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  1. pammy14

    mum is very ill

    So deeply sorry . as you may know the same thing happened with my sister Win just over a month ago. The decision was very hard but the right one. It sounds a peaceful end for your Mum but for Win it was very hard and I still have nightmares of her last couple of days. My thoughts are with you.
  2. pammy14

    My sister passed away

    Thanks for all your kind thoughts Thw funeral went very well , there were quite a few at chapel don't exactly know who but funeral directors will have taken names and give us the list. The vicar (a young lady) gave a lovely talk about Winnie's life. Now I am off on holiday for a week...
  3. pammy14

    My sister passed away

    Thankyou everyone for your kind thoughts. Just have to get through the funeral on Tuesday, I'm not good at funerals. Still feeling I should have been there at the end but realistically she did't know we were there for the last few days. Don';t know whether to go and see her in the funeral...
  4. pammy14

    My sister passed away

    Win passed away this morning in the early hours. I had been with her most of the time but was not there at the end. The nurse said she just slipped away in her sleep. It is a blessed release. Thanks to all who sent me good wishes this past fortnight, have not had time to go on the...
  5. pammy14

    EPA - accounting for cash?

    I have neverr had a problem with POA for my sister, who as you may know is now very poorly in hospital not expected to come out, but it wasn't registered don't know if it should be but nobody told me to so plead ignorance to that.. She put her house in our namesand we sold it a couplem of...
  6. pammy14

    no more intervention

    My brother and I went to see Win this afternoon. Chest infection now pneumonia and they have put a tube up her nose to clear the phlegm. spoke to senior doctor who has agreed gastric feeding would not be appropriate. she will either get over the pneumonia and have a little food or not.
  7. pammy14

    no more intervention

    Well back from short break although had to return early. Win was moved back to the care home on Friday and on saturday sent back to hospital with the same condition, choking on food aspirated and caused chest infection. We are now back to where we were 2 weeks ago. Back on drip and...
  8. pammy14

    no more intervention

    last nights visit she was more alert and able to eat yoghurts, The nurse said she choked at dinner time so the SALT team said only cold foods which I think she should have still been having. The home didn't turn up and the hospital didn't seem to know anything about it although it was...
  9. pammy14

    no more intervention

    Visited last night. Win had not eaten anything offered to her by the nurses refused to open her mouth. When I got there her teeth were coming out and she was covered in gravy type food. What a mess. Cleaned her up and they gave me a yoghurt for her which she ate along with some thickened...
  10. pammy14

    no more intervention

    Thanks everyone. Just back from visiting. I was able to give her about half a beaker of thickened water, small amout of dinner and some ice-cream which she swallowed without choking. I seem to be able to do it better than the nurses . It needs alot of time. Hope she can go back to the home...
  11. pammy14

    no more intervention

    win has now recovered from the chest infection and is now rehydrated from the intravenous drip. The doctors have decided not to use the drip again but to give her what food she can swallow, as her quality of life has deteriorated rapidly. The home will asses her on Monday so hope she can...
  12. pammy14

    Deterioration in care home

    Just been visiting and Win was actually slightly improved. Obviously she was dehydrated and with having the fluids she is now hydrated and was able to, smile at us and recognise us. That glazed look had got from her eyes. They are now saying that when the infection is cleared they will...
  13. pammy14

    Deterioration in care home

    Well the worst has happened now. Thursday taken to hopital after choking the doctor said she had aspirated something and that it would get infected and pneumonia could set in but he sent her back to the care home as their was nothing to be done. Yesterday they were trying to give her...
  14. pammy14

    Deterioration in care home

    went to see Win at the home yesterday. The sleeping pill the doctor had prescribed had made her completely out of it in the day and unable even to hold her head up when in the chair and consequently she fell out. No harm done but the home are not giving it her any longer and will tell the...
  15. pammy14

    Deterioration in care home

    Thankyou all for your kind words. Its just seeing someone who was always independant and capable reduced to this. It makes you wander why them but of course evceryone feels the same about their loved one. Will just keep visiting and be pleased when we get a knowing smile.
  16. pammy14

    Deterioration in care home

    As some of you may know I was looking after my sister for 18 months at my home when she went into respite at Christmas and is now a permanent resident at a care home. when she went in she could walk, feed herself a little with one hand, now she cannot walk, needs to be fed and has really...
  17. pammy14

    I can't stand this!!!!!!!!!!

    Hi I coped with going to work part-time and using daycentre and private carers. It worked well for my sister who lived with us until Xmas. Now she has gone into a care home and is settled but 18 months ago she would not have as she was not as bad as the people in the home but now she...
  18. pammy14

    blister

    went to see her this morning and she still has dressings on but her key worker isn't worried about her walking again. she says she stands up to go to the toilet and can't see aproblem. She looked very well cared for today so i was happier for her being there. goes to sleep alot but then I...
  19. pammy14

    blister

    Hi Amy, the blister under her heel I think is a pressure sore and the one on top of her other foot they say was from her shoes. Its hot in there so her feet have probably swelled and caused the shoe to rub. I can't fault their care as they sent for the district nurse as soon as they saw it...
  20. pammy14

    Dreaded day has arrived...

    My sister has also just gone into permanent care and she doesn't know. When we visit she knows us but has deteriorated in the 4 weeks she has been there. She has blisters on her feet and cant walk at present as they don't want her to put pressure on them. Will she walk again? nothing like...