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    Update- first 2 nights in care home

    Two years ago we were in exactly the same stage as you.....terrified we had done wrong by moving mum!!......BUT with hindsight and time it was definately the right time and I'm sure you will feel the same soon. My mum wasn't cooking, washing much less and piling the make up on! ! [ she...
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    Struggling to know what end of life means.

    I too am in limbo....my mum has been having end of life care for 8 weeks now!! She was seriously ill in hospital in october but then came back to her care home hardly eating and drinking. She now doesn't know me but turns her head to music and voices. She is such a tough cookie and is...
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    mum

    Hello I haven't been on the forum for several years but feel I need a rant/let off steam as life feels challenging and scary at the moment.... My mum who is almost 79 has vascular dementia and has been in a lovely care home for the last two years. Since the beginning of october we have had a...
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    christmas

    mum is 77 and is having her first christmas in her care home....she has mid stage vascular dementia. what on earth do you buy? she has all her own things in her room, is really stroppy about new clothes and at the moment even refusing to wash that often so no smellies! She has...
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    When is it time for residential care?

    Hello .......my mum lived on her own for 20 years and has vascular dementia. We had to move her into a home when we hit a crunch point last xmas [ hardly eating, losing so much weight. not managing money or cleaning the house...kitchen beyond chaos even with help!!!!] ...she too had had...
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    may I rant please?!?!?!

    My mum with vascular dementia has been in her care home since march and is settling in her own way ...at least she is eating more and is being supervised.. The home has just had an unannounced inspection and is good across the board so thats good. My problem is my brother who 4 years ago said...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    sending Gill a hug x Ive popped in and out of this thread since the beginning and have just read about your Dad so sending you a mega hug from Notts. you deserve your Anglesey trip and hope you try and enjoy it. My mum is slowly settling in her care home...we are now three months...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    Hello .just to say Im still hovering and reading about you lovely lot even though not commenting x Whoever asked about mum and her red jumpers its now a mission to find more!!...and we think they were from BHS.....shes took the label out!! Also she needs more bras but will she let us measure...
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    Dad and his new shoes

    My mum is cake obsessed..........she is in a care home and is continually demanding food! yesterday was the battle of the biscuit........I arrived bearing triple choc cookies.she was delighted and scoffed two straight away.then demanded biscuits off the coffee trolley...and then promptly felt...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    Not at all a selfish feeling, a very natural one......you have done so much for so long it will feel like grieving for quite a while. But it sounds like you have a lovely place for him and you will know Dad is safe and secure. When I knew mum needed 24/7 care I felt awful and still do 6...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    Definately go with the gut feeling..............we viewed 10 before finding mums! I viewed it similarly to when I was hunting for childcare for my kids. It has to feel right! Do they have a vacancy now? Did you read the QCC report on it? Hope your Dad has a lovely birthday. x Sounds lovely...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    Evening everyone............beautiful twiddlemuff pictures Gill well done. A friend has just made me one for my mum . I am hopeless at all craft things =[ Had to laugh this morning when I visited my mum she was being seriously stroppy about washing and hadn't showered for 3 days...I was...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    Well its 4 weeks ago today that mum moved into her care home and they say she's fine and can stay permanently which feels lovely in one way but very sad in another. tomorrow my sister and I will start the long job of sorting her house.she's only got a two bed terrace but its got a huge loft...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    Just wanted you all to know that even if im not writing I am reading what is still happening in your lives............. I will probably get all your names confused but.. Jill hope the social worker meeting went smoothly and your sils funeral went as well as these things can. Be kind to...
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    Mum hates us for putting her in a care home.

    My mum has been in her care home for 4 weeks on saturday .....she too said suddenly out of the blue but I'm not going home am I ? The guilt is awful .....but I know she is safe , fed and getting masses of stimulation compared to when she was at home on her own. I too have to be firm when...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    Oh no sending mega hugs, so sad when this happens but obviously right for your old lady so she's not in pain. x... take care......hows the neck and tooth too? Can you display photos on here so we can see her? would love to one day. I went to the dentist and have a majorly cracked filling so...
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    Significant White Matter Loss

    My mum is in a MODERATOR NOTE: Name of care home/group removed too....you aren't in Notts are you by any chance? it is a lovely modern facility too!
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    Finally getting some respite care. Advice please.

    Good luck with the assessment...........we have power of attorney and struggled at home for 3 years with self funded carers til hit a crunch point at christmas. We had to get mum to the home for assessment [ in a different town so we just said we were going out for lunch and she accepted...
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    Significant White Matter Loss

    what a wonderful piece of writing and hopefully cathartic for you,.............my mum has only been in her home for two weeks and she has changed already.............I still have mega guilt that I have caged her but deep down I know its the right time. We can all only do what we think is best...
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    In need of a virtual hug

    Oh no that's horrible.........dental pain and anything nerve related is just horrible...I have a very sensitive tooth at the moment that I too should sort but the dentist is my biggest phobia:( I too say take paracetamol and ibuprofen....alternate them as you can only have 4 lots of one and 3...