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    Financial assessment

    Thanks @Bunpoots, I think I'll do that soon, as you say it will save confusion. All this is a minefield!
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    Financial assessment

    I found that information very helpful. I'm not yet at the point of needing a financial assessment but think it may it be far off. I have been careful recently to not add much to his one savings account and to keep out joint savings as low as possible. My biggest concern is our current accounts...
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    Respite care

    In October I had planned a week in respite care for my husband while I had a few days away. This was the first time is tried this. I'm the event I had to cancel because I started to feel so guilty and anxious about it. I know I need to do it because I desperately need a break so I will have to...
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    Obsessions in ftd

    Thank you @Vic10 , @RosettaT and @Vitesse on My husband was diagnosed by a consultant from the local elderly persons mental health team but since the day he was given the diagnosis we have never seen them again. I was told there was no input or support for him other than from the GP. I have an...
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    Obsessions in ftd

    Hi @Hellyg It's good that risperidone has helped your husband and you despite the side effects. Having read more about this I doubt it would be prescribed for my husband. Firstly he is only under the care of the GP. The consultant told us the diagnosis and hadn't seen him since, we get no...
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    Obsessions in ftd

    Thanks @Vitesse, I think I will have to try asking the doctor about possible medication, I just worry about the side effects of antipsychotics particularly on mobility. He's already very unsteady and I believe they can increase the likelihood of falls. He would also need to be told it would help...
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    Obsessions in ftd

    Thanks @MAMMYGRANNY . Sounds like my husband's obsession is very similar to your husband's. I think I will have to try to speak to the doctor again after Christmas to see if there is any change of medication that would help. Neither he not I can carry on much longer like this because I fear he...
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    Obsessions in ftd

    Thanks @Lirene. Your husband's obsession sounds very similar to my husband. He also has at various times shown me things he has caught which he believes are fleas. He's had them on a piece of tissue and when the tissue moved so did the so called flea. I couldn't convince him that they were not...
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    Obsessions in ftd

    Thank you @Hellyg for your reply. I have been wondering about an antipsychotic drug but I am aware that there are probably unwanted side effects and I wonder how I would manage these. Can the GP prescribe this sort of medication or would he need referring back to a consultant? Do you think...
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    Obsessions in ftd

    Does anyone have experience or advice 're dealing with obsession in someone with ftd? You may have seen from other posts that my husband has sore on both forearms that he is constantly picking at with scissors or tweezers. He is convinced these have been caused by flea bites from our cat. He...
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    Constant picking of skin

    Thanks TNJJ. He recently had a review of his diabetes with the nurse. His blood sugars were higher than they had been for some time but this was largely due to the hospital having reduced all his medication because he was so ill. This has now been increased again and I'm doing random checks at...
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    Constant picking of skin

    Does anyone have experience of constant picking and scratching? My husband has sore marks on his hands and firearms which he has had for several weeks. At first he told me they were from where the canula was in his arm when he was in hospital in July, then his shorthand they were goes bites...
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    Respite woes

    Hi Philbo what a mess things have been for you and your wife. As someone who is just about to let my husband go to respite care for a week while I visit my family I really worry that something similar could happen. He is 84, has frontal lobe dementia, only diagnosed a year ago after four years...
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    Does the guilt get any easier

    I'm currently finding it very difficult to live with the guilt of my husband going into respite care. He has frontal lobe dementia and in July was in hospital extremely I'll with pneumonia and septic shock. Three days in intensive care when it was very.much touch and go. A week in rehab which...
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    Fractured hip with dementia

    Thank you all. Mum due home to care home on Monday. She could have gone yesterday but the sensor mats hadn't been set up in time. They had to be done by the company who installed the alarm system. We decided with the care home staff that we would all prefer to wait the extra few days to make...
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    Fractured hip with dementia

    Some good news today. My sister visited and the matron was on the ward. Everyone was sweetness and light and very attentive. Physio reported that mum had been mobilising well and they are arranging a hospital bed, turntable and special commode for the care home. So it sounds like she might be...
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    Fractured hip with dementia

    Thank you all for your helpful responses. My sister has today spoken to the ward matron and made it clear that there are several issues and a few shortcomings in mums care. He told her part of the problem is staff shortages but realised that wasn't an excuse for the attitude is staff and lack of...
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    Fractured hip with dementia

    Thanks MaNaAK. Unfortunately I don't feel confident in the hospital about the care she's getting. My sister says when she first arrived in A&E they didn't know she had dementia. They don't seem to understand that she can't tell them if she is in pain, in fact she can't express her wishes or ask...
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    Fractured hip with dementia

    Does anyone have any experience of a loved one recovering in hospital after surgery for a fractured hip? My mum is 94 with advanced dementia. She has been a wanderer in the care home and this happened a week ago. The hospital want her to have oramorph prior to physio though they don't seem to be...
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    How do they judge he has capacity

    Thank you all for your messages and advice. Sorry I haven't responded sooner, it's been such a busy time. My husband has now been transferred to a rehab unit which will hopefully ease the pressure on me for a while as I can only visit once a day because it's further away from home and I have to...