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    Feeling lost and empty

    I know how you feel but you will get through this. Giving your dads eulogy is such a statement of your love for him and I am sure you will do him proud. Thinking of you for tomorrow and I do believe that a funeral is a wonderful way to say goodbye. Like you said its the build up that takes...
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    Dads funeral tomorrow

    I am so glad everything went well for you.
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    Dads funeral tomorrow

    I'm sure you'll make your dad proud reading his eulogy. Its such a long time before his funeral, it just prolongs the agony. Thinking of you lots of love xx
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    Dads funeral tomorrow

    I got through it without crying!! I was so worried cos I have been crying at the strangest times at home. I think it helped that one of my nutty relations who is profoundly deaf and schizophrenic suddenly burst into song at the first hymn. It was the worst singing I have ever heard and a few...
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    So here we are

    I am so sorry you have to go through so much pain and upset over your dads death. I hope things get easier very soon. As for paying for the funeral I too am going through the exact same thing. My dad did have a life insurance policy but only for £980 which will not begin to cover it. His...
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    Dads funeral tomorrow

    My Dad passed away on 27 Dec and his funeral is tomorrow afternoon. I am dreading it. I am such an emotional wreck at the moment but I really really want to stay strong throughout it and not cry in public. I want to be there for my mother and my daughter who worshipped her gramp. Any tips on...
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    My dads gone

    Thank you for all your comments. Today has been a quiet day but tomorrow when everything is open and working after the hols will be difficult. Dealing with the practicalities is all new to me. Also have to clear out his room in the care home. Not looking forward to it at all.
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    He is at peace, but I'm so lost.

    I am so so sorry for your loss x
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    My dads gone

    My poor dad finally stopped fighting and died 3 hours ago. Not sure how I feel. Sad obviously but also relieved hes not struggling and suffering any more. Is this normal?
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    Is this the end?

    Thank you everyone for your support. It means so much coming from others in similar circumstances - unfortunately you all understand the emotions family goes through. Just come back from visiting my dad only to find another iv has been put in with fluids and antibiotics attached!!! When I went...
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    Is this the end?

    Oh Shazedge Im so sorry you have been through this nightmare and so recently too. Its heartbreaking but in reality there is no escape until the end. Finally got some answers today. Asked for a meeting with the consultant in charge of my dad. Luckily she came onto the ward purely by chance...
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    Is this the end?

    Thank you for your reply. What criteria has to met for palliative care to be allowed. I will be going up tomorrow afternoon straight from work so hope to start things rolling.
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    Is this the end?

    Thank you for your kindness. I can't believe I'm actually wanting treatment to stop so my loving dad passes away. What kind of person have I become.
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    End of life? How long, it's so painful

    My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time x
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    Is this the end?

    I spoke to the staff nurse and explained everything that had happened and been said by the dr on the other ward ie withdrawing treatment after 48 hrs if no improvement. She said she'd ask the dr to speak to me but he was busy and so she said he'd speak to me tomorrow. However my mother managed...
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    Is this the end?

    Thank you fizzie. He is having one to one but he gets so angry he rips them out. He has had a permanent catheter for several months and still tries to rip that out and has dislodged it several times.
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    Is this the end?

    Thank you TinaT. I am in despair. How can people be allowed to suffer like this. In my head Ive pleaded with God to take him, then got angry at him for allowing this to happen then tried bargaining with him!!! How foolish I am. Apparently they have managed to get iv antibiotics in him a...
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    Is this the end?

    My dad was admitted to hospital last tuesday with a uti. His dementia is such that he refuses medication. He was so poorly they managed to get iv in and administered one dose of antibiotics and fluid however once awake he pulled iv out. We were told by a dr that they would continue to treat...
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    Dad needs reassessing before he can return to care home

    Thank you for taking the time to reply. I am going to look into CHC it just all seems very daunting.
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    Dad needs reassessing before he can return to care home

    Thank you. In bed, no sign of sleep but did eat a crunchie.