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    Antipsychotic drug Quetiapine

    My OH was diagnosed with Alzheimers in 2015. He has, over the years, been on a cocktail of drugs which helped to a degree in the early years but now he is so on edge all the time. He is constantly at work trying to solve problems. If we can get him to sit for 1/2 hour we are doing well. His...
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    Other symptoms

    I agree with the others, you do need to contact your doctor, either by telephone or write a letter listing all your concerns. I did this in the early days of my OH's dementia and once the doctor and surgery knew our problems they were always very helpful. So PLEASE do contact them and ask for...
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    Nursing Homes are refusing to take my husband

    Thankfully the 4th N H came up trumps and accepted my OH. My heart sank when I first went into the building as it is at least 100 years old but I have to say that the care David is receiving is second to none. The unit is smaller and he does seem to be settling. His dementia unit was on the...
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    Can I use some of my husband's funds for essential alterations

    Thank you Marionq and Shedrech for your replies. Some things that need replacing are old windows at the front of the property which are not good quality double glazing. I've received two quotes for replacing like for like or with bay windows. If I go for bay then I know I will need to pay the...
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    Nursing Homes are refusing to take my husband

    Thank you all for your replies,they made very interesting reading. I hadn't realised NH had such a points system but when laid out like you all have I can now see more clearly where the problems may lie. OH is partly incontinent and cannot find his way to the toilet so I've suggested to the...
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    Nursing Homes are refusing to take my husband

    My husband has recently been assessed as requiring nursing care which his CH doesn't provide. The CHC gave me a list of homes that had beds available. I have now had my husband assessed by 3 of them who have come back and said they cannot meet his needs and that he would not fit in with their...
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    Can I use some of my husband's funds for essential alterations

    My husband is at present in a Care Home but will shortly be moving to a Nursing Home (that will be another thread!!). I have downsized to a bungalow and there is about £40,000 to go into an account for my husband. He has just been awarded CHC. There are certain improvements I need to make to...
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    Article on Benefits

    Pension Credit I've not needed to be on Talking Point for a while as I am slowly trying to get some sort of life back since my OH went into permanent care in a NH. I am very grateful that he has settled straight away and is more content there than he was at home. I certainly could not...
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    My husband has gone into permanent care

    Thank you all is well Thank you all for your supportive posts. I am pleased to report that my OH is sooo much happier in the CH than he had been at home over the previous 5 months. This has made me realise that the GP was right in January when she said I had done an amazing job but that it...
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    My husband has gone into permanent care

    After battling on for the last 6 months with my husband's behaviour slowly deteriorating I have finally had to give in and realise that I could no longer give him the care he needed. Our doctor told me in January that it was time to let go, but I couldn't. Over the last 6 months family and...
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    Casbow's Diary.

    Respite care Dear Casbow Do please go ahead with your respite care. I was like you a month ago. My OH's behaviour was getting me down and he managed to get out of the house one rainy evening in his slippers and without a coat on. A neighbour and I searched for him but evenutally had to...
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    Husband in respite care but not settling

    Thanks Pamann. I've read your posts and that you had a breakdown, I felt very close to that last Monday when I couldn't find my husband in the rain. I knew I needed a break but when I ring the home they say he's not settling and now he's wandering during the night, something he rarely did as...
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    Husband in respite care but not settling

    My OH went missing yet again last Monday evening. I couldn't find him so had to call police. This has happened numerous times before and this time was the'straw that broke the camels back' I contacted our social worker and she made arrangements for OH to go iinto respite care on Wednesday...
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    What to do now.

    Oh Casbow I do so feel for you. Life is bad enough trying to cope without having to deal with incontinence. Thankfully my OH hasn't got to that stage yet except that we had one horrible experience when staying with my cousin when I awoke during the night to find him urinating on the bedroom...
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    HELP How do I deal withmy husband's fear and distress

    Too much medication! Well we didn't have a quiet night. David woke after 3 hours sleep and spent the rest of the night getting in and out of bed and constantly walking round the house. I had all keys hidden this time so knew he couldn't come to any harm or get out of the house, so I left him...
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    HELP How do I deal withmy husband's fear and distress

    As I thought, those four nights of peace did not last. Yesterday evening wasn't too bad, just round the block once and was in bed relatively early as he was tired. At least he sleeps well most nights :o This evening has been hell. We had some neighbours in for pre Christmas drinks...
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    HELP How do I deal withmy husband's fear and distress

    More nights of hell Thank you all for your comments and support. The w/e after returning from Morecambe became another stressful one of refusing to come into the house and going off. A neighbour found him one evening at the bottom of our road near a busy main road.I had been driving around...