go out at...
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    Dad keeps losing his keys

    Soft toy key ring Another tip for ladies who can't find their keys in their handbag is to attach a small soft toy onto the key ring then it's easier to find and harder to lose.For males I guess there are appropriate large key rings.
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    Dad keeps losing his keys

    Lanyard Hi My Mum used go to daycare but had to let herself into her flat.We used a lanyard fitted around her neck with a key attached - the type that people use for ID cards.I meant that the cord would break if caught in anything.She did lose her handbag regularly but it was a case of finding...
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    reply to the same question in a different way

    Write it down My father used to continually ask the same questions.In some cases it is possible to write the answers down on a note pad.When he was in hospital he would read the note pad and know why he was there and where he was.Some of the staff used to write on his note pad too.We would tell...
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    Myoclonal jerks and the pineal gland

    jerks Hi! I was searching talking point as mum has had a lot of falls recently.I am looking for a pattern in the hope that I can find a cause.She is also on memantine.The senior in the care home asked the doc about the jerks as she thinks these are the reasons for the falls.However when I have...
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    EPA - Questions

    Flu Jab My sister signed a letter of consent at the home for flu jab but the home said the nurse said she won't give it unless we have power of attorney.I think this is wrong.Her GP said it is 'rubbish' and she can have it and will put her on the list.At the time I thought it was the home...
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    My mother been waking me at odd hours of the night , so am wondering

    My mum lived in sheltered accommodation and we were given 3 nights of carers.I think this was agreed by social services (as we were waiting for a place in residential and mum was disturbing other residents in her accommodation) as they knew it was short term.We also asked for higher rate care...
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    Memantine/ebixa

    Ebixa My mum has vascular dementia.I read on net that some research had shown that it could be effective with patients who had vascular dementia (obviously your GP knows different?) as well as Alzheimers.I could not get it from the GP as it was not licensed for vascular dementia patients but...
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    Mental Capacity Act As Of 1.10.2007

    My mum has been refused the flu jab as the district nurses are saying becaused of the new act we need to have Power of Attorney.As this is a relatively new act I questioned this as few people will have applied for Lasting Power of attorney which gives right to make decisions on a relatives...
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    EPA - Questions

    EPA/ Flu Jab I recently completed an EPA for myself in case I need it for the future but had up to 30th October to complete it as they have now been replaced by Lasting Power of Attorney.This means that not only can you apply to havean LPA for financial control but also have a say in your...
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    How did you get your relative into a home??

    my sister took mum to the home. Mum knew what was happening.I had always said mum would know the truth so no point in lying.We took her to the consultant in Jan as her behaviour had deteriorated and wanted to check it was nothing physical.She said at this point 'you are trying to put me away!and...
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    The Dreaded Day has arrived...........

    My mum went into an EMI residential home a month ago.It was very hard.The home said our visits were unsettling her and advised us to stay away for 2 weeks.we said we couldn't do this as we has visited every day and stayed the night on a rota basis.However I did think our daily visits were...
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    Am so cross and upset, again

    Mum always seemed to 'kick off' with me more so than my sisters. She has said she will tell the police about me and accused me of stealing some clothes which I returned to a shop.Despite my reassurances she persisted with the idea. As I am the eldest I did wonder whether it was because she felt...
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    Problems with not having EPA etc.

    No EPA No one is obliged to pay top up fees but she may not have been accepted at that home and we didn't want our choice to be based on cost.Even the worst EMI home wanted £20 a week top up. I have a daughter who works as a paralegal and she said you can go on line to the public guardian...
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    Problems with not having EPA etc.

    paying for home My sister has agreed with the bank she can sign for mum as mum had strokes.Now she is in a home.She has minimum assets less than £12,000 and no property.she will be funded by SS but there is a £70 top up.We thought we could pay this from mum's savings until they run out but SS...