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    how to explain going into respite

    RESPITE I have just been in the same psoition as you are, i dont know how bad your Mum's memory is but in our case we took Mum for a visit to the home one Sunday (even told her it was Friday) and we told her it was a "hospital" and they just wanted to check her thyroid out. ( I didn't realise...
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    My Posts - by Jude

    MY POSTS Dear Jude I really look forward to your witty and reassuring messages, i believe that many members might not post many of their own messages but are assured, inspired and amused by yours. Please keep writing (and Brucie and Norman) Cathy
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    The sweet odour of urine... NOT!

    sweet smell Hi Eden I have tried many things in the past, and have decided that in order to "mask" the smell i have to put up with an overpowering smell of something else, so i have used thinks like floral disinfectants (even a drop in the washing machine) also in the washing machine i use...
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    PANORAMA Tonight

    panorama I also was enraged at the flippant remarks made my the MP, to say he "knows of" people that have recovered from dementia beggars belief. He came across as arrogant and clueless to anything connected with dementia, i think if you are willing to be interviewed about any specialist...
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    Advice about care homes

    CARE HOMES Hi Beth Its a long time since i have posted on the board although i have always read everyone's postings, ( I am ashamed to say the caring got the better of me and I cracked) My family are at the point where we are having to look at full time care homes for mum-in-law and also...
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    diagnosis

    hI Jilly Your drescription of dads symptoms sounded an exact description of my mum in law. She has just been diagnosed with her dementia and in hindsight it had started 2years ago with the memory loss, obsession with people pinching things and most of the other symptoms your dad has, it was...
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    First post

    Hi Julie Alot of the things you have said are so familiar with many members on this site, you will not always find the answers to some of your problems but you will certainly get lots of useful information from many people in this forum. This site has become one of my lifesavers because up to...
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    Putting him straight

    Hi Rob We have the same problem, mum has no idea she has dementia and questions and rants and raves every day about people being in her house (the majority of which are family in and out) we do have a lady that comes in for 3hours one day a week (retired carer) and the abuse that poor lady...
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    Happy Christmas

    Hi Rob Is there a respite centre available to you in your area that covers the Xmas period, I know your dad would probably kick up a fuss but i am sure the carers within these centres have seen it all before and would know how to handle him. I am not speaking from experience as i have not...
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    substitute memory

    Hi Rob Have you contacted your local social services, when mum was finally diagnosed the specialist concerned gave us a contact name and number for a lovely lady at the Alzheimers help centre in our area, she in turn chatted to us at length about what and is available at different stages of...
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    Bath night

    Bath Time Hi Rob My Mum will try that one and in my experience it was nothing to do with the water temperature just another excuse for Mum to avoid the bath. Some of the excuses are unbelievable, would your dad just let you stay in the bathroom long enough for him to at least get into the...
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    "let It Be"

    Just thought i would share this little moment, Mum came down for breakfast this morning and i knew instantly she had her "aggression head" on so i faced her with the calm approach and humoured her for 10 mins until she just sat down as normal to eat. I chatted away and thought i would push my...
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    Give Me Strength..........

    IS IT JUST ME!!!!!!!! I phoned the department dealing with our application for attendance allowance today (after the day from hell with mum) to be told that "someone" had "mistakenly" closed our application for mums attendance allowance and therefore we might have to start again as a new...
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    Vascular Dementia

    Hi Sheila thanks for the reply, how right you are regarding the short periods of seemingly "full understanding of whats going on", many a visitor has left our house and i am sure they have said "well she's not that bad". Little do they know................. take care cathy x
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    Vascular Dementia

    Mum had her first visit to the specialist today and they have confirmed that she has vascular dementia (severe), having read my notes on this type of dementia i do agree but also feel she has alot of the symptoms associated with dementia with lewy bodies, is it possible to have a mixture of...
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    Mums First Assessment

    Hi Angela Thanks so much for your usefull info, this site has certainly brought me so much insight into this awful illness, i get great comfort just knowing someone is listening and sharing what all the members are going through. I have found out more in 2 weeks with you than i have in the...
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    Mums First Assessment

    I AM DUE TO TAKE MY MOTHER IN LAW FOR HER VISIT TO A SPECIALIST ON THE 30.10.03 AND WOULD BE GRATEFUL IF ANYONE COULD TELL ME WHAT TO EXPECT, DO I NEED TO TAKE ANY "NOTES" WITH ME REGARDING MUMS SYMPTOMS BECAUSE ALTHOUGH MUM IS VERY MUCH IN THE STAGES OF DEMENTIA (OR COULD IT BE ALZHEIMERS? I...
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    Shared Caring

    Dear Charlie Thanks very much for taking the time to reply, due to the replies we have had we have an insight into what the consequences of "shared caring" could have. Hoperfully our new solution of shared caring within mums own home on a 24/7 basis will help her in what will be a very...
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    Shared Caring

    Angela thanks very much for your reply to my query, i know you have confirmed what really we knew, since i posted my query on the board we have now decided to place mum back in her own house and between all her family share the 24 hour 7 day care, this will have its problems but only for the...
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    Shared Caring

    My Mother in law is in the "middle" stages of Alzeimers and unable to now live on her own, we as a family want to care for her the best we can and the only way we can do it is by "sharing" mum. She will spend 2/3 weeks with each of her children where she will be loved and looked after to the...