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  1. J

    self funded v ss respite care

    My husband was admitted to a Care Home in September 2019. Initially this was for respite. While there he was assessed as being highly dependent. Fortunately there was a vacancy at the home which as a family we agreed upon. Unfortunately the home is very expensive but the care is excellent. It...
  2. J

    Christmas (or other holidays) in the care home

    It's so hard isn't it. A double whammy when one's partner has dementia and enters a care home. First theres relief that they are safe and in my husband's case well looked after (at financial loss to me and my children),then the crushing loneliness after nearly sixty years together hardly ever...
  3. J

    Does the guilt ever stop?

    Of course you feel guilty! I do too! My husband of 57 years has been in a Care Home for three weeks. This started off as respite care, but when he was assessed by Mental Health Team they deemed it necessary that he found a permanent place. I knew in my heart that as a 77 year old lady woman that...
  4. J

    Not coping

    Hi Katy thanks for your reply. Today my husband has been assessed urgently for respite care funded by Social Care. Unfortunately at the same time blood has been found in his urine. I can see him getting weaker day by day. Heart failure, dementia is taking its toll on his health. I do wonder if...
  5. J

    Not coping

    I understand that completely. Still being visited on a daily basis by Crisis Care. Another day yet another visit from them. They say escalating help but it seems to me that it still takes longer than it should. I feel like a zombie.
  6. J

    Not coping

    The situation has escalated. My husband has threatened to commit suicide and tried to leave the house after 10 at night. I have now has dementia nurses here assessing him. They are coming again tomorrow. His case is being escalated by Social Care, which may mean he’ll get more help sooner rather...
  7. J

    Not coping

    My husband cried today as he’s having very bad dreams which are translating in his head to reality. I assume these are hallucinations, is there any helpful medication for this? He’s frightened.
  8. J

    Not coping

    I have just filled in a very complicated form for Attendance Allowance. It was fortunate that I’d kept all the hospital and Mental Health Assessment Forms, as these were needed. I’m not sure how long it takes to get a response an this: I know that we have spent a great deal of money on...
  9. J

    Not coping

    Thank you all for your useful replies. I will be following much of the advice you have given. At least I don’t feel so alone with getting a response from you all. Thank you.
  10. J

    Not coping

    I feel so alone with all the problems around caring for my husband. Although I have good family they are all working full time. My husband will not accept going to a care centre, so I am left doing everything on my own. Am I selfish? This damn illness has escalated so quickly from a fall three...