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    My mom has gained her wings

    After 8 1/2 years of battling Alzheimer's my mom gained her angel wings 12 days ago. The 6 weeks before she passed she suffered so much. Im relieved for her that shes not suffering anymore but i cant believe my beautiful mom has gone. I miss her so much. Thank you for help and advice. Good luck...
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    Eating/drinking

    Hi. I'm sorry if this has been asked a lot before. My mom is in the late stages of Alzheimer's and for the last 3-4 weeks has only been having 1-2 sips of fluid and a couple of teaspoons of jelly a day (before this period she was having more but not large amounts, she also has problems...
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    Care home top up fees

    We have found out that from April 18 the council now pay £500 a week, instead of the £436 a week they pay for my mom. They pay this for all new and existing care home residents. The council have said they won't pay the extra as my mom's care home haven't signed a contract for carematch, the home...
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    Care home top up fees

    Thank you for you replies. My dad has phoned the council and spoken to four different people, all of whom have said it's nothing to do with them it's between us and the home. The home have said tough it needs paying. We don't know what to do, my dad is now saying he'll bring my mom home, which...
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    Care home top up fees

    Can anyone help please, my mom is in a care home, she'll have been there 3 years in April. The council pays a bit towards it and my dad pays a top up. He received a letter yesterday from the home to say from 1st April his top up is going up from £468 a month to £600 a month. There is no way my...
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    Not toileting

    Hi. My mom has been having a few problems the last couple of weeks with swallowing, she's either completely refusing food or taking a long time to eat, when she does eat she holds it in her mouth for a while before swallowing. Her care home has referred her to the SALT team. The last couple of...
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    Agression

    Hi. I am sorry if this has been asked before but not sure what to do. My mom has advanced Alzheimer's disease and has been in a care home for 2 years. She is relatively settled and the staff are wonderful. My mom is becoming more and more verbally and physically aggressive. She had a review a...
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    Really missing who my mom used to be

    Thank you all so much, your kind words do help. Most days although it hurts i can deal with it but sometimes it just gets too much. Im 37 and my mom was diagnosed 6 years ago, i feel ive missed out on so much (please dont take me the wrong way because i know it doesnt matter what age it doesnt...
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    Really missing who my mom used to be

    Im so sorry for being/sounding selfish and silly but im missing my mom, the person she used to be so much the last couple of days, i keep crying and i feel like im falling apart. I know im very lucky compared to some people, i do still have my mom here but its just so hard. My mom is in a care...
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    Council tax advice

    Thank you very much for your replies, i really appreciate it. The council have told my dad he can appeal but its unlikely he'll get back for the 3 years he didnt have attendance allowance.
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    Council tax advice

    Hi Please may i ask about council tax, my mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in January 2011, my dad looked after her until she had to go into a care home April last year. About 6-8 months ago i read about getting discounts on council tax once someone is diagnosed with Dementia and that you...
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    care home fees

    Hi I wondered if anyone can help me please, my mom has advanced Alzheimer's and she moved into a care home in April last year. When she moved in the council told us they would pay £436 and we would have to pay a top up of £97 a week, we agreed to this. In December my dad got a letter from the...
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    not eating

    Hi Im sorry if this has been asked a thousand times before but i wonder if i could ask advice please. My mom is in a care home and is in the advanced stages of Alzheimer's. She has always had a very good appetite but the last couple of weeks she hasn't been eating, she'll have a mouth full then...
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    I've lost patience with Adult Social Care.....

    Hi Carer638 Im sorry you are having problems with SS, my mom has been in residential care for 4 weeks now, before that we had massive problems with our social services, it was the biggest battle ever which on top of the heartache of my moms condition was too much. We had our social worker...
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    Dont know what to do

    My mom went into a care home four weeks ago, its been devastating for all of us, luckily she does seem to have settled quite well in there and has become dependent on the staff there, who are lovely. Its just so hard knowing my mom has to be in there now, my dad is struggling quite a bit and is...
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    any advice please

    Thank you canary. So after my brother spoke to my dad friday night he agreed to have the extra carers for 2 hours sat, it didnt go well, my mom got that upset and aggitaited my dad ended up sitting in living room with my mom and the carer, the carer is supposed to be coming today as well and my...
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    any advice please

    Social worker called me back, couldnt get emergency respite, the best they could offer is someone sitting with my mom for 2 hours tomorrow and monday to give my dad a break, not great but i took them up on it as my dads desperate. So my dad cane round to mine and ive told him. My dad then starts...
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    any advice please

    Thank you Sunflower123, Im so very sorry that you lost your mom on top of your dad having this horrific disease, must have been/must be awful for you. Things are just unreal with SS, I called my moms social worker Wednesday and told her about my dad saying it would be easier to jump off a bridge...
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    any advice please

    Thank you Aisling. So the carers were meant to start yesterday morning, twice a day and they are supposed to assess the situation as well. My dad was really nervous about them coming. Can you believe nobody bothered to turn up. We phoned and complained and they just said sorry was a mix up. I...
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    any advice please

    Thank you Shedrech, ive called my dads doctor but he is on holiday till next week, there is a locum but I would prefer to see my dads own as he's known him for a long time, im going to try and get my dad in Monday. I think recording my dad could be a good idea, I felt like when we were talking...