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    How Does Love Turn Into Hate/Dislike So Fast

    Hello @dancer12, so lovely to hear from you! Yes it’s awful for them, and awful for us too. I’m not feeling very positive right now! But I loved your message.
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    How Does Love Turn Into Hate/Dislike So Fast

    I’ve been catching up with TP via this thread. The rose pruning has been such a drama at our house too. We have a McCartney rose of thirty years which is wild and woolly. Now I have a gardener every three months and he was just taming it. Wonderful flowering in October for a full month and not...
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    Two years to get this bad. What now?

    Ah yes, the Red Queen approach! By far the best solution!
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    Two years to get this bad. What now?

    Dearest Al. Curtains. You hang them just that bit before they’re dry. That way they don’t need ironing and they hang better. Yours from the coal face of domestic servitude, Carolyn. xxx
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    Wasp or Lemon

    Oh interesting thank you. I’ll have a look.
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    Wasp or Lemon

    Oh I get so tired of the grumpy expression. It’s standard now with my OH also. Only now, reading these posts, do I realise it’s the same with him, the wasp and lemon look is no longer indicative of his mood. Or not necessarily: he’s pretty grumpy, as to underlying mood, most of the time.
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    Showing off!???

    G Hello dear Dancer @dancer12. You’ve put your finger unerringly on the central issue. On my strong days, I feel absolutely determined not to let my personality be changed. If I succumb, then the dementia has won. These, I know, are fighting words. But how can we forego ANY of our...
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    Showing off!???

    Oh goodness my OH does this! Not a tree so far but if something is wrong he will observe it with mild interest - but without feeling the slightest inclination to act, to intervene, to fix it!
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    Showing off!???

    About empathy this will be no help at all but I just want to add my two pennorth. Empathy, developmentally, in a child, doesn’t kick in till about seven years old, I have read. This fits with our son who was disabled. With an IQ placing him in the moderate range of intellectual disability, he...
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    Showing off!???

    Hi @maryjoan I re-read it recently and it is a really terrific read, no wonder it was a children’s book in my childhood, it is absolutely gripping. So unusual for that period. Doubt it will help with our situation but you never know!
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    Showing off!???

    When I had a bad virus, sniffle sniffle, staggering round house, flying flag, keeping show on road - no recognition of my parlous state or my efforts from my OH. His only concern was to ring his (hale and hearty) sister, to find out how she was. Laughing and chatting they were ...
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    Showing off!???

    ... But we do, we do!!!
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    Bad feelings

    Don’t know! Nothing heard! But I have Sydney in ten days so when in due course you hear low moaning sounds from me you will know why. Meanwhile love and kisses. C xxxxxxxxx @Mudgee Joy @Grahamstown. PS The Sydney boys have a new puppy so that will be fun.
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    Respite experience

    Dear @nae sporran, to this very helpful post I would like just to add the following from my experience with respite care over many years for our (moderately) intellectually disabled son (now deceased). In addition to the dramas and phone calls, he would almost invariably come back with at least...
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    Bad feelings

    GOOD LUCK!!! Thinking of you heaps. Love Carolyn. XXX. PS to quote TS Eliot, “For us there is only the trying. The rest is not our business.” When it comes to taking our husbands on holiday, never was truer word spoken! Mudgee Joy managed amazingly just recently and you will too.
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    Things not to say to me - rant warning!

    I totally agree with you. My son is much older, nearly 42, and his career is probably close to its height as long as he keeps going flat out. It sticks in my throat to accept his offers of taking time away from work to help me out by looking after his father.
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    Please don't throw me away, breaking my promise

    You’ve turned my day around, @2jays. A million thanks.
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    Bad feelings

    Yes dear PalSal I find this too, that it’s a case of choosing my battles. When I think I must take a stand about something, increasingly (as there are more things to take a stand about!) I ask myself what would happen if I were just to let this particular thing go. And if I possibly can, I do...
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    Two years to get this bad. What now?

    Dear Al many, many thanks from me too. I am printing out this post, which I will keep as an inspiration and support in the hard times. Go well. Run free. You are still a young man, enjoy your future. Very best wishes. Carolyn.
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    So bizarre !

    That is a very graphic photo!