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    Dad

    Visited Dad today, he's been good for quite a few days now. However as soon as clapped eyes on him tonight I knew something wasn't right but I can't say what. He was slumped in his chair, barely on the same planet as the rest of us. I couldn't get him to sit up and he looked through me like I...
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    Been Away

    Hi I'm feeling better today, not so down, many thanks for your kind words, it helps to know you can let things out and you all know how it really feels, this disease is insidious. On the positive side Dad has improved as much as he can and is smiley today. He can't communicate any more but...
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    Been Away

    Hello All I've been away from the site for a while but still continue to watch my Dad struggle through stage 7 of Vac/AD. I was pulled back to this site as I don't know what else to do. Is that selfish? Today he had a grand mal seizure and it terrified me, just watching him laying there...
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    herediatary??

    Herediatary Hi All My Grandfather was diagnosed with 'Senile Dementia' when I was 12 and my memories of it are not so good. Dad has been diagnosed for 5 years now with AD and my darling aunt (dad's younger sister) has recently passed away after suffering Lewy Bodies for 2 years. I have...
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    Foreign staff in care homes..

    Foreign Staff Hi Charly My Dad's home have recently employed quite a number of care assistants from Poland. At first I was unsure of how this would work given the fact that they didn't speak alot of English and the residents didn't really comprehend very much either. I have to say...
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    when you have lost a dad?

    Dear Susan I really feel for you, I have given up trying to get the rest of the family to go to the nursing home. They all have their reasons (or excuses!) why, I am the only one who goes. Yes it hurts most days but sometimes it's not so bad. I too feel ill at the smell in there, turns...
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    Wheee! Highlight of the day

    Hi All The highlight of my day was last Tuesday, Dad had his 12 week review after moving into full nursing care. If was great, he looks so much better, putting on weight, is relaxed and smiley. Did my heart good and I walked out for the first time feeling as okay as I could be knowing he's...
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    I'm Back

    Hi All I've been away for a while, the intention was to get some respite from Dad's AD, it was a tough decision to make. I moved to Spain to be with my partner who moved out there in January only to find out within two weeks of me being there he had another woman in his life. To say it was...
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    Cracking Up

    Hi Everyone I would just like to say thankyou for all your replies, it has helped me cope more than you will ever know. Dad was better today, abit more relaxed and smiley so my heart eased abit. Take care, and thanks for listening to my woes. Nel
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    Cracking Up

    I visited my Dad today and was met for the first time with 'Who are you. go away'. I though my heart was going to break and even writing this the tears are streaming. I smiled and talked gently and carried on with my visit as if nothing was wrong, inside, I just can't find the words to explain...
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    what happens next?

    Hi Guys I agree, these moments are priceless and keep you going through the bad bits. I sometimes feel I give my Dad too many sweet things, but what the hell, he doesn't have many pleasures left in life so I give him whatever he enjoys. Enjoys the special moments, keep them close to your...
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    what happens next?

    What Happens Next Hi Karen Hope the Jaffa cakes work, the mini ones are the easiest to try. My brother is home on a visit from Spain, he will go see Dad every day whilst he is here, but he only comes home twice, sometimes 3 times a year so he can re-charge the emotional batteries. He...
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    Applying for Blue Badge

    Blue Badge After Dad was diagnosed with AD I applied for a blue badge as there is never any room to park at the local hospital, and it is so difficult getting him in and out of the car. Completed the application form with the relative details of AD and the badge was with me within a few weeks...
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    what happens next?

    What happens next Hi Karen My Dad is in an EMI unit as well, he eats like a horse but is consistently loosing weight. He is 82 now and loves Jaffa cakes and Maltesers, I take them in regularly and he munches away happily and still eats his meals. The look on his face when he has his first...
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    To visit - or not to visit?

    Not to Visit Hi Everyone, I too have the same dilemma, my sons who are 18 & 20 do not visit their grandfather much at all. They say it's not that they don't care but cannot handle the disease or the environment of the care home and other residents. Whilst I respect their decision it...
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    when is it time to go into a care home?

    Hi April It is the most difficult and heartbreaking decision my brother and I have ever had to make. We decided to place Dad in a care home after hours, days, weeks of soul searching and tears. My brother lives in Spain and I travel up and down the country with my job so could not look...
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    Redefining friends

    Friends I have close friends, but at the same time they are distant. They ask how my Dad is but that's as far as it goes, I think they find it difficult to understand and don't know what to say if I get upset. I am always concious of being negative and try not to sound too depressing, so...