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  1. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Username My username is going to be changing.
  2. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Amazing, isn't it, how these truly horrible sons get away with what they do ...
  3. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Oh yes - many times. I might as well bang my head against a brick wall. This past weekend, my father got really worried as he thought that I was going to leave.
  4. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    My parents treat my brother as though he is a god. They always have.
  5. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    The lady who is in charge of carers in the area is aware of the situation, as are my Alzheimer's support worker and my GP. They are all supportive. If I had money I would walk away immediately!
  6. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Thanks everybody. Your support means a lot xx
  7. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Things are going quite slowly, but I am making progress. The main problem is benefits. I am thinking that a live-in job is the way to go initially.
  8. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    I haven't been able to call the Legal Services yet as I have been ferrying my mother around and running errands and shortly have to go to the doctor - on my own behalf, and to tell her about the situation. I should have some free time tomorrow morning, so will call then. Storage starts at...
  9. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    I am definitely not saying anything to anyone in my family about what I am thinking and doing. I have never been a devious kind of person so it is alien to me to be kind of sneaking around. I am feeling kind of nauseous today - everything that I have to do is running around my head. :eek: Deep...
  10. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Thank you all so much. Your help and support is priceless. I have spoken to my Alzheimer's Groupe support worker at length and she is backing me all the way. She says that she has encountered many people in similar situations, but so far I am the only one who is doing something about it - so...
  11. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    I really appreciate all the advice that has been given. My feeling at the weekend was that I just wanted to run. I knew that this was not the way, but I was too much of a mess to come up with a viable plan. I've made an appointment with my GP and have found the Refuge website. I have...
  12. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Thank you so much. I now feel that I have some kind of structure to work to. I am still feeling sick but I am further forward than I was yesterday.
  13. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Thank you so much. This is really helpful, and just what I needed. I do not have a job, and my birthday has just gone. I do the shopping. I feel that I can now start making a list of things to do.
  14. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    My father refuses to go to any kind of day care. I know that if I leave there will be no coming back, but I have to think of myself.
  15. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    Thank you for your reply. I am feeling very isolated as it is a question of the three of them against me. My parents will not hear a word against my brother, who is a very unpleasant person. While I can't see the wood for the trees, I have got to the point where I know I have to get out for my...
  16. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    I am thinking the same way, but I want the reasons documented. I need to make a plan, but am a bit wobbly at the moment. I will see about contacting Social Services.
  17. Testona

    Advice please. Mother and brother are making my life hell.

    My father has dementia. I live in my parents' house. I do not get on with my mother, who is very difficult, and my brother is a black cloud, who is verbally abusive to me when he does speak to me, and who is capable of physical violence. I receive Carers Allowance for my father. My mother is...
  18. Testona

    Lack of sleep

    He did this morning. This is a new thing. The sign might help, but on the other hand he seems to be St the stage where he doesn't see what he is looking at. I made it to the funeral I had to go to, but cannot attend the wake. My brother has left his dog here for two nights and I am almost...
  19. Testona

    Lack of sleep

    He always wakes before it goes off. Then he gets up without unsetting it and it wakes me up. I will have to do s you suggest and then hope that he doesn't manage to reset it. I have been trying to get some rest after bringing him back from the doctor but I am too wound up. I am supposed to be...
  20. Testona

    Lack of sleep

    I'll have to come up with a way to wean him off the calendar!