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    MIL Very aggressive

    Hi again Not been on for a while MIL been ok but very frail now but still eating well until yesterday morning . The home phoned to say they had called an ambulance . Hospital and diagnosed a stroke . No change today hasn’t opened her eyes not speaking just a moan now and again . Left side...
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    MIL Very aggressive

    Poor MIL now very frail has chest infection now more antibiotics . Not been eating much but I managed to get her to eat mash and a little bit of veg but couldn’t manage chicken . Just hate seeing her so frail she went back to bed after her lunch bless her she was exhausted . How much more can...
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    chest infections

    Visited my MIL today she had a UTI a couple of weeks .Now has a chest infection She’s very frail and hadn’t been eating very well. I fed her some mash potatoes and vegetables but she couldn’t manage the chicken casserole which was very tender. She just asked to go back to bed after lunch she was...
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    MIL Very aggressive

    Doctor has put her on a low dose of an antidepressant and will revisit in 2 weeks and up the dose if necessary . Apparently these will help her sleep which will help. So hopefully be better when I visit Saturday .
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    MIL Very aggressive

    Doctor seeing her Tuesday I hope
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    MIL Very aggressive

    Her nails are short I check them every week . E 45 has been part of her treatment since day 1 . Her skin is so very thin now . Feel so helpless phones the home this afternoon she has settled a bit in her room now
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    MIL Very aggressive

    Yes Yes she has her nails short her skin is so flimsy and E45 is rubbed in every day
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    MIL Very aggressive

    Visited my MIL in the home today . She’s getting worse now . Had nothing on her feet plasters on where she had scratched herself he skin is paper thin . They were taking her back to her room as she is getting really aggressive with everyone . They said they couldn’t get her slippers or socks on...
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    Coping Strategies - conversation routines

    Hi Scout Girl No yout not heartless at all. I visited my mil today as I do every week. It's breaks my heart she has bruises where she keeps fighting with her twin sister who is also in the same place. She can no longer see as her eyesight has gone with macular degeneration. She looked so tired...
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    Help with Self employed carer

    They are funded under direct payment.She pays her own Tax and NI and invoices us. We have at last reached a compromise and are going to see if Social Services can put them in a home together I can at least rest easy, I wasn't get an individual in through an agency I was getting an agency in to...
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    Help with Self employed carer

    carpe diem Thats exactly what I have done. I spent the whole day getting quotes from agencies for live in care. Mailed them over and got told that we seem to be at cross purposes they though I was getting the agency for the 3 days off every two weeks. I cant make them understand we need...
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    Help with Self employed carer

    Hi Tin Yes it is a nightmare I have tried to come up with a solution to keep the twins together and that would be to get an agency in They could both stay in their home job done. The problem is the other family are not prepared to get rid of the present carer. So that has put us in this...
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    Help with Self employed carer

    Can I say we do pay a fantastic rate which is what she wanted
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    Help with Self employed carer

    Hi Kevin no Im not surprised We didnt expect a carer 24/7 365 she has holidays no probs. She acyually does less hours than when she started. With the 2 hours she has off she does about 7 to 8 hours she spends quite a lot of time in bedroom watching tv . The problem with her having 3 days...
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    Help with Self employed carer

    Hi This was her choice we wanted to have 2 carers she wanted to do it on her own. i do think asking for six days off every 4 weeks is unreasonable. She gets up at 10 am and they are in bed at 8pm no records have been kept although I have made repeated requests she is just not the same person...
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    Help with Self employed carer

    The carer is shared the other twin who has dementure, Yes she has 2 hours break per day. Thursdays she has from9am to 3pm when ladies are at day care. Not up until 10 am and the ladies are in bed by 8pm. She is Live in . When she is sick I have had to cover. Its fine having different carers but...
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    Help with Self employed carer

    Hi Everyone, I am at my wits end. My MIL lives with her twin sister they are 96. We have a self employed PA who is part funded b y Social Services. My MIL Altzheimers is getting worse. The carer is really now decided that she wants every other Friday Saturday and Sunday off returning on...
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    MIL fussy with foof

    Mother in law is now very fussy with food one minute she likes something next minute she hates it . She was always a good eater now not much at all . Have got complain from doctors . She is now saying she doesn't want to be here anymore . It doesn't help that her eyesight is failing very quickly...
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    Private care at home

    Hi my mother in law is on the direct payment system but has deteriorated fast so needs more care . I have payments via the direct payments system and employ s private carer . She now needs extra help so I have to have a new review . I believe that now there is a new criteria for assessment...