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    close to cracking up can't do it anymore but authorites doing nothng

    thank you all you lovely people. When I read your posts since my last one, I cried a lot. And it comes and goes in waves, naturally, to an un-natural situation. I visited him a few days ago for the first time, and saw, even though he started off complaining about the place/staff etc, that he...
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    close to cracking up can't do it anymore but authorites doing nothng

    update: last week my friend agreed and was moved into a nursing home. A good one. I am left feeling very tearful, redundant, like a loss has just happened. Its hard going past his road knowing he isn't there anymore. I go in his old flat to check post and it's now completely empty. I just...
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    What did you do over Christmas and New Year?

    its been very stressful. today was quieter, for the first time in a long time I could breathe... turned tv on, and to my delight the beginning of a 2 hour programme about Ken Dodd. Made me really smile, I have seen him live twice and met him afterwards, he is such a genius :)
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    close to cracking up can't do it anymore but authorites doing nothng

    thanks so much for your replies and for reading. I have almost walked away - in that he knows I remain his friend even though I am going to be less involved. A lot less. Thank you Alz' Soc' national helpline, and you guys. they know I no longer have any paperwork etc, so when they all...
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    close to cracking up can't do it anymore but authorites doing nothng

    can't cope with all the phone calls daily, the abusiveness, the accusations, the demands, I just can't do it anymore, I'm now on valium and feel like I will have a breakdown. I did not have poa and I have to walk away for my own sanity. I have made it clear in writing and verbally that social...
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    help - almost impossible to handle this

    wow, thanks for all the replies, amazing! thank you all. first, thanks yes he did recently get £300 fuel allowance, he told me when it arrived, but that hasn't stopped him, he still carries on, Apparently I don't understand... ...well I don't!!! Its nonsense, irrational, and ridiculous to...
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    No carers available to give mum breakfast

    please ask social services in your area to supply contact details for other care agencies that deal with your area. Granted some aren't perfect, but care agencies can differ in what/when they offer.
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    help - almost impossible to handle this

    friend lives on his own and has regular carers/full care package, district nurses, etc. I've been reporting his deterioration regularly to doctors, social workers etc. Memory test done about a year ago said cognitive impairment. Since then his memory and his reasoning/logic have severely...
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    clothes - one extreme to the other

    thank you, and I understand and feel for you too. I hope you are not alone in dealing with this, its is a very tricky situation.
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    clothes - one extreme to the other

    its been a long time since my mother passed away, she had advanced dementia, and your post reminded me of something that used to happen with her, that she'd be more agitated late afternoons. Funnily enough this does tend to be the time of day when my friend starts, I will need to keep this in...
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    clothes - one extreme to the other

    thank you. I decided to kinda follow up your suggestion, my friend now has 2 to choose from. I told him the shop made a mistake and got 2 different sizes for me. So far so good...!!
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    clothes - one extreme to the other

    thanks for your reply :) unfortunately the labels need to stay attached and the info on them tends to be huge, but I appreciate your thoughts all the same, thanks
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    clothes - one extreme to the other

    another thing happened recently. I'm wondering if others have experienced it and how best you've coped with it. ok, so my friend says he needs a new shirt, but to get the next size down as the size he has is too baggy. So I tell him I've found one the next size down, its got good reviews...
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    stressed & need to vent

    thanks so much, your reply helps a LOT. yes, distance is important. Having to take the phone off the hook, and cutting down when I visit (he's not alone, he has carers etc). I have now spoken to the carer managers and they will start monitoring too. Today another incident happened & my...
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    The fight is o'er....the battle won.

    I'm so sorry for your loss.
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    Incessant phone calls

    I too remember my mother phoning me a lot, while she wasn't with it, so her calls were full of complete gobbledegook. It cracked me up, I didn't know how to handle it at all. She soon went into another care home where she didn't have access to the phone. It was a relief. Lately, a friend who...
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    stressed & need to vent

    Haven't been on here for a long while, but about a year ago my friend's repetition of telling me about things from his past became more prominent. I wondered if they were early signs, and kept it on the back burner. What I have noticed over the last few weeks is: -my friend keeps...
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    lasting power of attorney queries

    hi there, recently queried this myself. Apparently the courts will appoint a deputy, this deputy would be supervised, and there might be court fees/judge making decision who will be the deputy fees to pay upfront. From what I understand, the judge will appoint a deputy and that could be so I...
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    repeating things - a symptom?

    thanks but no its not a case of not/having things in common or of my friend wanting reassurance and those types of things. He isn't becoming increasingly forgetful about other things. Its repeating the same scenarios to me every time we meet or speak on the phone. I am wondering if...
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    repeating things - a symptom?

    hi here, new to this forum, but glad it is here. I'm a bit concerned about a friend, who's in their 80s and am wondering if this might be an early symptom of something... The friend, every time we meet up or speak on the phone, seems fixated about certain workplace incidents that happened...