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    Happy Birthday Spamar

    Happy Birthday Spamar, hope you enjoy your day x
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    Heartsick Over Mother's Cruel Comment

    Apologies if this is off topic but what canary said has triggered something in my mind that happened in the early days. When my Mum was diagnosed with alzheimer's we all (Mum, me and my OH) had a cry and a cuddle together. Around half an hour later she had forgotten about it but needless to...
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    Social worker meeting request-what to expect?

    Hi tatty. Sorry have no idea about sheltered housing, but have experienced a meeting with a SW. From what you say about your MIL I do not think sheltered housing is appropriate as it sounds like she needs someone to be with her most if not all of the time. When we had a meeting with a SW...
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    Getting the family together to decide mum's care needs

    I agree with betsie that the main carer is the one who is best placed to know what is best for her. The main factor should be her safety and happiness. The deciding factor for me was even though I tried to watch her 24 hours a day, which is impossible, I was on edge all the time and I tried...
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    So bizarre !

    OOh I'd give anything to have a coffee with George Clooney :D My Mum got a little confused from some magazine she had picked up in the lounge of her care home, some trivial showbiz mag, I didn't really read what it was about but the gist of it was that someone in a soap I think it was had...
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    Regular Paracetamol dose has really helped my Dad's mood...

    Hi referee Paracetamol worked wonders for my Mum. Just one before bed was all it took for her to sleep through the night. As I was her main carer and spent 24 hours a day with her without any outside help it was a godsend. Nobody had told me that this may help, it was only by chance that I...
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    Advice Please

    Hi Shezzy and welcome to TP. My Mum lived with us for two years before she was placed in a care home a month ago. While she lived with us she was constantly asking us to take her to see her mother who died over 30 years ago. She would get really distressed saying her mum needs her as she...
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    So bizarre !

    2jays - Mum does respond to her first name, but she rolled her eyes at me and laughed when her carer used it but I think that was because it is a very unusual name and the carer didn't pronounce it correctly. I have never heard of anyone else having that name. Ann - I think Mum probably ended...
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    Dealing with delusions / paranoid thoughts?

    Hi stressed-in-oz. No advice really just didn't want to read and run. It's a difficult situation as you don't know how her friends are dealing with it, are they agreeing with her or trying to convince her that she's wrong, you just don't know. In my experience I have spent many hours worrying...
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    So bizarre !

    Ann your photos are excellent, wish my photos came out like that. Slugsta that did make me laugh...your Mum stuffing her pockets with cakes :D that sounds like the sort of thing my Mum would do. Went to see Mum yesterday in her care home, the first time since we took her there a month ago...
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    In need of advice

    I had the same problem with my Mum, she now has one paracetamol every night and she sleeps through from approx 11 pm to 8-9 am. She is now in a care home and they have continued to give her 1 paracetamol every night and she has no problems sleeping. Before this she would be up wide awake...
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    Heartsick Over Mother's Cruel Comment

    I experienced that with my Mum. We had always been very close so I don't think it was ever a matter of her showing her true feelings. She would say things to me like 'you have changed and never used to be this nasty to me' and 'you are a dictator' when I was only trying to make sense of everyday...
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    EXPERIENCED CARER "I didnt realise how difficult caring for mum would be"

    Not sure if this varies depending on the Council, but we received a discount for Mum when she lived with us and the disregard took the occupancy from 3 to 2 so it's worth looking into.
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    Types of care homes?

    Hi, not sure I am best qualified to answer your question but couldn't just read and run. I have just placed my Mum in a care home and wasn't sure which one she needed. She had an assessment which stated she needed residential care but I chose a home which catered for all so if she needed...
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    So bizarre !

    Ann, I haven't posted much on here but always read this thread as about 90% of what you post I could have written myself about my Mum. Apart from the rudeness which I never had from Mum apart from the occasional 'leave me alone' or 'get off' when I'm trying to get her to get dressed or have a...
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    What to tell Mum re care home

    Mum went into a care home just over two weeks ago and I told my her we were going on holiday back to where she was born and still considers to be her home. She was a little unsettled the first night she was there but after that she was fine and loves it there. She still thinks she is on holiday...
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    Dementia Sleep Troubles

    Hi Amy I went through this with my Mum, she would have maybe an hour or two sleep and then she would be up again. I would guide her back to bed but she wouldn't go back to sleep, she just got up again when I thought she was settled. I did notice that when she complained of any pain...
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    Any tips

    Just to add, Mum's doctor prescribed sleeping tablets at one stage but they had the opposite effect. We gave her one and it seemed to make her hyperactive, she was awake all night and all the next day. She was obviously tired, she looked very sleepy and was slurring her words but for some reason...
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    Any tips

    My Mum used to wake us up at all times during the night. Then one night she was complaining of a pain so I gave her a couple of paracetamol and she slept through until around 9 am. I spoke to her doctor who said it would be ok if I tried one paracetamol every night. It worked, and she never woke...
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    Thank you

    Yes I do believe that is mainly the reason she has settled so quickly. I thought long and hard before making the decision to move her so far away from us but I know now it was absolutely the right decision. Mum's first language was Welsh and a few of the staff in the home speak Welsh. She had...