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  1. K

    Needing nursing home?

    Thank you Thank you all so very much for the messages and support. Have not been on since with all the funeral to arrange and everything that comes with it. I am of course sad, but as mentioned, Mom's horrible existance has ended (and it was an existance, not a life) and I have to believe...
  2. K

    Needing nursing home?

    Mom has gone Thank you all for your support. Mom passed away yesterday evening. The torture of watching her last hours was almost to much to bear but I have been there for the last 4 years and wanted to see it through. My Brothers and dad had left at tea time and it was just me and Mom at...
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    Needing nursing home?

    Update Iwant to say thank you all so much for your help. Sadly its unlikely Mom will recover. I had a phone call yesterday to say a rapid deteriation and to come in and see mom. Also my Brother was going away for weekend and doctor told him its not a good idea. Mom is in a very deep sleep...
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    Needing nursing home?

    Thank you Thank you all so much for your time. I went in today and the home had called out GP. Mom has been sent to hospital this afternoon. Initial findings are low blood pressure/oxygen levels and a chest infection suspected-awaiting confirmation by x-ray. She looks very unwell. I feel...
  5. K

    Needing nursing home?

    Hi All I have not been on the boards for some time and hope you kind people may be able to help me. Mom, Vas.Dementia with evidence Of Alz as well, aged 84 and diagnosed about 2 years ago following stroke. Had another stroke in Dec 08 after falling out of bed in care home (or perhaps...
  6. K

    Shall I leave Mom in care where she is safe?

    Thanks Thank you for the replys. I do apologise in the delay as my PC was in for repair, got 13 big time virus's on it, teenage sons and downloading music I am told by repair company! You did all help me and yes it had crossed my mind Dad is in early stages too, his long term memory and...
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    Shall I leave Mom in care where she is safe?

    Hi Thank you for your advice. They wont let Dad visit Mom as he has active MRSA and I can see their point. It does unsettle her when I take her home to visit him rather than hospital and in some ways seems madness in itself. She cries and plays up when she has to go back.I just think its the...
  8. K

    Shall I leave Mom in care where she is safe?

    Hi All Have not been on for ages as have had such a hectic time this year with my parents it is untrue. I will try to briefly explain the situation and wonder is anyone can advise please. Mom 82 diagnosed with vascular dementia and capras syndrome last year. She is moderate-severe now. Dad...
  9. K

    Paying for home care?

    Hi All Wonder if anyone can help me (again) To recap Mom 83, vascualar dementia with evidence of AD. Lives with Dad, 81 who in not good health really as in need of new knee and dealing with new one 2 yrs ago after getting 3 hospital infections, so not the best result but mobile. I...
  10. K

    A promise I cant keep?

    Thanks for messages Hi All Can I say a big thank you for taking the time to reply. Things are horrendous really and I think Dad is just so mixed up he is asking these sorts of things and worrying all the time and its just awful. He is seriously worrying me now. He wants to show me where...
  11. K

    A promise I cant keep?

    Hi All I have not been on the boards for a while and I am a bit embarrassed to be back now because I have a problem. I do "lurk" and read the posts but mostly dont feel experienced enough to really reply to many posts. Anyway to recap, Mom 83 and diagnosed april of this year with vascular...
  12. K

    Absent siblings!

    Hi All Hi Just wanted to send thanks for the input to my thread. Sorry its rather late but I know you all will understand that time is not always a luxury of ours :) I have been down a bit, brothers wedding last weekend and Mom tried her best but was mostly unaware of what was happening...
  13. K

    Absent siblings!

    Hi All I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this. I suppose I am aiming this moreso at people on here whose parent has this illness. Has anyone else been totally taken for granted by their siblings and left to do everything? and if so why? Mom has vascular dementia...
  14. K

    Mom's "imposter" is explained.

    Hi Thank you milly and jenniferpa. I am going to ring the psychiatrist at 9am today. Mom is now 100% convinced Dad is dead and keeps asking when the funeral is so this is not a blip that is going away. Thank you foryour input. Best wishes to everyone, K xxx
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    Mom's "imposter" is explained.

    Thanks Hi All Thank you for your replies, Deborah and Grannie, thanks for your thoughts. Skye, totally agree it is facinating and as you say a pity we are so involved. Marlene and Kathleen, I will speak to CPN and get drugs upped I think. Saw Doc thurs,when given other diagnosis, and...
  16. K

    Mom's "imposter" is explained.

    Hi All Just thought I would write an update to maybe help anyone new to this disease who has been puzzled and confused by their relative seeing their spouse as an "imposter" My Mom now also has a diagnosis of "Capgras syndrome",a delusion that someone close to you has been replaced by an...
  17. K

    Hardly walking now

    Hi Thank you all so much for your replies. It does help to read of other peoples experiences. She did go back to Docs yesterday for unrelated problem and my Dad mentioned her legs/walking and it was put down to her age and the condition. I will contact SS again for mobility aids and maybe this...
  18. K

    It WAS too good to be true

    Thanks Thank you all for your replys. It does help greatly.Can I apologise also for having two threads going at same time, I started a new one and came on this one to acknowledge my replys and say thanks. I dont want to take over the boards, ooopsssss:) Take care everyone K xxx
  19. K

    Hardly walking now

    Hi All Wonder if anyone can help me? My Mom 82 and has quite late diagnosed VaD and patchy AZ. Last few weeks has been saying her legs just are not working and are giving away on her. Doctor referred her back to vascular clinic where in the past she has had by-pass on legs and more...
  20. K

    It WAS too good to be true

    Hi Thanks for the replys, sorry its late as things a little hectic at present. She does take her medication yes as Dad sees to that, I think it is just the condition winning over the drugs. I suppose in my own mind thats what progressive means. Best wishes to everyone. Kxxx