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    I'm Venting Again. Friend Died. Mother Oblivious and Making Me Crazy.

    When someone has paranoid schizophrenia as my mum has, you have to do things their way. There is no such thing as standing up to them or being tougher or taking charge. If you do anything against them the result is hysteria, violence, and non-stop reminders for weeks afterwards of how you have...
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    I'm Venting Again. Friend Died. Mother Oblivious and Making Me Crazy.

    Thanks for the comments, Andrea. I know you mean well, but you make it sound as if it is so easy to "take charge". My mother has paranoid schizophrenia. I am recovering from a nervous breakdown and also suffer from clinical depression, anxiety disorder and panic disorder. I can't even "take...
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    lorazepam v aggression and agitation

    Hi Beate, Thanks. My mum has been on a few of those anti-psychotics for her schizophrenia and she's currently on Risperadone, been on it for years. She has to take it to stop hearing her voices in her head and the more severe violent behaviour, but only takes doses large enough to do that...
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    lorazepam v aggression and agitation

    Hi Patty. Did they say why Rispiradone is only for a week? LS
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    I'm Venting Again. Friend Died. Mother Oblivious and Making Me Crazy.

    Thanks everyone. You're right. I need a break. If it were only my dad, it'd be no problem. I can take any amount of him even with dementia. It's mum. I just wish I could see dad on Skype, but not her. But I could never be so mean as to say to her "don't come on, I just want to talk to dad"...
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    I'm Venting Again. Friend Died. Mother Oblivious and Making Me Crazy.

    Thanks, Jeany. I just want to go and sit on a desert island. We all know how that is. LS
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    death in the family

    Hi Axtabis, Sorry to hear your aunt passed. It's up to you, but my opinion is that when someone has dementia the "right to know" issue is different. I think it is only applicable to people who are in their right state of mind. Many dementia sufferers can't cope with that kind of news, and I...
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    OK I am done with this dementia business. I can't go on. I am sick and tired of tryin

    Thank god for that! So glad you called the Samaritans! We all understand how you get to the point where you can't take it anymore. We are all here to support each other. Talk to us. LSxxx
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    I'm Venting Again. Friend Died. Mother Oblivious and Making Me Crazy.

    The first half of today was very good. I felt cheerful for the first time in ages. Went to see my psychiatrist and he made me feel really positive. He said I didn't need more pills for my depression and anxiety and panic disorder. However, he said my 3-day headaches were due to stress, probably...
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    muscat

    Hi Muscat, Welcome to TP. I'm sorry I don't have the info you need, but I'm boosting this post to the top so someone else can see it and hopefully give you an answer. LS
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    Sudden Sharp Decline in Dad

    Thanks, Looviloo. Yes, I think you are right, b/c he did say "Thank you thank you" after listening to the music. I dunno. I am usually strong b/c I have to be for mum's sake. She's there with him 24/7. But sometimes I feel like I am locked up in the house there with them too. I think...
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    Sudden Sharp Decline in Dad

    Hi Looviloo, Yes, I'm hoping he'll pick up again. He enjoyed his first song but the last one had him in tears. It's so sad. I sing Brendan Shine so much that I hear his songs in my sleep. Thanks again, LS
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    Sudden Sharp Decline in Dad

    Thanks, Mrs Busy. He's not had a change of meds or circumstances. Doesn't seem to have any infections or anything like that. I suspect it might be that mum is overwhelming him a bit. She often still talks to him exactly if he is 100% in possession of his faculties. For example today I could...
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    Sudden Sharp Decline in Dad

    This last week, dad's mental state has declined dramatically. Up to then, we could have a very basic conversation on Skype. He could at least exchange a few words for a minute or so. This week, he's managed a hello then immediately asked for music. I play him his favourite Irish folk songs on...
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    Constant stress, and paperwork

    I sympathize with you all. I'm in the same boat. Live 6,000 miles away and I'm an only child. Dad has dementia and mum has absolutely no idea how to do anything financial (always relied on dad). She doesn't even know how to read her own bank statement. In fact, she didn't know what a bank...
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    Worried about the symptoms my mum is having

    Hi Weebs, I agree with everything Millicent says here. I have had and am still having these symptoms. I am on tablets for anxiety and depression after having a nervous breakdown in January, and my memory is absolutely shot. I actually said to my doctor that I was behaving like my dad who has...
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    I am a dutiful daughter.

    It was me. The board suggestion was "I am in a dysfunctional relationship with someone with dementia". I think my tagline was "Caring for formerly abusive parents who do not deserve it". A sense of humour is essential to avoid going nuts. LS
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    My dad's eyes have changed

    My dad's dementia is very changeable, and sometimes it's almost like he is possessed. At that time, his eyes glaze over and his whole face kind of sags. He really doesn't look like himself at all. At this time he'll either cry or be angry/violent. Then later on he'll kind of come back - he will...
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    I am a dutiful daughter.

    Hi Andrea :) There are quite a few of us on here in similar situations to yours, me included. I've had a hell of a time with my mum due to her mental illness right from my early childhood. My dad did nothing, just let her get on with it. Now he has dementia and she's his carer and they both...
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    Dads refusal to attend doctor or admit he has problems

    Hooray! Now just keep your fingers crossed till you've actually got his ass through that doctor's surgery door! LS