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    emotional abuse

    Hello and thanks. I know she cannot be held accountable. All throughout my childhood an early adult years my mum has held the view of tough love. She thinks tough love is the only way and a softly softly approach gets you nowhere. I think that is why she raised merry hell and told me I was...
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    emotional abuse

    Yes you are right. I have some hard thinking to do. I am not in a very good place right now emotionally. We do not have a good relationship and try as I might, all my mum wants to talk about is my 'problems' and how I have personality traits which are not good and she goes on at me a lot...
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    emotional abuse

    Sadly I do not think I can have contact with my mum. She drains me emotionally and it is dangerous for my state of mind. When she feeds me with negativity I start to feel down and start to believe things about myself that are not true. For example, today she told me that my previous...
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    emotional abuse

    Yeah so I will just pretend to my mother and agree with everything she says and that way we will stop arguing and keep what I really think to myself.
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    emotional abuse

    Hi not been here for a while. Not had much contact with my mother since she rased conerns and told me not to go back to see her etc. I have actually found a hairdresser who will shape my hair to my liking but my mother is still vile and says awful things to me. She still holds the opinion...
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    emotional abuse

    what on earth do you mean? Your statement makes no sense at all.
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    emotional abuse

    Hello. I do not think this neglected child syndrome applies to me. I was not a neglected child. I am on a wonderful therapy site and that is helping me tremendously. My issues do not stem from childhood, they stem from now and I think my mothers dementia has a lot to do with it. There is...
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    emotional abuse

    Thanks. I very much doubt that it will be resolved. As for keeping contact via the care home. My mum has told me not to contact the care home and I have said I won't. I am sure if anything happens to her they will let me know. As they say, no news is good news. I am actually frightened of...
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    emotional abuse

    I said I would report back once I had the hair consultation from the new salon. Unfortunately it did not go very well. It was not a very professional salon and I did not like the hairdresser. She was not friendly. She started off by asking why I was seeing her so I explained that my...
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    emotional abuse

    I thank people here for their help and wanted to say I have found the right sort of place for help online at last. It is a site dedicated to people with elderly parents who are emotionally blackmailing them. thanks again
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    emotional abuse

    I don't hold out much hope for NHS counselling because of the waiting list and the fact that when I asked for NHS counselling when my dad died, all I was offered were sessions during the day and I work. I think the only way is to cut contact and surround myself with people who treat me with...
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    emotional abuse

    Counselling is too expensive. I will have to leave it. I don't know where to go or who to turn to anymore. My mother has won. She has worn me into the ground. I am an emotional mess. I will have to cut all contact with her for my own sanity. She is no good for me whatsoever...
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    emotional abuse

    Yes I will get some counselling thanks
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    emotional abuse

    ok I wont discuss this anymore
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    feeling guilty

    I get the feeling nobody wants to comment on these photos? Especially the short hair one
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    emotional abuse

    ok thanks. Does anyone know or have heard of a book called Ugly? It is about a black woman who constantly told her child she was ugly. She left home and ceased contact with her mum who told her she was ugly but because she was told so often she ended up believing it and even when her mother...
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    emotional abuse

    Can a person with dementia be held accountable for hurling emotional abuse at another person? This is happening to me and I am usually a strong person but it is beginning to affect me emotionally because it is happening quite often.
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    feeling guilty

    I am not keen on the short hair one. The whole point of posting me with long and short hair is to show people what I look like with different hair length. Some people just do not suit short hair. I am sorry what happened with your mum and sister.
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    feeling guilty

    Just out of interest what do you think of the second one with my hair shorter and also the third one. I think I like the third one best
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    feeling guilty

    Last but not least, one more of me with long hair styled differently. I just thought I would post to see what people thought. Anyway as I said I will post again once have had the hair consultation from a black hairdresser. :) I think I look quite pretty in this one. I did try putting my...