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    Still lost!

    Dear Carabosse, So sorry to hear about your mum. My mum passed away May 23rd. I haven't cried too much today. Yesterday I was numb and felt like I was in a bubble, then became terribly depressed in the evening; the day before I cried all all day and felt positively ill. I can be driving the...
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    Is bereavement counselling helpful?

    Yes, I too feel absolutely physically shattered on occasions. I feel "ill" but cannot describe it. Some days I can't stop crying, others I can't cry at all and feel numb. I am better at home for some reason. When I am out it feels like I am inside a bubble separated from the real world...
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    Is bereavement counselling helpful?

    Hi Chaucer, My mum died on 23 May, of Alzeimer's. For the past 5 years she could be OK one minute, in floods of tears the next and most of the time, totally confused. More recently she had become verbally and physically aggressive, especially to the care home staff. When she had to go into...
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    Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one due to Alzeimer's

    Thanks Kenaidog. My sister and I always made light of it when mum used to tell us she couldn't remember anything. We used to say how we often forgot things (going to the fridge but not knowing why you'd gone there or going upstairs to get something but forgetting what it was you wanted). She...
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    Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one due to Alzeimer's

    Thanks Quilty. Mum had regular appointments at the Memory Clinic where they used to repeat the same test each time. Even though her memory had deteriorated drastically and she could no longer manage on her own (didn't know if she had eaten, would go out and get lost and couldn't understand...
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    Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one due to Alzeimer's

    Dear Acco, Thank you for your kind words. There were a couple of times on the Monday and Tuesday, when my sister and were talking about silly things and my mum had a little smile. A moment of clarity where she understood what we were saying. She told us to "shut up" a couple of times too...
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    Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one due to Alzeimer's

    Dear Kenaidog, I don't know what to say - I'm so sorry! We stayed with my mum for several hours after she died as we had to wait for the doctor and then for the funeral people to come. After a couple of hours her face had changed; there was no more pain or fear and she looked at peace, more so...
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    Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one due to Alzeimer's

    Dear Blogg, Thank you for your message. I am so sorry about your dad and what you all went through. I was reading some of the info about Alzeimer's yesterday and it refers to the feeling of loss that carers can experience over long periods as the disease takes away a little bit more of...
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    Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one due to Alzeimer's

    Dear Quilty, Thank you so much for your message. You are right; I need to remember Mum not just as someone with dementia or someone who has died but as "my lovely mum". It is difficult at the moment as my sister and I have been looking after her ever since my dad died (23 years ago!). She...
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    Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one due to Alzeimer's

    My mum has recently passed away. The GP gave the cause of death as Alzeimer's. Mum had had Dementia for many years and finally had to go into care, very much against her will, in Jan 2014 as she could no longer live independently with help from me and my sister. After January 2015 her...