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    When hes good he's very very good....

    But when he is bad he is awful.. Its been a while with OH on this level but I think.. No I know he has taken a step down. His language skills are worse , his obession with routine is worse , his memory is worse and his temper and behaviour are much worse and the outside world is being shunned...
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    Dealing with strangers

    Im actually very honest with all the people that suddenly seem to be in my life because of OH's dementia.. Ive told them I am an antisocial isolationist and would prefer to be on a island with my dog. I ty to keep contact to a minimum and arrange calls or appointments on a day when I know...
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    Talking rubbish

    Thing is quite often the things they want to say mean sense when formulated but just dont come out right.. Yesterday as I walked up to our office OH said ' are you putting the tabloids on the table'? (translation are you puttng the photos onto the pc.) or 'shall I shut the letterboxes'? the...
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    To tell or not to tell

    If you think you can trust people by all means ... We have one neighbour who found out via the day center OH went to because said neighbour is a music volunteer. Since he saw OH there he will avoid us at almost any cost.. One doctor we saw started talking to OH then where he saw the word...
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    husband behaving badly

    My husband has FTD too the social barriers are gone he mocks the people at the new sports school across the road and calls them beached whales or blubber guts who block out his sunlight. He is rude at times to the point we are worried someone will hit him. At other times he gets very...
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    Forgets parents have passed away

    We have had the same with MIL, she used to swear she had been to visit relatives who had been dead for decades amazing not least of all because she hadnt left the house! She even went looking for a cat she had as a child. When she used to ask about them we just said everyone was ok , turn the...
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    FTD eating and drinking

    Hi there, my OH has FTD too. He still eats but I love to cook so if he mentions something he remembers from long ago I find it and cook it. I knew from the start that appitite would be affected at some point. Your wife probably isnt angry with you I bet she is just terribly worried...
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    I witnessed a change in my partners memory today

    I understand the thing with food too. My husband has FTD but his tastes in food are quite changable. For years he has vermently said he hates hummus then while away he had some in a resturant now he says he loves it! Other things he had loved he now turns his nose up at and then there are...
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    getting noisy

    Hi Willow tree thanks for the information. this--- And if one asks him not to shout, he'll yell back "I am not shouting!" really hits the nail on the head as OH says that a lot its as if he cannot recognise his own noise yet he moans about other people making noise! Yet another...
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    getting noisy

    I'm not sure if this is a symptom I have looked throught he medical books but there is nothing mentioned in them so I thought I would ask here as you all know more than most medical books stacked end to end! OH has FTD and although not to far advanced he is getting worse. One of the things we...
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    We are in the system

    northumbrian_k I am also at this stage. I know it takes months for things to get sorted out and so we have to get the ball rolling before things get too bad. But OH is very against outside help he see them as interfering and has ideas that they will spy on us. So Im working on ways of...
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    Absolutely fed up!

    Frustration... Speaking as a control freak who does everything herself I can see your mums fear at letting go. There are such horror stories about what goes on in care homes and how patients are negelcted Im not surprised that she is finding it diffucult to let go. Having said that it...
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    Dementia and Digntas

    I find this so sad. When confronted, people who are about to undertake life threatening stunts often say 'so what, it's my life , I can do what I want' Sadly when it comes to deliberately ending our lives because of pain or suffering the law says we cant...How can it be 'our life ' then...
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    Does my mum have Dementia or am I overanalyzing?

    As a person in her 50's, in menopause and dealing with a husband with dementia let me tell you the stress is chronic and yes I forget little things ..I leave keys in pockets or go to the shop and realise I left my shopping list at home on the table. I know its just because hormones are not at...
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    Nastiness - Agression does it ALWAYS happen?

    My MIL has AD and in the earlier stages (she is now end stage in a CH) she would sometimes lash out verbally or as if to hit my sister in law but she was never like that with me. The difference was us , the carers, my sister in law was impatient and would use the them and us apporach saying eat...
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    Navigation skills loss early sign of Alzheimers

    Although OH has FTD one of the first things we noticed was that he decided to buy a tom tom, this was after him being a very anti tom tom person because he said they encouraged laziness. Then he used it at every oppertunity and used it to return to adresses he had been to several times. When I...
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    The Future

    Saffie I have to say it is a matter of deciding how you want to go about it. Im not sure how old Dan is but my husband was just 56 when we noticed symptoms. We are not old 50+ people either we are motorbike , concert, rock and roll types who like to live life. It has meant huge changes...
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    The Future

    You might get hit by a bus tomorrow. Hard? Yes but the fact is from the moment we are born one thing is certain, we are going to die. Its a fact, the only variables are how long we have and how it ends. So knowing that its up to us to decide, we can either sit back and feel sorry for...