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    Alleged assault

    some good ideas here thank you so much, manager is off till monday so not much hope of meeting until then. its not like mum to make an accusation like this, but she no recollection of it anyway, thank you so much I'll let you know what happens x
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    Alleged assault

    Mum is CHC funded with an additional 6 hours a day one to one in a nursing home. the one to one is provided by an outside agency. The girl is a lovely calm and engaging who is there most days and does activities etc. when distressed and anxious the other day mum told a member of staff (when the...
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    CHC funding

    Update Spoken to SW yesterday and all evidence from medics show 1 TO 1 care so thats what we are going for to CHC, wish me luck folks and I'll keep you posted :) I love a battle !! using the legislation etc I don't mean fisty cuffs. mum continues to improve against all the odds - just needs...
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    A family at war

    hi there, its horrid I can't think of another word for it how people can change and make things so hard. I've learned the hard way and know now I wished I'd got power of attorney - there seemed little point at the time, relationships limped on. mum has always lived with me until earlier this...
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    CHC funding

    no worries wobbly :) sister there at the min so I'm making my way now. CHC assessment will be done soon because mum is on an acute ward and they will want her off it. they are thinking of moving her to a psychiatric ward but not sure it will be safe for her. this way they can monitor her mads...
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    Stages of dementia

    I'm sorry I have to say this!! In march I gave in and found a home for mum she was termed as at the severe end of severe - mum has just had 2 major falls resulting in a massive bleed on the left brain, consultant amazed at her recovery because they said she wouldn't survive. my sister has never...
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    CHC funding

    thank you for your comments there is some advice in there that I didn't know. so I can look out for things now. just going up to the hospital now- lets see what difference it makes now!! every day brings a different challenge - I will let you know how i go on. BTW I'm not completely new here...
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    CHC funding

    I finally let mum go into a home - mum has terrible anxiety, the sundowning is very difficult to manage and various meds have been trialed. mums had 2 very serious falls resulting in 2 massive bleeds on her left side of her brain, dr amazed that she has pulled through, but the pressure on her...
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    Dementia relaxtion techniques

    I've thought of trying something, mum likes getting her hair don by me I've always done it since I was 10. also likes her hands being groomed. I have a friend who does Reiki and will try this when she gets back off holiday. When mum gets anxious with the sundowning then I don't think anything...
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    Much better care needed in homes

    I am exhausted at the moment, my mum has just moved to a care home a week ago so very mixed feeling at the moment. I am a campaigner of disability rights because I have a daughter who is disabled. When I've rested I would be more than willing to help campaign - its awful that we cannot be...
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    Lorazapam and Citalopram: Does anyone know whether these drugs are effective?

    I agree when mum started taking it they said it would take about 4 weeks to work mum was as happy as anything in a week tops xx
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    More and More Mum is "Wanting to go home"

    There's so much good advice for people who can get about, but my mum was unable to and lost so many cognitive skills and it took all of us to keep her occupied - my mum was a party animal, so keeping her happy took a lot of effort ......
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    Lorazapam and Citalopram: Does anyone know whether these drugs are effective?

    hi there, my mum has been on Citalopram for 4 years and it made her so happy after a while we increased it because we felt her mood was slipping back. Mum has been really ill for the last 6 months and anxiety had already started before this and we have tried a few drugs but recently 3/4 weeks...
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    funding for EMI nursing ??

    Can anyone tell me if EMI nursing is more expensive to social services than general nursing or residential please?
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    More and More Mum is "Wanting to go home"

    we've gone through this stage and I have done what you are doing, what i did done eventually is let her get her coat and shoes on bag at her side and explained that its raining and cold outside and that it would be better to go in the morning. saying please stay with me and we'll have a cuppa...
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    40 hours without sleep and counting .. help!!

    Raggedrobin the mental health team said that the pain is redoubtably making the dementia worse, also pain does not always register in the same way... also when you've given meds and the pain subsides i've found mum keeps saying 'please help me ' over and over like a broken record and i know...
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    Sad news.

    Ah I am sorry to hear this, I dread the day for us. I hope in time things will get better for you. sending love x
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    40 hours without sleep and counting .. help!!

    I am really moved by all of your replies. how difficult things have been you all/ there is just nothing to prepare us for this, is there..... Mum has been up and down since I last made a comment, some nights they relax her and she sleeps and also the next day, or it doesn't so very up and...
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    40 hours without sleep and counting .. help!!

    thank you for replying I have my daughter for support tonight, mum is just chatting away and wanting her shoes to go out, she's having conversations with various people . she is unable to move her mobility has gone and her upper body is weak. it was the mental health psych that came out from the...
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    40 hours without sleep and counting .. help!!

    Hi there. we have been having very troubled nights with mum who was 90 last week. GP has tried some meds and have now decided to give sleeping tablets permanently, mental health team doc came out and decided to give Trazodone early evening to relax mum because if we just give her the sleeping...