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    not posted for a long time

    thanks for your replies Grannie G and Annoula, I appreciate your time. It is very difficult. and it is hard. I used to shed bucket loads of tears but now I take it in my stirde. I know mum would never have said those things to me before she became ill, and if she knew what she was saying she...
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    not posted for a long time

    Hello everyone I have not posted for a long while but have been on here every day following other people's stores. Sadly mum will hve nothing to do with me at all, refuses to let me in her house if the door is locked , if the door is unlocked and I go in she leaps up off the chair and goes...
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    Very Sad

    Thanks you so so much for all your replies. It means so much to me. I hate "talking" about mum in this way but I know you all understand. Please don't judge her, before this illness she was the best mum anyone could wish for she gave us anything and everything including her love and...
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    Very Sad

    Feel very sad and upset today Mum said last night when I called round that she wished I had died when my dad did! (meaning me not herself!) Now I know you are all going to say "it's nother it's the illnesss" and I know this myself but it is so so hard to hear those words coming from you own...
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    What Do I Do ?

    thank you all of you for your really helpful (and reassuring) replies. I have tried all the things you have all said. and yes I think I do try and impose my higher standards on her and make her feel a failure because of her own incapabilities. I just hadn't actually realised or thought of it...
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    What Do I Do ?

    I am in a dilemma Mum has been increasingly refusing to let me do anything at all for her. Last week I tried to mop her kitchen floor and she took the mop off me and hit me over the h ead with it. If I try and wipe down worktops or dust she goes absolutely mad, strats trying to hit me and...
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    how do you know when the time is right

    We are struggling with mums care more and more at present. I have been on this forum previously stating how she is very reluctant to let us help her as she feels there is nothing wrong but she will not have a bath without a row, when she is in the bath she refuses to wash or be washed. She...
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    don't think we are looking after her well enough

    thank you so far for your replies it makes me feel so much better just reading them. We shall carry on for now and I shall try not toget stressed out because mum isn't acting like mum any more. I think the problem is mine because I just don't want to accept that mum would be h appy living...
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    don't think we are looking after her well enough

    I have been trying to look at mums situation as an outsider looking in for a while now and have come to the conclusion that even though we (my brother and I) think we are looking after mums best interests, we do think we are failing her somehow. Don't get me wrong, we try very hard to feed...
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    aaaaaaaggggghhhhhh !

    I am at a loss what to do at present and feel like we are sinking. We try really hard to look after mum, even though she doesn't think she need slooking after My brother and I care for mum ( we are trying to keep her in her own home as long as we can! ) whilst we try to hold down full time...
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    constant rage

    thank you all for your responses so far, I feel better already knowing I am not alone. It really does help to "talk". I am going to speak with mums CPN, or one of the MATS team nurses on Friday and see is they can help at all. Mum is on anti-psychotic drugs but she has been on the same...
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    constant rage

    Just need to talk if you don't mind. not sure what to do. mum was prescribed Aricept in November and has had a further assessment in January whereby the dose was increased from 5mg to 10mg daily. she has had no side effects at all, but coincidentally she has been in varying degress of what I...
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    problem ?

    Hello sorry not posted in a while as been busy with one "thing or my mother" just a question if anyone can make any suggestions mum will not wear her bra, (she is 75 years old) but no matter what I cannot make her put her bra on, she says they hurt her and she can't breathe. I think it is...
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    how do you cope

    I do get the clothes out from where she has hidden them and say here they are mum, but she just goes into a further rage and says "they are not mine! you know where mine are" she denies ever having seen them before and thinks they are just old rags i have planted there. she actually shudders...
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    how do you cope

    :( I would like to ask how people cope with the anger when something is directed at them that simply isn't true. I have read many of the threads with regard to telling lies to our relatives for an easy life and to save them from the distress of being told daily that a loved one has died etc...
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    being prescribed Aricept

    Well I did as you suggested and contaced mum's GP.... waste of time. His answer to me when I explained the situation and asked him could he do a chase up for us was "well I have 80,000 patients on my books and I cannot chase matters for all of them" My answer to him was. "Well my mum is...
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    being prescribed Aricept

    Hi Sorry not posted for a while, things have been plodding on with mum, she is getting more stubborn with me when I try to do anything for her and won't let me even make her a cup of tea, she is happy with her own brew (usually just hot water cos she forgets to put milk, sugar and even the...
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    Throwing things away

    Thanks you to all of your for your replies, it does make me feel better to know mum is not the only one, that does this but it is still so heartbreaking to go to mums and fidn that yet another item has gone. I just feel that when mum goes too my brother and I will have nothing of mum and dad...
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    Throwing things away

    Hi everyone, I have not posted for a while, been busy as working full time, trying to look after mum and keep her in her own home and also have a little granddaughter which I would like to spend more time with....................aaaaagh being pulled in all directions. Anyway, I was just...
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    Role of CPN

    Mum is finally getting a visit by CPN this week after 1 year of waiting! Apparently he is to visit together with a doctor. What I would like to know is what exactly is the role of the CPN now we have one in place. We need to know what is expected of the CPN to ensure mum gets the correct...