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    Care of Aunt - no POA

    I haven't visited this forum for some time, but remember wonderful support when my mother was ill - so I'm just hoping someone out there may have some ideas or advice for me. I have an 89 year old aunt, who has been living alone, but has recently suffered a mild stroke. She is now very...
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    How/where can I get care before diagnosis?

    My mum deteriorated fast so we only started looking at these things before realising she needed a care home. I'm sure someone with more experience will be along soon but to start you off. First question is funding - if self funding you'll be more or less on your own anyway. If assets are low...
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    Protecting mums finances

    The only thing I can add is to see if you can make what she has work for her. If she has a home consider renting it out. That's not necessarily straightforward as the chances are that you will need to spend money to make it rentable but still worth thinking about. It may not pay the fees but may...
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    Hi, am I in the right place?

    Our local Alzheimer's Society support worker offered to help with the Attendance Allowance forms. I haven't taken her up on it yet - you have to have needed support for six months and although my mum's quite bad the deterioration has been fast so we're not quite there yet. It might be worth...
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    My poor mother! I had two lovely visits. She didn't have a clue where she was, or what was going on, but seemed fairly painfree and happy. The first, she even seemed pretty self aware, just couldn't remember anything. She asked me what the names of my daughters were, and at the end apologised...
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    No more on Chick's thread, time to start my own

    Raggedy Ann said what I was trying to so much better. I'm sitting with my mum now. So sleepy, but when awake so confused, after her second op yesterday. That fall happened in hospital and I'm not sure could have been prevented but she's frail these days- there's nothing of her so weight...
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    No more on Chick's thread, time to start my own

    Don't want to butt in, but if you aren't sure he can walk, and he's trying to get up DO NOT LET THEM SEND HIM HOME. Not unless you have a very good care package (not just you). My mum just had her hip done. It's not comparable as your husband is obviously made of much tougher stuff, but trying...
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    Left spinning

    Lainey, I'm so sorry. I'm heading there myself. My mum has been in and out of hospital this year and now they've said further admissions are not in her best interests. Logically it's the right decision but it won't be any easier for me than it is for you. Make sure you are clear in your mind...
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    Well, so far, so good. The hip turned out to be dislocated rather than fractured this time, though a general anaesthetic was still needed. She's back on the ward after taking quite a time in recovery. They say she's stable, drinking, but very confused. Too late for a visit today. We shall have...
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    Lopsided because of stroke, so sad, but beam after four months looking incredibly fed up in hospital is unbelievably wonderful. Earlier post was badly phrased. My birthday is on Monday along with first day of exams for offspring nos 3&5 and first day of new job for offspring no1. As I said, just...
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    Visited my brother, and he looked so much happier than he did in hospital. He smiled at me:) The physios got him in his wheelchair, and when positioned so that he could see out of a window he beamed - all be it a lopsided beam these days. This really isn't the place for that news, but I really...
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    Ok. Just heard from the hospital. The x-ray was not good. No discharge, as they're operating again this afternoon.
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    Thank you Dottyd. Let's see what today brings. We don't yet have the results of her x-ray, so don't know if they will try to discharge my mum today. I also don't know if the care home will have her back. They do do end of life care, with the help of district nurses, but they are not a nursing...
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    Thank you everyone. It really does help. Who needs counselling when you've got TP? I have good news and bad. The last couple of days my mum has seemed so much brighter. The pain is either gone or manageable. I don't think she has any idea where or when she is - which is difficult as she's always...
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    Thank you everyone. I think I just needed to get it out. Sympathy does help! Spiro, I'm sorry for you as well. I think a sudden deterioration is something like a bereavement, it's just that it takes time to realise you've lost them, and, of course, there is still someone there that you want to...
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    Life turned upside down - so fast

    I miss my mum. This is just so hard. I've posted bits of her story, but need to do it again. If I start a thread just for her, I can update it - even if no one wants to read it, it may help me to put into words what has been happening. Only six months ago, she was absolutely fine. She may have...
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    Elderly dad in hospital - what to do next?

    Great information above. One question though is whether or not he would be self funding (assets over £23,750). You did say he had already been looking at care homes. My mother was in a very similar position though we were told she was going to be discharged with an initial four brief visits a...
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    Fractured hip and anaesthetic

    Won't go into what we're going through at the moment-not good. I just want to advise you to be very careful about discharge. My mother has some heart problems and it was obvious that things weren't as stable as they should be after her hip op. (Done urgently under general anaesthetic after...
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    When to action power of attorney

    Thank you Jennifer. That makes a lot of sense. I've been dealing with an EPA, and also have experience of how being a Deputy works, but haven't really needed to look into LPAs. I just know they're a lot more complicated! :) Maryland said that her husbands had been set up for years, so is...
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    When to action power of attorney

    Oh, and when you register an unregistered POA with the bank, they have to write to the donor telling them that you've done it. Assuming the donor still has capacity they have a chance to object to it then. As an attorney you have to sign when you register it that the donor does still have...