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    Coronavirus

    Unfortunately the problem with the home made sanitiser is that vodka is only 40% alcohol and you need 60% alcohol to kill the virus :-(
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    Mum has inherited dad's business, WHAT is the correct business structure HMRC, VAT & BANKING

    I run a business myself and I would want to get professional advice in this situation. I assume that the business has an accountant? I think that they would be the first person to speak to. If you have LPA for your father there should be no problem with them talking to you (although you will...
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    Sectioning!

    While sending Mum to respite without your consent isn't what you want might it not actually help in this case? If they struggle to cope with Mum in the same way as you do they will refuse to look after her and insist that the hospital sort her medication out. It gives you even more backing. The...
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    Anyone had an experience to do with Arachnoid Cysts?

    My husband (mid 40s at the time) had an arachnoid cyst show up on a scan for something else. I have no idea what part of the brain. Since he was having balance issues that there wasn't an obvious reason for and there was a possibility that the cyst might be involved they decided to drain it so...
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    Voting

    I don't think that you are actually allowed in to the voting booth with Mum. The staff can help but I don't think that you can. Is there a phone number on the voting card where you can phone to check?
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    A lifelong friend and me

    I would guess the "Emergency" rating is how they would have to react if you had fallen under the proverbial London bus and there was no-one at all to look after your Mum. The "Urgent" rating has allowed them to drag this out because they know you are there to do the caring. I am mad on your...
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    Call Blocking - Certain outgoing calls

    A truecall unit (https://www.truecall.co.uk/Default.asp) should be able to help at last partially. The "Secure" version, can certainly block some outgoing calls but it might take a bit of tweaking the settings to stop your nan entirely. They aren't cheap but they do work! We have a standard...
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    It's life Jim - but not as we know it!

    I know this won't apply to all areas but my local library has an "app" (BorrowBox in my case) where I log in with my library card details and I can download eBooks and eAudiobooks entirely free. It works like a physical library in that you "loan" books and can "reserve" it if someone else has it...
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    How to persuade dad he needs to register LPA?

    I wouldn't necessarily recommend it but.... you can include a clause in the LPA that says it only comes into effect after (a doctor or similar says that) the person has lost capacity. My parents did that. How I will get the confirmation if I ever need to use the LPA I don't know but I will worry...
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    Breaking point.....

    I would guess this is connected to you not being able to get the 12 week disregard. I think you would have to prove that Mum was left the house by Dad so therefore "owned" it even if her name isn't on the paperwork yet. Because the situation is a bit different from usual you might need legal...
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    Twiddle muff

    Its not quite the same as a twiddle muff but I have seen suggested a wooden board with more diy style bits attached to it to fiddle with. So maybe a metal bolt mechanism screwed on that slides up and down, some keys on a sturdy metal chain, a door handle (doesn't need to open anything), a...
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    A quick question about LPAs

    I think the critical bit is actually that sentence - who actually posted the forms to the OPG back in 2015? Was it you, the other attorney or maybe a solicitor who did the work for you? If it wasn't actually you it is possible one of the other options has the "original registered document". I...
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    Joint account advice

    Hi snorkmaiden, I've not heard about sort of problem :eek: I know when I got married I added my new hubby onto my account and he added me onto his. The bank didn't actually care that the reason was we were now married (in fact there were adverts not that long ago suggesting the people sharing...
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    Joint account advice

    I think the problem here is the difference between the legal situation and "moral" situation for want of a better word. If your Mum has been a full joint account holder with your Grandma for 15 years or so then legally at that time your Mum became joint "owner" of that money - whether Grandma...
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    Winter fuel allowance

    I'm not 100% sure it is entirely the move into care that has caused the reduction. I saw my Dad's letter earlier (living at home with Mum, no dementia involved) and his was at the lower £150 rate. I think there must be some change if there is more than one person living in the house due the fuel...
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    Understanding scores. M-ACE and Bristol Daily Living

    Hi Georgetown, I think it is safe to say that you have the same sort of engineering brain as my husband :D:D:D You want logical answers for everything and unfortunately the human brain and body don't seem to work that way. Part of the reason you aren't finding anything about age related...
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    Change in executor

    Although your father is the executor for your aunt (currently) there is no requirement that he actually does the work when your aunt dies :D He can appoint anyone he chooses to do the work for him although he obviously retains the overall responsibility to make sure things are done "properly"...
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    Bed gates like in hospital

    The reason that care homes (with respect to dementia patients in particular) don't use rails is that a PWD in a bed with rails could try to climb over the rails and then fall - from a higher height that if they had just fallen out of bed! Care home beds can normally be raised and lowered. What...
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    First visit to respite

    From experience with new glasses (I am VERY short sighted) I would guess that the best bet would be to give Mum the new glasses first thing in the morning - preferably before she has had her old ones on. If you can manage to get her to keep them on for gradually increasing times you will...
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    Incontinence bed-sheets?

    At this time of year it is possible that, even with both you and the company doing everything correctly, next day delivery might slip by a day :( If you are flying does the airline know that one of the party has some degree of "illness/disability"? It is possible that you might be granted...