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    Unhappy home

    Yes I cannot see my dad as my dad. In fact at our Christmas dinner, I asked to be seated where I would not have eye contact with him ! When I do get away I then remember him as he used to be. He tells everyone I am so good to him, and in the same breath tells them he has nobody now, as all his...
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    Unhappy home

    Thankyou for all these helpful comments. It is so difficult to see a man who can shower himself, dress himself, and even do the ironing and peel vegetables. Yet at times he cannot make me understand as in a whole sentence not one word makes sense. Yet if we have visitors he is polite...
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    Unhappy home

    My dad came to live with me a year ago. He is suffering with vascular dementia, and Altzheimers. He does not know who I am, or any of his family. But he has got to know us. But he acts as if he is in a home. Asking 'are you on tomorrow' . Tells me to lock up, and how to feed my dog, and all...
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    Benefits

    thankyou Beate. That's good to know.
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    Benefits

    A simple question. If my dad goes into residential care, will his attendance Allowance still be due and paid directly to the care home.nor will he lose it. All the info I can find is we must inform of change of circumstances, but not what happens.
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    a bit of encouragement amongst all the angst!

    I would buy this. I love silhouette photography/ prints. I will follow the link.
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    Confussed

    Hello Lillyann, I am sorry that you like so many of us on TP have come this point of realisation that something is really amiss. Suddenly all the odd little things that have been happening or have been said begin to build a picture. With my dad I now realise that his dementia had been masked...
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    Activities for dad

    Thanks Mannie, great suggestions. I have never heard of the Dementia Directory. Is it on paper or on line please ?
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    Why do I argue still?

    I just had to laugh. Printing money , the things this disease makes us do !!!
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    Why do I argue still?

    I spend a long time some days avoiding eye contact as well, and therefore discussion as well.
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    Why do I argue still?

    yes, it is so hard. Then the blank expression when you try to reason, and wonder where that person is? They are still there but so hard to reach at times. What a tormenting illness for sufferers and careers alike.m
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    Why do I argue still?

    thankyou Mrs Terry. My dad is not ready for a nursing home yet, but not able to cope alone. He has a rose tinted memory of being in his own home. When he was there all he did was moan about being alone, not seeing anybody etc etc it wasn't true. Now he is mostly happy with me, but insists he...
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    Why do I argue still?

    My dad has always been such a generous man so it is difficult to take on. He put me on his bank account last year so I could sort his finances. He cannot believe he has money, when I show him a bank statement he thinks it is not rights then he thinks he has to move out from me because he cannot...
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    Why do I argue still?

    Thank you so much for your responses. I felt hard and cold until I read them, then I crumbled and felt sad, but ok again. My dad no longer knows I am his daughter. Talks about me to me ! What is the obsession with money all about please ?
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    Why do I argue still?

    Thank you so much for your responses. I felt hard and cold until I read them, then I crumbled and felt sad, but ok again. My dad no longer knows I am his daughter. Talks about me to me ! What is the obsession with money all about please ?
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    Why do I argue still?

    Am I really the only person who has had a logical argument with the person you are caring for, knowing full well it is pointless but you still have to let your feelings made clear ? Well I have tonight. Not feeling especially good about myself but struggling to find a way forward for both of...
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    It's not always bad

    What a lovely surprise. Yes hold onto that day :-)
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    Perseverance is but a part of life

    Barry you are very talented indeed, and obviously enjoy baking and sharing what you make. It must be lovely to be able to immerse yourself in something you enjoy doing so much. Keep fighting !
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    Activities for dad

    He would like doing things with wood, but he suffers with arthritis in his hands. As do I. Sanding no good for that. I do get him to polish furniture tho !
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    Activities for dad

    Thank you a Chook. It is horrible having to hear or see things you would never want to. You wonder where the world as you knew it is going don't you. It changes minute to minute some days. Glad to be talking to people on here. X