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    Update on my situation

    Yep, just sent it. :D
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    Update on my situation

    On the 3rd August I sent in a new application for Attendance Allowance for my mother. Yesterday, 22nd, I got a reply confirming that my application was successful! Third time lucky! When I filled in the form I just gave them 2 A4 pages detailing the things I do for her plus any incidents that...
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    Mum with alzheimer's

    I've literally just now started my own thread on this exact same situation. I had no idea so many of us share this particular experience. When I read how many others had it, I started to cry. It brought it home just what's going on; I think I'm still in denial.
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    what do I do?

    Mum sits there in a coat, saying she's waiting to go home. I tell her she is home, and she says "I know that". I ask her if she knows who I am and where she is, and she says yes and gets defensive, almost offended by the question. She seems utterly confused, and so am I. She goes to day care...
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    Hi, am I in the right place?

    Thank-you for all your kind words. Sorry I was late replying. I promise I will re-apply for AA. I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks again.
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    Hi, am I in the right place?

    I understand why people are telling me to recall the worst day, not the best. I've been told that before, by Social Services themselves. My problem is I think her worst day - or my worst day - is still not bad enough to justify AA. Or maybe I'm just too damn honest. I always remember someone...
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    Hi, am I in the right place?

    I think she would be considered a vulnerable adult, and I have serious concerns about leaving her alone for too long. Recently a water pipe burst and it was dripping through the ceiling of a downstairs cupboard. I got a plumber and got it fixed. If she had been alone I seriously doubt she would...
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    Recommended thread Compassionate Communication with the Memory Impaired

    DON'T Don’t reason. Don’t argue. Don’t confront. Don’t remind them they forget. Don’t question recent memory. Don’t take it personally. Thanks for these guidelines! That's where I'm going wrong. I do all these. At some point you understand the futility of it all and it gradually sinks...
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    Hi, am I in the right place?

    Thanks for all your kind words and support, I am in tears. I am terrible at asking for help and will always try to just grin and bear it alone. I did have someone from Social Services come to make an assessment, she filled in the Attendance Allowance forms herself. The last time I applied, they...
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    Hi, am I in the right place?

    I don't even know if I'm in the right place. My name is Tim. My mother is 80 and she was diagnosed with dementia/Alzheimer's maybe 5 years ago . (I was told dementia is a form of Alzheimer's, and that Alzheimer's is a form of dementia, and I am still none the bloody wiser!). After that she was...