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  1. Guzelle

    Two years to get this bad. What now?

    So sorry for your loss. I’ve followed your posts and was glad she would seen you again when you brought the puppy in.
  2. Guzelle

    Dementia’s journey

    The home don’t Skype me because it upsets him and makes him more agitated. I have spoken to him on the phone once but he didn’t know what was happening. He just wanted to come home like he always does. I wish I could see him as he had a fall the other day and he had to go to A&E . Then he had a...
  3. Guzelle

    Dementia’s journey

    I can’t visit my OH now and worry he will forget who I am. I tried to explain to him about the virus but he couldn’t understand. They won’t remember to change his hearing aid batteries I will have to keep ringing to remind them as he doesn’t think to ask them either.! my daughter’s in-laws...
  4. Guzelle

    Information re Memantine

    I would contact the pharmacy and make sure it isn’t for someone else. If it’s not I would speak to the doctor as this should be discussed before taking them.
  5. Guzelle

    here's a new one on me...

    My husband had a poo in the urinal in the church. He was shouting he couldn’t find the flush! I had to clean it all. I do find poo in the drive, in the kitchen sink and bin! My cat does it at the bottom of the stairs! We have a cat flap she can go out!
  6. Guzelle

    New to this forum, am struggling

    I would try different homes as the home my husband is in is very secure. They don’t tolerate physical aggression if it’s happening all the time. Try the respite you do need a break.
  7. Guzelle

    New to this forum, am struggling

    My husband was diagnosed 3.5 years ago now, he was verbally and physically aggressive my life was a nightmare I would cry most days as I couldn’t cope with him. He was under the mental health team who gave him mementine at first and it did work well for about 6 months. He has vascular dementia...
  8. Guzelle

    Two years to get this bad. What now?

    No you are normal. It’s not normal to give your own life up to for someone else! We do it gradually until it takes over completely. I kept trying to get help for my husband but he wouldn’t accept anyone he just wanted me! Everyone needs their own space and time or we go insane and you can’t look...
  9. Guzelle

    Two years to get this bad. What now?

    Happy New Year everyone. I spent it alone as my OH is in a care home, although he would have gone to bed early not really knowing it was New Year’s Eve! I enjoyed hearing about your trip @AL60 to New York. I don’t think I would be brave enough to go alone like you. I did think about going to...
  10. Guzelle

    Two years to get this bad. What now?

    It sounds horrendous with the fires I hope you get some rain soon!
  11. Guzelle

    Hearing aids and dementia

    My husband had NHS hearing aids but never found them good enough we went to hidden hearing and they have been much better. He had his second pair last year as the older ones couldn’t be adjusted anymore. He is in a care home now and does sometimes misplace them but touch wood they have always...
  12. Guzelle

    Has my husband got the signs of dementia?

    My husband is now in a care home but this is how he was in the early stages. He would accuse me of bullying him when I was trying to help him. He was always critical of things I said and did. He would argue about anything. He would have days when he seemed more his old self aswell. I also...
  13. Guzelle

    3 generations, 1 with dementia all under 1 roof

    It sounds to me she definitely needs to be in a care home if she is not washed and dressed. It’s too much for you and your husband she needs professional care by a team of people. Your husband will feel guilty but he will feel much better when he sees her clean and properly medicated. My husband...
  14. Guzelle

    I need someone to talk to

    It’s a shame they don’t talk to him, the mental health nurse did talk to him about my needs aswell. Telling him I needed to go out alone or with friends and needing my own space. It did work for a while when I went to the spa with my daughter he was fine when I got back.
  15. Guzelle

    Probably discussed loads of times..

    I don’t think people have any idea if they haven’t been through it. The needs of a PWD take all of our time and our own life stops. The demands on the carer are more than anyone can imagine.
  16. Guzelle

    I need someone to talk to

    Hi Vitesse in the early days if my OH was being awful I’d ring the memory clinic and they sent 2 heavily built black men my OH was a little scared of them and would listen to them when they were telling him about his behaviour. One was telling him about how he used to be a boxer. They were both...
  17. Guzelle

    Mum would like dad to go into care home !

    My husband is exactly your dad he wouldn’t go to day centre or let me go anywhere and i was crying almost everyday. He could be verbally abusive or aggressive. I needed an operation in august on my eye so he had to into respite. He refused and said he could take care of himself which he could...
  18. Guzelle

    I need someone to talk to

    And into the Peak District. She was good and wouldn’t take no for an answer. He went into respite because I had to go into hospital I had to lie to get him there and pack a bag secretly. He is still there and I know it was time as I couldn’t carry on caring as I was very depressed. He is in...
  19. Guzelle

    I need someone to talk to

    My husband is just the same he has vascular dementia and wanting me all the time, getting annoyed if I spoke to anyone. Getting aggressive if I went out for a short while. He was seeing the mental health team who prescribed risperidone which would help for a while then the symptoms would be...
  20. Guzelle

    I need someone to talk to

    My husband is just the same he has vascular dementia and want