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    Dads Notes

    Care notes legal situation? I wonder if the CSCI might be able to advise you about this? www.csci.org.uk Or the Alz Soc or CAB?
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    Dementia from one daughter's perspective.

    Hi Amy and everybody Amy, you asked: I know what you mean about "mentally detaching" Jane, but doesn't even doing that make you feel guilty, as if in some way you do not love enough? Yes, it makes me feel very guilty indeed and as if I don't love her enough, but I know I'm doing all I can even...
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    Paranoid delusions after surgery

    Peripheral neuropathy Hello Michael I know there are many different causes of PN, and its often not traceable to a specific cause, but in Dad's case an MRI scan revealed advanced arthritic changes in his cervical vertebrae. This had resulted in his spinal cord becoming squashed and diverted -...
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    Paranoid delusions after surgery

    Just invested in an extra 1/2 hour on the computer - the information is very helpful indeed Sandy - it puts my mind at rest and I'll be able to reassure Dad with more conviction when I see him later. Thanks a lot.
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    Paranoid delusions after surgery

    Hello Michael and Sandy I'll follow up the links Sandy - thanks. Strangely enough Michael, Dad's surgery (laminectomy) was for peripheral neouropathy in the first place, and thankfully his legs seem to have improved since last week. They've put him on an anti-anxiety drug which seems to be...
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    Dementia from one daughter's perspective.

    Hi Amy and everybody Amy, I think your and my Mums are at a similar stage - my Mum too can only now move her arms, and her hands are getting stuck in a clenched position (which makes it very difficult to keep them clean). Some days when I go she's smiling and laughing - others she's asleep...
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    Paranoid delusions after surgery

    Hi everyone Although its my Mum who has dementia, this is a question about Dad: he's 80 and last week had surgery under general anaesthetic. He's normally totally alert, logical, on the ball and bright, but he's started to suffer from really terrifying and distressing delusions of being...
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    It's over

    I'm so sorry Zan - I'll be thinking of you.
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    For Dementia - Charity for Carers

    Admiral nurses Hi noelphobic and Michael I don't know about the charity, but I do know that Admiral nurses are genuine - they exist mainly in the south of England and in the Manchester area, but hopefully they will become more widespread as time goes on. See this link...
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    C4 Mon 27th 9pm

    Hi Dearth Just been reading about you and your new job in another thread - I want to add my congratulations to all the others! Its so heartening to read about your genuine interest and enthusiasm for dementia care and your intention to work to improve things - you are a special person for both...
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    C4 Mon 27th 9pm

    Laughter:D and smiles:) (and cuddles) are the things that my Mum and I can still share (she has advanced vascular dementia), so for us they are incredibly important. And the laughter usually isn't about anything in particular - most importantly its our means of connecting with each other, so I...
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    My Mum has vascular dementia

    Hi Margaret My Mum suffers from vascular dementia too, and now lives in a nursing home as her condition is advanced. I'd just like to echo everything Amy has suggested, especially: Get in touch with your GP and see about getting a CPN to call; it will give you some support. Don't be put off by...
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    Mothers Day Cards

    Flowers Hi Donna and everyone else My Mum's dementia is advanced too, so this may well be our last Mothers' Day too (though I thought that last year too). I'll buy Mum flowers because evn now her face lights up when I hold them close so she can see.
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    Later stages dementia - care at home?

    Do keep in touch Robert, and let us know how you're getting on. Take care.
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    C4 9pm Monday 27th

    Sorry - posted this in wrong section - have repeated it in 'Raising awareness'
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    C4 Mon 27th 9pm

    Hi everyone Tony Robinson, whose mother had Alzheimers, has made a programme about their experiences called 'Me and My Mum'. Its going to be shown on Channel 4 at 9pm on Monday 27th March.
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    C4 9pm Monday 27th

    Hi everyone Tony Robinson, whose mother had Alzheimers, has made a programme about their experiences called 'Me and My Mum'. Its going to be shown on Channel 4 at 9pm on Monday 27th March.
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    Wheee! Highlight of the day

    Dave Hi Dave So glad you've been able to send the Guilt Monster packing (or not, in the case of your holiday!!) ;) Have a great time and a good rest.
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    Later stages dementia - care at home?

    Robert Hello Robert I've read your posts and have been pondering your situation, which sounds so like my Dad's. My Dad has just heard that he's to go into hospital on Monday for essential spinal surgery - if that had happened when he was caring for Mum at home he would have simply cancelled...
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    Later stages dementia - care at home?

    Hello Maria First of all, you're not alone - we're all here for you. I'm sorry things are so bad at the moment - I can't offer you any real advice, although I'm sure other members will read your post who can help you. It sounds to me as if you've done the best thing possible for your Dad - he...