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  1. DollyBird16

    Help needed

    Hi @mydad My heart goes out to you. My Mum has vascular dementia and has the same thoughts, that these people are going to kill her or dump her somewhere. The people hide around where she is staying (her home for the past 40 years) She hears but doesn’t see the people and can’t really describe...
  2. DollyBird16

    Any ideas......Standing Sleeping

    Hi Just searching for any info / experience anyone may have picked up along the way. I’ve googled and searched but not really getting anywhere, so to the experts I come. PWD (vascular) has taken to stopping whilst walking, no specific time or place just stops, closes eyes and effectively going...
  3. DollyBird16

    Care Home Niggles

    @Marsupial15 Hi, I read your post and while my Mum is not at that stage, I get you. Like you I just want the care part there for Mum. My Mum had a care agency at home where Mum was a task, they may as well have come in and cleaned the windows, for all the engagement they had with her. Now...
  4. DollyBird16

    Feet and slippers question?

    Hi My Mum had sore toenail, which pushed on shoes/slippers causing pain. Mum is still living at her home so I managed to sort the problem by soaking her feet every night 15 mins warm water and apple cider vinegar, then 15 mins warm water and bicarbonate of soda, dry the feet and put tea tree oil...
  5. DollyBird16

    Can I ... Should I?

    I’ll join the group hug for today. Thinking of you. X
  6. DollyBird16

    Care Home Dilemma

    Hi, sorry to read about the poor care your dear Mum has received. I like you would not accept this. Whilst not the same my Mum was not getting reliable care from an agency. I just could not stand by and let it happen. I did the same as you feedback to them, met with them, gave them time to...
  7. DollyBird16

    A dreadful couple of days

    Sending hugs for you. X
  8. DollyBird16

    A dreadful couple of days

    Thinking of you. X
  9. DollyBird16

    A dreadful couple of days

    I hope I have your courage, strength, tenacity, compassion and love, when the time comes for my Mum X
  10. DollyBird16

    A dreadful couple of days

    @Marnie63 I second @nae sporran Take care of you, hugs for you and Mum. XX
  11. DollyBird16

    A dreadful couple of days

    Hi @Marnie63 Yes as titled, a dreadful couple of days, for you and your Mum. I hope it was caused by something she ate. I agree with you all not helped by being bunged up. Same as @Lindy50 has said I’d get onto the GP now, keeps them up to date and you can tell them what you plan to do. Take...
  12. DollyBird16

    Can I ... Should I?

    Hi Good to hear from you. I’m confident you’ve done loads, there are many years in the house it’s going to take a while. You’re doing an amazing job, don’t forget all the admin, you’re sorting too. I’m so impressed, don’t think I’d be able to all that you have done in such a short time. Hats off...
  13. DollyBird16

    Can I ... Should I?

    @Sam Luvit Thinking about you, no reply required, all your strength to you, in imagining, that huge hug from me. Take care lovely. X
  14. DollyBird16

    Can I ... Should I?

    Such a thoughtful thing to say, Prudence, i’ll take one of those hugs today. Just going to sit and let it envelope me. X
  15. DollyBird16

    Oh brother

    Hi @Tin Pleased to read your Mumwill have the comfort of the hospital bed. I’m hoping it will make things easier for you. Keep us posted. X
  16. DollyBird16

    Further decline

    no matter how much we distract then she still comes back to the same. I fear it is a further decline & mentally speaking she now doesn’t seem to know how to tell the time. Forgets she gets given food. If she is in the lounge, she forgets she has a room upstairs, if she is upstairs, she forgets...
  17. DollyBird16

    Can I ... Should I?

    In a bizarre way, I’m pleased your WiFi has taken a break Sam, rest time for you too and let pooch fuss you. Take care, massive hugs. XX
  18. DollyBird16

    Oh brother

    Just wanted you to know I’m reading and thinking of you. Sorry not got any amazing advice. I do like @Marnie63 plan one day in bed one day out. Will definitely use that when the time comes. X
  19. DollyBird16

    Oh brother

    Bless you, what a horrid time for you both, you must be absolutely shattered. Ice lollies, flavoured ice cubes, go down a treat with my Mum, yet a glass of water is a no. Must be a lolly on a stick those in packets tubes are too much of a challenge. Hot chocolate, with added cream - thinking...
  20. DollyBird16

    Do you find people don't understand?

    @Bubble82 I empathise, sadly unless you are in it’s so hard to understand. Not only have Mums friends disappeared, apart from two (one with dementia and the other a long standing friend who moved and remains a phone friend) my ‘friends’ have too. Promises are made by many, I’ll pop round for...