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    Urine infections & hypochondria??

    Thank You for your replies Unfortunately this isn't my mother but my husband's. I guess it will be up to him and his sister to make any decisions. It's just like my dad's situation all over again.
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    Urine infections & hypochondria??

    My father died 3 years ago from dementia and many many years before he was diagnosed I knew there was something wrong and pressed his doctor for help but was told that patient confidentiality prevented him stepping in unless my dad took himself to see the doctor. The usual symptoms of...
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    Christmas cards??

    Does anyone know if the Alzheimer's Society have Christmas cards and are they available in shops or online??
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    Power of attorney - specific question

    Yes you do need a card When my dad was ill I was given a debit card and a new PIN for his account. Shops should not allow you to enter a PIN when the card is not yours. It was obvious with me as he was a man if you get me but when it is a lady using a card with a ladies name then they...
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    Funeral Disappointment

    My dad died last Weds and I had his funeral today. It was so very sad that only one person, a former neighbour, came to send him off. My dad only has me as there is no other family. My mum, his ex wife, looked after my one year old for me. Three people who said they were coming didn't...
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    He has passed away

    Hi Lynne, Thanks for your reply. You are right that I am stressed. I feel I haven't had any time to grieve today. I have only one day to do everything unfortunately as I am the only remaining relation. I have no car so today have had to hire one for tomorrow. I face a couple of hours...
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    He has passed away

    My dad passed away this morning peacefully. It was at 6.30 so I wasn't there unfortunately. Thanks for all your kind comments on my previous posts. Since the NICE phone call from the home the manager has turned into not so NICE on other phone calls. I am currently battling to get a...
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    Rate of decline ?

    Everybody seems to have different stories but my dad was walking around in March in his nursing home (he is nearly 80) and could sometimes hold a conversation of sorts. Wheelchair bound at end of April barely recognising me. Then bedridden in June and is currently still holding on but has lost...
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    Funerals pictures?

    When my sister died a few years ago my mum and her partner took photos of the hearse and her name written in flowers in the back next to the coffin. She also took pictures of the other flowers. I thought it was a bit odd but my mum needed them to try and get it to sink in that she had gone...
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    Swallowing problems - what comes next

    I was prepared for something to happen at the end of last week. Well as prepared as you can be. Now the days are passing I feel awful that I said no intervention. He must be so hungry and thirsty. I feel I am making him suffer. I know he wouldn't want to go to hospital and the nursing home...
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    Swallowing problems - what comes next

    Well I went to visit dad on Thursday and he looked awful. He is sleeping most of the time and cannot communicate at all. He isn't eating anything and is having a tiny amount of fluid. They said they thought he wouldn't make it through the night or perhaps only to Friday. It's now Sunday and...
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    Swallowing problems - what comes next

    Thank you for all your replies. The problem I have regarding visiting is that I live a couple of hours away from the nursing home and have a one year old daugher. Add to this the fact that I am the only next of kin then I feel really guilty about not being able to get there very much. My...
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    Swallowing problems - what comes next

    I have been told today that my dad is having problems swallowing and that his condition seems to be deteriorating rapidly. The doctor rang from his nursing home to say that he is now in bed. They said to prepare for things to happen rapidly. Anybody know what I can expect now. How long is...
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    "Dementia" as cause of death

    Diagnosis Hi, I know there are funny rulings regarding what it says on a death certificate. My sister had a brain haemorrage. They had no idea whether she had fell or it was just something that happened in the past as there was no obvious bruising. They still however put the technical...
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    What are the stages of Alzheimer's

    Thank You Thank you again for all your suggestions. The questions that were suggested are very good and I think making a point of arranging a meeting with one of his carers next visit is a good way of pinning them down. I know they are very busy people but I will feel better knowing what is...
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    What are the stages of Alzheimer's

    More info My problem is that I never grew up with my dad so never had a proper relationship with him and I am now the only next of kin. I was contacted by his Health Authority when he began going to a Day Unit and then he fell and was admitted to an EMI Unit until a suitable placement was...
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    What are the stages of Alzheimer's

    My dad was taken into a nursing home just over a year ago. In the last two months he has gone from walking around and holding a basic conversation and just about remembering names to now being in a wheelchair. He is now frail and sometimes recognises me but cannot hold a conversation about a...