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  1. Emomam

    Mum's funeral tomorrow

    Oh 2jays you have made me laugh. I don't know whether I'm coming or going either. Thanks for the messages makes me feel normal. I didn't cry after my dad died either I went into action mode carrying out probate, sorting mum out, moving in to look after her. I will probably do the same to...
  2. Emomam

    Mum's funeral tomorrow

    After nearly seven years of caring for mum tomorrow is the day I've been dreading. It makes it so final. I have cried once since she died and I'm not sure what I feel. My sister cries at the drop of a hat and is really annoyed with that and I feel nothing. My sleeping pattern is all over the...
  3. Emomam

    End of life - mum fighting it at 69

    Well said jorgieporgie. We need to know more about this disease to combat it.
  4. Emomam

    End of life - mum fighting it at 69

    Chloe and sadscot. Please don't beat yourself up about whether you did enough. Please remember that this disease kills the brains functions. We can't see what's happening inside just the result of it. Not eating, sleeping more, loss of speech. There is nothing we could have done to help...
  5. Emomam

    Last weeks

    I've just spent the last 8 weeks with mum in bed, two bouts of pneumonia but talking all the time. We were told after the second visit to hospital that she should be treated as end of life care from then on as we could keep on taking her to hospital and having iv antibiotics and fluids l, watch...
  6. Emomam

    End of life - mum fighting it at 69

    So sorry chloe, we did the same and mum went yesterday too. Remember you gave your mum all the support she needed and all the love in the world. Like me you were probably able to tell her everything you wanted to say to her and most importantly, she felt safe, secure and lived right until the...
  7. Emomam

    Pneumonia

    Mum passed away peacefully yesterday. Me and my sister were with since Friday. We talked and talked and included her in the comversation although she was unconcious with the morphine. She finally went after we had decided on the funeral arrangements and I think we were ready for her to go...
  8. Emomam

    Dad finally at peace

    So sorry for your loss. I think it's very normal to feel relieved and sad at the same time.
  9. Emomam

    End of life - mum fighting it at 69

    Same here chloe. Mum has during drive and very peaceful now. I hope it won't be long it wouldn't be fair after the suffering so long with dementia. Holding your hand virtually to give you strength and me.
  10. Emomam

    Pneumonia

    We had to go straight to syringe driver as diamorphine injections not enough. She's comfortable now and sleeping peaceful but still with us. I rang my sister this morning when I got there and she heard mum shouting. She got straight in the car and came over so we have been with mum all day...
  11. Emomam

    Update on George

    I had shingles and it can be pretty painful. I had lots of pain relief but the one thing that eased the rash was calomine lotion which I put on cotton wool and dabbed on. Very soothing. I didn't have flu like syptoms but I did have a very bad headache for weeks. Cold face cloth helped...
  12. Emomam

    End of life - mum fighting it at 69

    You are not alone. Chloe you are probably younger than me as my mum is 85 on Monday and I'm going through the same thing as you. You are not alone and neither am I. The knowledge on this site is invaluable and the support amazing. I only signed up 2 years ago when mum went in the CH, like...
  13. Emomam

    Pneumonia

    We are starting the just in case meds tomorrow as mum is shouting out in pain we think, definitely agitated and very upset. She keeps shouting my name and holding me. The last two days have nearly finished me off. Thank god for the staff who are there for both mum and me. My husband has just...
  14. Emomam

    Pneumonia

    Been with mum quite a bit this weekend and she is deteriorating before my eyes. I asked the care home to get her up in the morning but she can't cope with that and hates the hoist. So I'm going to leave her in bed now drifting in and out of sleep. She had dome soup followed by icecream for...
  15. Emomam

    The roller coaster of the end

    These TOB'S are amazing and I have no idea where their strength comes from. We do what we can but I wish we didn't have to but there again we wouldn't have had this time with them and I wouldn't change that. I've had some of the best and worst times with mum over the last 6 years just like you...
  16. Emomam

    Pneumonia

    Had a chat with the doctor and been told that we should maybe approach future health issues as end of life. Not suprised really but as I see from other posts it's not a necessarily the end. She is very chesty and likely to remain so and also has an irregular heart beat plus in the later stages...
  17. Emomam

    Pneumonia

    Thank you again. Mum doing well and should be released again tomorrow. When I went on holiday this time a put an envelope together for my sister in case anything happened. It contains relatives names and addresses, mums will, her funeral wishes sling with undertakers details. My step...
  18. Emomam

    Pneumonia

    Well we are back at the hospital on a Saturday night. The pneumonia started to get worse again so the wonderful staff at the care home called the paramedics. Most of the same staff were on duty at the hospital so knew her. They also reassured me that it's quite normal for pneumonia to take...
  19. Emomam

    The roller coaster of the end

    I've just been on holiday for 10 days in Mexico. I didn't even decide I would go until the day before we flew. I panicked as mum had been in bed for 5 weeks and I thought if I didn't go every day she would decline and give up. I hard regular updates from the home and managed to relax for a...
  20. Emomam

    Pneumonia

    Thanks for all the positive messages. Mum now released back to care home and I'm on my way home tomorrow (didn't change my flight). This forum is so important for every one. Nothing worse than feeling alone in a difficult situation. Thanks again for your support.