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    Does anyone else feel like this?

    Dear susiesue don't forget I'm further along than you are and yes sometimes a certain place, a certain scent will instantly take you right back,but it gets easier. and we each will take our own time to reach that place. one thing that still sends me into a deep depression is I still...
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    Does anyone else feel like this?

    Dear Sue My mum died almost two years ago and I am only just getting back to living my life. I haven't been on this site for most of that time as it was too painful and it's still only on good days that I can bear to read the threads. It took me one year to go into her room and redecorate...
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    Not coping

    Hi all Haven't been on since mum died back in March. I was busy at first, things to do, funeral etc. When I first got back home I was fine - knew where I was going, what I had to do etc. But then I just fell into this dark hole and I can't seem to get out of it. At first I couldn't seem...
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    Mum has gone

    Am still here sitting in Kent, should be on my way to Nottingham, but I keep putting it off. Things seem to be getting worse - I guess they will, before they get better. I seem to be shutting down and finding it hard to do anything, all I want to do is go to bed and pull the duvet over my...
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    Mum

    Cold hearted mum I have the same experience but i discovered at the time of her diagnosis that she had a long standing mental illness and also there was a history of abuse from her dad. It certainly explained her cold, abusive behaviour toward me and lots of the blanks suddenly made sense...
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    Mum has gone

    Happy Mother's Day everyone. Today was gruelling. I found I just kept bursting into tears, as each son arrived with gifts and cards it reinforced the loss and another bout of tears arrived. Have found it necessary to get out of the house each day in order to raise my spirits, so the dogs...
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    Mum has gone

    Thank you all for your kind words. It's made me feel not quite so alone, but that's what TP is all about. Everytime in the past when I've come on and posted, sometimes at my wits end, when I've read your responses - I've had the strengh to carry on. This is a really special place and I'm so...
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    Mum has gone

    Hi everyone Mum passed away late Thursday night. It was very peaceful but sod's law, I wasn't in the room with her when it happened. At the moment I am lost and can't cope with the silence and not having a million people coming and going. Ironically, we had finally sorted out all the...
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    Hi there everyone

    Thought I'd say 'hello' and give a quick update. Just been reading some of the latest threads and nothing changes, same old, same old. Quite depressing really, so many people going through what I've been through as newbies. Anyway..... To recap - got mum home (my home) almost a year ago...
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    Happy Birthday Michael

    Just saw it was your b'day as I was about to log off, so thought I'd send you the greeting. love ellie
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    Warning - don't complain

    Yes, you're right girls. I know the male carer is going to put in a formal complaint on Monday because he's worried it's going to affect his position - he's not been with this company long. He also thinks that he may be taken off mum's calls to protect us both which would be a shame as he's...
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    Warning - don't complain

    Hi everyone Just to let you know I have had a response from my MP and he has been in touch with my local SS and they are going to be contacting me. So I am hopeful of things improving now. Fingers crossed. Thanks Roseann - you tried and I'm v. grateful. But things have taken a...
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    Why are the "professionals" so keen to get my MIL into a home|?

    Hi Doreen I had the same reaction. I had to continously fight all concerned and sometimes they looked at me as if I had two heads, just because I wanted to bring my mother home. I wouldn't say I'm a natural carer but I still maintain looking after mum (and she is hard work, aggressive...
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    Warning - don't complain

    Hi all Ok, firstly I have emailed my MP(thanks Tina and gigi), secondly, a very nice guy called Peter came to see me today and among the things he's offered help with is attempting to get mum;s care thingy (sorry bad day - mum has already poured tea over the piano and attempted to eat some...
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    Warning - don't complain

    Hi Roseann No i don't have a CPN since moving mum to my home but the one she had in Notts wasn't much good. It's also complicated because mum's not under anyone's umbrella. As I've posted before Kent and Notts bat me back and forth saying it's the other county that's responsible. It's so...
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    Warning - don't complain

    Go for it Roseann because the major problem I am coming up against time and time again is - so you're not happy, tough. No-one seems bothered if you say your going to take it higher, it's like as if they know nothing will change. Today for example, AM CALL - two novice carers who have no...
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    Warning - don't complain

    Update on my battle of the carers Hi everyone Just thought I'd let you know the latest. Had a meeting (at my place) yesterday with the manager of the care agency - basically she refuses to take responsibility for anything. Either 'it was an isolated case', or it's the carer in the wrong...
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    Warning - don't complain

    Hi chip that's the problem you see they WANT me to put mum in care because it will be less hassle for them. They won't have me chasing them up all the time and they won't have to worry about care agencies because mum has assets she would be self-funding. So you see it's to their...
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    Please will someone talk to me

    Hello everyone Yes I'm having a better couple of days thank you. OK update - Am having a meeting with care agency manager next tuesday, this could be interesting - just hope it's a good day because I mustn't lose my cool. Still can't get hold of any of the professionals who dealt...
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    what is this thing you all call support?

    Hi VCB (sorry just saving on the typing) If you thought I was in a bad way then have you read tonight's thread - I totally lost it. Can joke about it now but the only thing that enabled me to do that was the immediate support I got from everyone on TP. It was a real cry for help and they...