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    Oh

    Mum has passed away, peacefully. Love you always mum.
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    Oh

    I do feel for you, it's heartbreaking watching, waiting. I hope you find a lovely, caring nursing home
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    Issues with dad's swallowing confirmed.

    Hello Gwendy. My heartfelt best wishes go to you and your family. I am in a similar position as you. My poor mum is in a similar state it's so hard and difficult to cope with x
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    Oh

    Mum is the same really. Sleeping mostly but wakes for short periods. Don't think she is in pain but she tries to move herself round the bed a little. Considering she has had a hip replacement in past few weeks and how weak she must be from no food and the odd spoon of water each day she amazes...
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    Oh

    Hello Carole. Thankyou. Yes mum had a fall and hip replacement and really gone downhill from there. So sad to see. How are you?
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    Oh

    Hi Red I did read your recent posts and understand you have gone through similar with your dad. It's so heartbreaking for all concerned. I hope you are coping. I don't know how mum plods on. Best wishes
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    Oh

    Mum in hospital now having the odd spoon of water not eaten or drank for must be 3 weeks or more. Sleeping. Looks awful. Just skin and bone. Mouthcare but clenched teeth so difficult. We play music, brush her hair I file her nails. I don't know how she goes on. Awaiting a lovely nursing home but...
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    Palliative care chc funding do we need to top up?

    Yes mum has been fast tracked for chic medics say she is end of life care but I think it is around 750 pounds allocated and rest needs to be topped up I think!
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    Palliative care chc funding do we need to top up?

    Wondered if anyone knew if chc funding being funded for end of life care needs a top up. I assumed wrongly I think that all care would now be funded. We need to find mum a nursing home from hospital as previously self funding in carehome. Chc say they fund nursing part of care but we top up...
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    End of life but what now?

    The care home where mum has been is a carehome emi with nursing and mum is self funded. Would they automatically take her back? Or would it need to be another as I'm not sure how much"nursing care" they do. Thank you
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    End of life but what now?

    Mum.been in carehome for 3 years, fell, broke hip, operation , uti, hypodelerium, now not eating, or drinking as can't swallow properly has morphine patch, sleeping and told end of life care, however as now free of infection told today may be fasttracked to nursing home as less likely to get...
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    Continuous care

    Thank you. My problem is the first step. I know the care home manager will be involved but I find her very defensive and always too "busy" so to start a chc would be asking the world. Mum does not have a social worker and is self funded.
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    Who does the chc in a nursing

    Who would actually conduct a continuing health care assessment for my mum in a nursing home? Thank you
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    Continuous care

    Hello. Could I ask cpn or social worker to start a continuous care assessment for my mum or do I have to ask the care home manager to start it? Mum is self funding in nursing home. Thank you
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    What happens when the money runs out?

    Thank you all. I will check with the home first it would be awful for mum to have to move so that would be the last resort.
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    What happens when the money runs out?

    Mum has been in an nursing home for a couple of years. She is self funded but as the money goes down we are not sure what to do ? Dad has joint house with mum, will he need to sell? Do we need to top up when we get to a certain amount of money? I may apply for continuous care at some point as...
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    Mum retreating into herself, dementia worsening

    Mum now seems to be entrenched in her own world, muttering, reading what is not there, seeing people, and not too aware that I am really there now. She nods off quite a lot too now. What is happening in this phase? She is stable on medication and it is thought that her dementia, vascular and...
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    ideas please for things to do during care home visits

    I have always favoured taking mum out of the carehome when I visit. It has seemed to invigorate her and makes for an easier visit and distraction as even after 2 years mum still wants to come home, says she doesn't know anyone there. I think a lot of this is the dementia and she used to say the...
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    taking mum home for a few hours? is it a good idea?

    I know I have asked this before, but mum is so much calmer now with anti psychotics, she has been in emi carehome for 2 years now. Speech gets muddled and some incontinence, difficulty eating, using knife, fork not sure what to do, how to, but mum is still "there". Dad is great, despite being in...
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    My Mom

    Oh Wendy. It's so hArd to see our mum's with this terrible illness. Just giving her a hug and saying you love her must make her happy I do the same with my mum, best wishes