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    Diabetic Retinopathy

    My mum is late stage dementia, probably stage 6 of 7. She's also an insulin dependant diabetic. She's been in residential care since last October. We think although not diagnosed, she has diabetic retinopathy. We took her to the optician for a Check up at the weekend and the optician found fluid...
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    Here we go again

    No tigerlady it's all in her mind. She even thinks she used to work with the care home manager! Saying she didn't like him then and doesn't like him now!! I really thought being in care would take all the stress away but it's not the case at all. Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
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    Here we go again

    After settling into a new ch with her beloved cat with her, we thought at last some normality back in our lives. Today though, got a call from the home - it was mum, she said she has good news. She's seen a Dr who says she can go home. So can I collect her now. Her house is sold and she's been...
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    Not settling in NH and no intention of doing so

    My mum has been in care since October after a stint in hospital where it was decided she needed 24/7 care. She hated it instantly and caused a disturbance by banging on doors and trying to escape. At the time all she wanted was to go home and be with her beloved cat. We moved her in December to...
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    Struggling

    Mums been in CH for a month now. At first it was a nightmare with her trying to escape but she eventually settled. Christmas passed without much drama but now she's started phoning me every evening (asking the carers to call me for her) and asking why we've (me and my brother) put her there...
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    Thought id give an update. Mum is settling and even interacting with the other residents but she's deteriorating fast. She perked up when we sat with her on her own but I imagine that when we're not there she just sits and exists. There is a lot of activities like quizzes and Christmas things...
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    Hi Ellie - this is day 10 for mum. The home isn't a dementia specialist but we may have to end up moving her to one. Having said that, it's a really nice warm place and I'm happy with the choice. BUT she's not happy. We visited on Sunday and she seemed a lot more settled, but today my brother...
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    New in care home

    Mum has been in her nursing home now for 10 days. She was a nightmare the first 2 days trying to escape, but settled a little. I visited her Sunday with my brother and she was calm and reasonably lucid. My brother has just called her and she was hysterically sobbing, please don't leave me here...
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    Coping with visiting Mum

    I'm also suffering with grieving. Mum has spent her first week in a nursing home, but trying to escape at every opportunity. They had to take out a deprivation of liberties safeguard order to enable them to keep her in a locked in environment. The Dr came to assess her and she scored a 0. She's...
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    This one had a good QC report and reviews but it seems mum isn't for them! The care manager even went to the hospital to assess mum and reported back all was good and to come in immediately. She now says that mum is too mobile for them - because she had this melt down wanted to get out on...
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    Terry - I've read some of your posts and it sounds like my mum is very similar to yours. She went into hospital with an infection at the end of October and since that period she's gone way down hill. Paranoia and delusion is still there even after the infection has cleared up. She thinks she's...
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    I've found another home, bigger and modern that specialises in dementia. Im going to call them tomorrow and explain my situation to them, hopefully I get get some advice. I'm particularly annoyed with the care manager who told me my name was mud... Why would you feel the need to say this to...
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    Mrs TerryN - do you think this is a normal reaction? I feel so out of my depth here.... It's a living nightmare Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    Thank you.... Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    Since posting the above, I've called the home and she's trying to escape... And basically gone into melt down. They think it's not the right place for her and she needs dedicated dementia care. Oh god... This is a nightmare. Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
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    Mum moved into nursing home today

    .... I've rung up the nursing home and mum is very upset and cross that she's there. She thought she was going home. We've said its respite care until she's better - she's been in hospital since 27th October with a foot infection. She's late stage vascular and Alzheimer's and no longer to live...
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    Mum going into care home

    It has been decided this week that mum has to go into a nursing home. She is a 77 year old insulin diabetic with mixed dementia (late stage vascular/Alzheimer's). We've found a lovely home, more like a country house which has an excellent QC report and scored 10 in reviews. The general managers...
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    Decisions

    Thanks for all your comments. I think the next stage is respite care and then she will be assessed by occupational therapy and then we can form a plan. It's so stressful and upsetting. Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
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    Decisions

    My mum is entering into the late phase. She knows who we are but often mixes up names. She is in living assisted accommodation but thinks she's in a home which is becoming a nuisance to the staff. We have carers in twice a day for medication and a district nurse to help administer insulin as...
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    Frustrated and upset

    My mum is moving into late stage of vascular dementia and she's also a severe diabetic. She lives in a living assisted self funded flat which is 24 hour warden assisted and has a dining room where she has a lunch everyday. We have carers in twice a day to help with medication and a district...