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    Feeling numb.....

    I haven't returned to Talking Point for over 2 years as I reached a point of pure exhaustion juggling Mum's mixed VasD and Alzheimers, Dad's multiple physical health problems etc. When I look back over the past 8 years, it hardly seems credible that so much has happened but in a cruel stroke...
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    Sleeping

    Hi Jacqui, my Mum is 6/7 year post onset and now sleeps about 11 pm to 12 noon, gets up and is often snoozing again by 2.00 pm for a couple of hours or more. Dad is main Carer still but he is age 83 and I think he chooses to let her sleep as it is easier for him(he has own health problems). I...
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    good bye from frederic H

    So very sorry for your loss Frederic. Your wife is now at peace; look after yourself.
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    Dad has suddenly come alive with old stories

    Hi, my Mum is in 6/7 th year of mixed A & VasDem and struggles with many conversations but loves talking about the past and becomes lucid, animated etc. I know for a fact she mixes some genuine memories up but it really doesn't matter. Every Sunday dinner time when Mum and Dad are with us we...
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    Fantastic teddy bear advice...

    Teddy's and fur It has been many months since I posted for a whole host of reasons but I logged in this morning as I actually have a day to myself with nothing I 'have to do' and saw this thread about Teddy. Mum is not able to remember it is Christmas as such but can live in, and enjoy, 'the...
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    Too many rocks and hard places to choose between

    We are in the same boat aren't we? Feels like the Titanic and everywhere you look there is great big iceberg.
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    Too many rocks and hard places to choose between

    This week has been another joyful one - Mum refusing more support at home because she doesn't want .... do you know, I am sick of hearing myself repeat more lousy experiences. In a nutshell, Mum been vile two nights out of three and I am supposed to be taking them to visit this Supported...
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    Too many rocks and hard places to choose between

    Glimmer of hope amongst the rocks and hard places After two admissions to hospital for mini strokes, poor Dad admitted third time on 27 Feb as emergency with nerve damage to legs and severe gout across whole foot so immobile. Cared for Mum (or juggled carers, family and friends) for 10 days til...
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    Bad week

    I can really empathise with everything you have written and had a near mirror situation with my own Mum when I had to miss the funeral and then the memorial service for someone who had been a mentor, inspiration and just a fabulous person in my life. I relate to all the terrible personal...
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    Mother's Day card

    Welcome! Hi Maggie Rosie, welcome to TP. Hope you find it as helpful and supportive as I have. It's also good to feel you can help others when they need it. :)
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    Too many rocks and hard places to choose between

    Hi, you are right about the attention on Mum but he worries about her if she isn't cared for too. I have asked for a meeting with her Consultant and should know more tomorrow ....care at home is also being stepped up. My daughter is 26, incredibly supportive and mature and I rarely ask her to...
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    Useless

    Hi Alicenutter, I recognised my Mums early story in your words and just wondered if the medications could simply go in a 'blister pack'. My Mum did the same with some medications so the pharmacist arranged for medications to be sealed in plastic trays and although the name of the medication is...
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    Too many rocks and hard places to choose between

    Calm before another storm? Last time I posted Dad had just had another minor stroke; Mental Health worker went in with Social Worker to try and move things on towards care options (chocolate fireguard springs to mind). I Got as far as persuading Dad to have pendant alarm, GP made more changes...
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    What a difference a day makes!

    Your post gives me hope, thank you. I am so glad you have had a good start. Mum's Mental Health worker and in-house Social Worker are going to visit her and Dad on Monday to try and arrange same thing to help Dad have much needed break and recovery time after stroke. I truly believe the company...
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    Too many rocks and hard places to choose between

    Sorry I didn't do an up-date sooner but each day brings a different turn. Mum continues in much the same way but I'm convinced she has more capacity than she sometimes let's on. We saw Consultant on 4th, he again told Mum she has dementia when she questioned him time and again and he strongly...
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    Too many rocks and hard places to choose between

    Thank you for all responses to "too many rocks and hard places". I really appreciate so many thoughts, ideas and shared experiences, successes and regrets. I fear I would bore you with the details but since my original post so many changes keep occurring including Mum being vile verbally to me...
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    Too many rocks and hard places to choose between

    Not even sure any more if Mum is in middle stages as apparently she has a complex case of alzheimers/dementia/depression and anxiety and we aren't always sure which we are facing. Taken so much comfort, guidance and ideas from TP but feeling bit overwhelmed about what/where/how to move forward...
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    Not eating, but not that far gone

    Having similar problems with Mum but she is still at her own home wth 82 yr old Dad. Had a previous 'no eating' phase but it passed for about 3 months and recently restarted. Been again tonight and Dad eating nice dinner my sister had taken them but Mum refused all food all day ( but refused to...
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    Feeling hopeless

    Hi Alison, hope you don't mind me commenting as I'm not in the same position as you are but I couldn't help but wonder what support you have for you? Do you get time just for you, your own interests, meet with your own friends at all? I know for me a 'sounding board' away from the family and the...
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    End of life? How long, it's so painful

    Welcome Shazedge to TP. I am so so sorry to read about the massive and such rapid changes in your poor Dad and the terrible impact it has had on your Mum and family. I'm not the right person to offer advice because my Mum's decline, whilst anger, aggression etc are part of it, has not taken us...