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    CHC Fasttrack Review

    Can anyone shed any light on what the assessors will look at when doing a Fast track CHC review. Background, turned down in Jan at MDT but review was a complete farce. Incomplete records kept by home etc. Too much going on so didn't appeal but put comments to panel. Still turned down. 6...
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    Who has responsibility for poor care when CHC funded? NHS or SS?

    Thanks nitram. I have LPA for both health & finances. I have photo's of charts showing only one meal a day offered, no fluids offered for 3 or 4 hours. No cups of tea for weeks now. (mum is totally reliant for all care now) Plus a few other things. No one wants to listen, it is...
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    Who has responsibility for poor care when CHC funded? NHS or SS?

    Hello, Having ongoing problems with the care mum is currently receiving, this has been going on for quite some time and not improving. have previously raised safeguarding alert couple of months back but no feedback from SS. Now mum is CHC funded I rang CHC team to say i have concerns...
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    Awful daughter

    You are absolutely not an awful daughter. I am sure you don't want your dad to suffer or be in pain and this is why you feel this way. We all feel like this sometimes. We want their suffering to end. We love our parents so much it hurts to see what they are going through. I am guilty of this...
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    Rapid Decline/Safeguarding - please advise

    My mother in in the later stages on Dementia with Lewy bodies but until the last 6 weeks was able to maintain some conversation around her family and continues to recognise all of us and her friend. SHe does have periods or distress and is quite vocal but i think this is mainly due to staff not...
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    Should my dad come to my mum's funeral?: UPDATE

    Jess, first of all please accept my condolences for the loss of your mum. It must have been a very difficult day for you dealing with your own grief and worrying about your father. My parents have been married 50 years and both have dementia although a different stages. They live separately.I...
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    CHC Funding for Lewy Body Disease? Anyone got it?

    Just wondered if anyone has been awarded CHC NHS Funding for a family member with Lewy Bodies Disease? My mum is in the advanced stages and due to the nature of the disease i feel she scores Severe for communication and Behaviour. Due to the two being interlinked mums behaviour can vary...
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    CHC Assessment Fiasco!

    Sorry not scored 'highs' meant to say A's
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    CHC Assessment Fiasco!

    Looking for advice on how to proceed with this please. CHC Checklist completed 4 weeks ago and scored 2 A's. Another assessment completed approx 6 weeks before this scored 3 A's. No further action was taken. No full assessment was done for either checklists?? At the last assessment it was...
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    Visits back to mum's old home to see dad - Yes or No

    Thank goodness no one else thinks it's a good idea! The care home have been very good, and agreed to restricting outings until this is settled as my sister was planning it all behind my back while me and my daughter were in hospital! She did a similar thing last year when we were away telling...
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    Visits back to mum's old home to see dad - Yes or No

    Background is that i have POA for mum as she trusts me making decisions which i feel are best for mum Have a crazy sister who has never helped or been involved in mums care. She has recently been seriously ill (my sister)a couple of times and i think wants to try to make up for this a bit and...
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    Mum moving to Nursing EMI home tomorrow - how to handle it?

    Well i need not have worried. The actual move in itself went smoothly. Mum had had three good days of clear thinking and was in a happy mood when i picked her up under the false pretence of going for a drive. It was on the way there i had to start explaining the truth. That we were on the way to...
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    Mum moving to Nursing EMI home tomorrow - how to handle it?

    I know there is no easy answer to this, but mum is having to move from her nice cosy dementia home that she likes to and EMI Nursing home tomorrow. When the new home did the assessment i explained to mum what was happening, and she became distressed, agitated, vocal and upset, oh and mad. Why...
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    In a quandary - don't know what to do

    Thank you for your helpful reply alsoconfused. I rang the GP and she advised me to wait until the meeting on Thursday to see if mum qualifies for nursing care. She seemed to think another home might be better able to meet her needs. At the meeting we will go over the incidents and try to...
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    In a quandary - don't know what to do

    Mum is in a dementia care home and has generally settled well but she suffers night terrors and screams out a lot at night keeping the other residents awake. She is also showing mild signs of aggression such as digging in her nails when being moved, or slapping a carer during personal care...
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    Visiting Mum today at Care Home...nightmare!

    I thought i was the only one in the same situation! You have my sympathy with dealing with this as i know it too well myself. My dad is similar, 74 with moderate congnitive impairment, does not understand compassionate communication at all, always tells the truth even if it hurts massively...
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    Dementia (EMD) home cannot cope with mum - How does EMI placement differ? What to do?

    My mum was diagnosed with advanced dementia in 2012 although at the time she did not present to me as advanced at all. My dad also has dementia (moderate) and numerous chronic health complaints which are all in all very serious and currently ongoing. We are constantly attending hospital...
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    Nighttime incontinence - advice

    I tried the carer's trust and after being passed from pillar to post I was told there was a long waiting list for an advocate, and then in the end they said I had to get social services to put a referral in. So it all seemed like hard work and I needed their help asap not in 6 weeks! But I...
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    Nighttime incontinence - advice

    Yes I'm sure that would be fine, but they are telling me it takes 6 weeks for an assessment to get mum allocated the products. In the meantime they said they have some spare pads she can use. Maybe I can buy some myself. I did offer this as an interim solution but they didn't take it on.
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    Nighttime incontinence - advice

    Thank you for your prompt reply. The problem I am finding is that professionals don't want to stick there neck out and tell care homes they need to do things differently. This is why we had to leave the last home because they were neglecting mum, and although social services acknowledge there...