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    Mum just moved into care and hates me - am i making it worse?!

    Hi I can relate to everything you have written. It’s a year tomorrow since my mum went into a CH after a hospital stay. Even after all this time she still tries to follow me out eight times out of ten. She regularly packs up all her things , getting carrier bags from somewhere we never leave...
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    Selling home - when is the right time?

    Hi all my mum has been in a CH since February still not altogether settled and on some visits insists she wants to come back with us and sometimes she is quite happy to stay where she is. We have now sold my mums house and will complete on the sale next week. I found emptying the house very...
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    Clearing Mum's home

    Hi all we are in the process of clearing mums house now ,dad died 4 years ago and mum went into a care home in February this year. They had lived in this house for 62 years , my brother was born there. I think my mum has kept everything,she wouldn't let me clear any of dads things after he died...
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    Sugar in her coffee

    This is really interesting,all my mums tastes have changed. She now takes sugar in her tea, eats cake biscuits cream buns chocolate etc as if they are going out of fashion. She will not eat any vegetables or drink plain water, it's as though its poison. If it's not sweet she doesn't want to...
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    What a Mother's Day

    Thank you all for the reassurances. I went to the CH on Monday mum was tired out after her travels so spent most of the time asleep in the temporary bedroom in the more secure unit of the CH. I sorted out what room she will now be having , speaking to the management etc. Didn't visit yesterday...
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    What a Mother's Day

    Thanks for all your replies. I must admit when i got the phone call i have never felt so sick . Running round with the staff made me feel frantic until we got the call that she had been found. I couldon't believe she had got so far . Mum is a cunning old fox and being Mother's Day and the CH...
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    What a Mother's Day

    Hi all its sometime since I posted, mum is still in the CH albeit she has had a few A&E visits . Anyway my brother and I visited mum yesterday morning large display of flowers in hand,mum was in a good mood and we 3 laughed together over silly things. Brother and I left her after the visit...
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    Mum moved into a care home on Wednesday

    Thank you all once again for sharing your experiences it does help and makes you feel less alone in this journey. Mum has been in the CH now for 6 days, the packing has stopped to be replaced by having her coat on and bag in hand sitting by the door exist all day. She has started to get up at...
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    Mum moved into a care home on Wednesday

    Thank you all for responding I am very grateful and it really helps to learn from others experiences. I had to go back to the CH today as they needed a copy of LPOA and I had got medicine from the GP yesterday that needed taking. I had removed all bags etc when I first set up her room but she...
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    Mum moved into a care home on Wednesday

    Thanks so much for your reassurance it does help. I just feel sick . I had in my head that once the time came for her to go into a CH I would feel at ease as its been a real struggle for the past 5 months as she has got worse daily . However I still don't feel at ease just wish the knot in my...
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    Mum moved into a care home on Wednesday

    my mum moved into her care home on Wednesday evening after being discharged from hospital after a 2 week stay.Whilst in hospital once she was passed as medically fit she underwent an assessment which came back as having no capacity. We went to the home the afternoon of her discharge getting her...
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    Really worried

    Thank you for your reply. This is the worst thing I have ever seen her skin was first full of a rash that the doctor treated for scabies then I went back to gp as after treatment got worse and started to blister and I mean big blisters they said infection then a week on antibiotics and steroid...
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    Really worried

    My mum has been admitted to hospital 12 days ago with a condition called Bulbous Pemphigoid she has had a diagnosis of vascular dementia for the past 3 years she is now being screened for delirium. I am very worried has anyone got any experience of this. Many thanks
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    Don't know what to do next

    Hi all well last night we went to try and shower mum to get the cream off her to try and cure the scabies. It was bad as mum decided to turn on me in front of my brother and sil and the evening carer. Even though once again I end up feeling like **** at least others got to see what it's like. I...
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    Don't know what to do next

    Thank you both so much for taking the time to reply I really appreciate it. I have been at my mums all morning and administered the prescribed cream as the careers have to have special provision from their manager and this can't be agreed or not until Monday at the earliest . My brother and wife...
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    Don't know what to do next

    Hello this is my first posting although I have been reading other people's threads for some time. I have decided to post now as the title of this thread states I don't know what to do next. My mum is 83 next week and was diagnosed with vascular dementia in 2015 . She hasn't had a stoke or high...