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    Help - urgent please - Recommendations for incontinence pull ups for women.

    Hi Adnil may I ask why they won't give pull ups for daytime. When I took my mil for incontinence assessment I asked if she could have pull ups as over the counter pads were being left everywhere and also my children were able to find them around the house. They asked if she had dementia and I...
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    Help - urgent please - Recommendations for incontinence pull ups for women.

    Abena work really well. We get pull ups via NHS but perhaps you may be able to buy it for. Their website. Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking Point mobile app
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    Standards for temperatures in residential care homes

    When mil went for respite we felt that the temperature was quite warm (it was in December so freezing outside) but several windows were open for ventilation but the home was still quite warm. Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking Point mobile app
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    No one wants to sign Power of Attorney

    We at going to get her Alzheimer's specialist to sign for us. After all who better then the man that was there from the very beginning. I'm sure he will charge a bit but it's necessary. Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking Point mobile app
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    No one wants to sign Power of Attorney

    I understand Kevin hence my note at the bottom that said 'just wanted to have a moan' and I do understand they're under no obligation. However...i am taken aback at the refusal to sign since the people I asked have been friends for over many years. And they have been actively calling and...
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    No one wants to sign Power of Attorney

    Thank you. I will probably ask the gp first and then ask the Alzheimer specialist that's been seeing her for 15years. Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking Point mobile app
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    No one wants to sign Power of Attorney

    Thank you all. I guess with finds being thought I'm sure one of our friends (mum's friends too) will be happy to help. But I guess they feel once they sign we will be illegally misusing funds (what a joke!) If only they knew that we have been using our own savings to make things better for mum...
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    No one wants to sign Power of Attorney

    Mil has had dementia for 15 years but she's done so well. Up until a year ago she could go out and about herself. She is very mobile and eating herself. She can dress herself and pretty independent. Just the usual forgetting etc. We have been trying to get Power of attorney as times going by...
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    Should i stay or should i go!!!

    That's great Tiredhills. And you should do these sort of things more often. You will see how great and energised it makes you feel. It makes you feel more ready for your role as a carer. Good luck Xx Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking Point mobile app
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    Should i stay or should i go!!!

    My mil has incontinence. And no matter if you take her to the toilet before going out. She will still insist she needs to go again later. So you could try it but she will still go. I can understand the sensitivity of son not being able to take his mother to the toilet. The truth is...you all...
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    Less socially acceptable feelings following loss

    I understand it's been hard. And it probably doesn't mean anything to you but...YOU'RE AMAZING! I understand everything you have said. I understand even what you have not said. Take the time to heal and to move forward and find yourself. Hugs xx Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking Point mobile app
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    Put yourself first

    Having been a carer for 10 years I agree with Lisa. The aftermath is like earthquake aftershocks. You might feel it's over but really emotionally it's a whole new can of worms. All the sacrifices and lovely moments you have spent with the PWD feel like it's down the drain. You ignore your...
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    Medication/Incontinence

    I am not sure...but I do know that when we asked the doctor to put up mums dosage for Respiridon used to calm her through the night and minimise the walking about he said a higher dose would make her incontinence worse. Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking Point mobile app
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    Mirtazapine

    May I add wheb we went back to the gp that mil is still not sleeping and alot of confusion and ruckus at night. Gp said if he gave a higher dose she might be calmer and less noisy at night BUT it will make her incontinence worse. Just sharing what I know. Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking...
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    Mirtazapine

    My mil takes that drug. It has helped with behaviourall issues but she still wakes about about 9 times every night to use the toilet. She just has double incontinence and not any other kidney or bladder problems. She does regular relieve herself anywhere around the room even if there's a...
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    How to ease the transition to respite care?

    I can sympathise the feelings of when you put someone for respite for the first time. We did it a few months ago. And we were not prepared at all for how WE would feel. Initially we were excited. We would finally get a break in 10years as a couple and spend some time with our little kids. But...
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    Carer's holiday. What to tell the PWD?

    From personal experience it's better to not say anything. My mil gets very agitated and then starts panicking. So when we do go anywhere we just say bye as normal. Sent from my SM-G925F using Talking Point mobile app
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    Adult nappies

    Hi Faz To be very honest you guys have a very long road ahead of you. Your mil is quite young and this is only the beginning. I suggest you still try your luck with the gp. They will fob you off but you have to keep at it. Get a social worker involved. I noticed that I got more support having...
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    Adult nappies

    Hi Faz I used to buy pads from supermarket for my mil for a few years. Trust me I know how expensive it is. Until some random person advised I can go to the gp and they will refer me to the district nurses ....Anyway few weeks later we managed to get the Abena pull ups for her. We get them every...
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    The endless repeated questions

    Hey SqhirrelNutkin... I can offer you alot of hugs and tell you you're doing an amazing job. We deal with the same thing with my mil. She has some fascination with the toilet and everything to do with it. The questions are repeated many times. I have no advice...because we are still trying to...