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  1. Loopiloo

    Its not marriage

    I don't think it is not a marriage. Of course it has changed due to illness but couples help and support each other through difficult times. Dementia is a cruel disease and a challenge though,no doubt about that. I always felt first and foremost I was a wife. But everyone is different...
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    Anticipatory grief in Majorca

    PS still having problems typing mainly my sight and also seeing the keyboard now I can no longer touch type, I did not mean the doctor was inappropriate saying I should go alone but I felt it would be inappropriate to leave Henry, and I did feel guilt. But it eased once I was there and settled.
  3. Loopiloo

    Anticipatory grief in Majorca

    Sorry my post stuck there, to cut a long story short It was all a nightmare on different levels No one spoke English so my faultering French was challenged - and medical terms :( But I managed.Once home and things more settled I suggested a quiet holiday in Pollenca Majorca. But Henry was not...
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    Anticipatory grief in Majorca

    It sounds marvelous on the lovely isle of Majorca although challenging cycling. My husbands dementia was the result of a stroke. It happened 10 days into a long planned holiday in France after he took early retirement following his 60th birthday. He was 9 days in a hospital in Brive miles...
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    What I have Learned about Dementure

    My husband had degrees of a sense of how things out to be for a long time. He was at home just we two, no help for 10 years, He had vascular dementia the biggest problem at home was the personality changes, he became viciously verbally aggressive. He had to go into acare home after a hip...
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    Who has stolen my husband?

    Oh Pete you did make me laugh - sorry (but with you and not at you!)and yes better to laugh that cry but damned hard a times,
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    Who has stolen my husband?

    TP also saved my sanity - I did not find it until my husband Henry was 10 years into dementia (vascular) and those years just the two of us at home. Then his last 5 years in a care home It has been helping me ever since through the long decline, death June 2 years ago and my grief as well as my...
  8. Loopiloo

    3 great days of respite

    That sounded lovely Agzy and also the sharing later. We had a wee touring caravan and a big awning and found it a wonderful way to "get away from it all" my husband love walking especially the Highland hills, fishing and photography and I also enjoyed photography and watercolour painting...
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    Music and dementia

    I do so agree Izzy. Hogmanay programmes on TV are rubbish now compared with the past. Ah yes the WhiteHeather Club!
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    Music and dementia

    we also had more Scottish programmes on TV ;) Now re music it is a brief Hogmanay appearance. Loo xxx
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    Music and dementia

    Thanks nae sporran. I think the 1970s was a fantastic time concerning music and some great songwriters - and singers! Yes life was good although one does not always appreciate that at the time! Memories grow more precious as time goes by..... Loo. xxx
  12. Loopiloo

    Music and dementia

    Sorry about the errors etc., a combination of deteriorating eye sight and a keyboard with a mind of its own! It especially likes to remove parts of what I type and insert them in a different area and neither parts then make sense.
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    Music and dementia

    Thanks for the link nae sporran. My husband adored music he had according lessons from when he was 12 could play the piano and later bought a good electrical keyboard. He could play anything on that from classical, opera to Scottish and much more. In the care home he loved when it was live...
  14. Loopiloo

    Pete has gone

    I never met you or Pete as others have done but send sympathy to you in your loss and long battle with dememtia. To my deep regret due to health problems I was unable to be with my husband when he died. Or daughter saw him shortly afterwards and said he no longer had the dementia face, looked...
  15. Loopiloo

    A new stage in my life...................

    Sorry Thanks Sylvia, you are so right about being tested to the hilt. Bu there is nothing I can do to change how it is so I can only accept that and try to take it day by day and try to deal with what they bring, Just wish the DWP brown envelopes would stop coming through the letterbox...
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    A new stage in my life...................

    !:eek: Love Loo xxx Thanks Sylvia, you are so right about being tested to the hilt. Bu there is nothing I can do to change how it is so I can only accept that and try to take it day by day and try to deal with what they bring, Just wish the DWP brown envelopes would stop coming through the...
  17. Loopiloo

    A new stage in my life...................

    New Love Dad but wrote What a lovely day that sounds. I so metimes think there is no rhyme or reason to who dies because of or despite this and that. I agree and think it is the luck of the draw, I thought I would go before Henry but here I still am and for what purpose I know not...
  18. Loopiloo

    Going on alone

    I also wish you well Sue. So many changes with good news and bad news. One day at a time is really the only way to go, fretting about what life throws at us is pointless when we cannot change anything. Hope you enjoyed your few days away, yes the weather will be changing, grandaughter...
  19. Loopiloo

    After Loss...

    I do agree with you Lady A, as well as others who have written here. and yes it does get better but the loss stays with us. and I think always will. It is part of you of who you now are, Love Loo xxx
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    What to do after death....

    I sympatise and empathise. It is not easy after a long marriage. My husband died in June 2016 this year we would have been married 60 years. He had vascular dementia due to a stroke in hs early 60's. We had 10 years at home struggling on our own then he was in a care home his last 5 years...