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    Time shift

    Thank you.
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    Time shift

    My mother-in-law was in hospital overnight but clearly did not sleep after we left her at 5.00 am. The result has been prolonged periods of napping since her discharge this morning, a refusal to join us for her evening meal followed by coming to the table an hour later after she prepared her...
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    POA record keeping

    Thankfully the partnership was drawn up by our accountant many years ago so that the business could continue should anything happen to either partner plus we had advice to keep records by our solicitor when POA was being registered. My initial query was about the depth of detail required as I...
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    POA record keeping

    Because she was/is a partner In the farm business, this is what was agreed by her 20 odd years ago and her home is on the farm. Her state pension would not cover her living expenses.
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    POA record keeping

    Thank you for the information. We certainly won't be claiming anything back but were worried about showing how money is spent.
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    Nighttime Incontinence. Where on earth do I start?

    Good luck. I had a year long battle with my mother-in-law who "didn't neèd" pads (I do the washing and my take was VERY different). Undersheet a must. I ended up following advice on this forum and took away her ordinary pants leaving only the pull on pants like pads. Haven't looked back (even...
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    POA record keeping

    My husband has POA for his mother...recently "awarded". What records are we required to keep given that she is my husband's business partner in a farm so her pension and attendance allowance are paid directly into the business which keeps the roof over her head, the heating and electric etc...
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    Dirty hands

    My MIL likes to wash the dishes etc after our meals so I let her but wash everything before we eat as her previous meticulously clean hands etc are now questionable! Likewise dishcloths and tea towels are boil washed frequently as the same cloth can be used to wash the dishes and wipe the bin...
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    No flu vaccine!

    At 57 with asthma, I received my flu jab on Saturday. My 87 year old MIL with Alzheimer's is a patient at a different surgery and the district nurse is supposed to call and give her hers. I rang the surgery yesterday...out of supplies for her age group...scrap heap at 87?
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    DNAR can they put this on my LO’s file without my consent as I hold LPOA?

    That's interesting... When my mum was in hospital dying from a rare blood cancer, we were consulted re DNR. She had been living at home. My dad had been living in a home (social services took things out of our hands and deemed him unsafe at home on account of falling - he did not have dementia)...
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    Worn out and worn down.

    Thank you for your interest and help.
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    Worn out and worn down.

    My MIL is deteriorating. She had a fall a few weeks back and this seems to be accelerating her condition. Initially she couldn't have a shower because she was in pain. We had great difficulty in obtaining OT assistance but eventually managed through a cancellation to have her assessed for a...
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    Experiences with white items and pale coloured food

    I tried the blue plates. My mother-in-law commented on how lovely they were. No real difference in the amount she ate nor did she ask why we were using them... Her appetite has diminished considerably since her fall last week. She no longer looks for biscuits and has a thing about not eating...
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    Experiences with white items and pale coloured food

    Has anyone ever experienced concerns with white items and pale coloured food? My mother-in-law painstakenly picked out peppers, coloured pasta and discarded turkey pieces and pale pasta when eating sweet and sour tonight. Interestingly, to check out whether it was the paleness of the meat, I...
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    Mum won't wear incontinent pads

    How did it go when you hid the underwear? I am at that stage myself now as my m-i-l doesn't "need" pads... I have had a number of episodes recently where I have been retching dealing with the soiled underwear and girdle which she insists on wearing. Wet underwear I can just about handle but the...