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    Death

    My mum was moved from Hospital to a care home by the sea initially for respite. As much as it would have been easier for me to visit if she had been closer, I was happy enough as they looked after her and I really expected her to return to her home. As I work full time evening visits were...
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    So shocking - ECT and Leucotomy

    Thank you Lawson - I am slowly getting my head around this and things from my childhood now click into place. My Brother never went back 'home' and we never had the Brother/sister relationship that I would like to think might have been. I remember being called a liar at school by a teacher, as...
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    So shocking - ECT and Leucotomy

    My Mum passed away early March and alot has been going on as some of you may have read in my previous posts. My Mum always suffered with depression throughout her early life and a comment from my cousin triggered me asking my Mums GP for some information. Well it was a shock to read the...
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    Chapel of rest

    I went to see my Mum almost two weeks after she had passed away. She hadnt been embalmed. I am so pleased I went. She looked so peaceful and just asleep. I had a chat and touched her/held her hand and yes she was cold, but she was cold during the last couple of days before she left us. I...
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    Im having a strange day! Think the grieving has started

    Met some friends yesterday for a light meal and catch up. One friend has a Mother in a care home and complains about her and her ailments all the time. Her Mother wants to die and has suffered with mental illness over the years. She said that she hoped it would happen for her as her Mum is...
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    Section 27 notice

    Has anyone placed one of these Notices in a paper? I think I have covered every aspect of my Mums finances as a POA and over the course of time got to know every payment, bill, charge etc that my Mum did. I have contacted everyone that I can think of regarding finances and have a couple of...
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    Grant of Probate issues

    Thank you all or your replies. My brothers partner is now buying my share and I am not sure what their plans are. Im not even sure my Brother knows what he is doing apart from getting confused about Capital Gains Tax, Inheritance Tax and Stamp duty. I have instructed a solicitor to act on my...
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    Grant of Probate issues

    I have received Grant of Probate. As stated before my Brother has not been overly helpful with matters and we are joint Executors of my Mothers Will. She has left the property to us jointly and the cash in the Bank to me. I have registered the Probate with the Bank and they have opened a...
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    How hard is it to do probate?

    Have completed my Mums Probate and Inheritance Tax claim forms. It came back within 2 months. There is so much information on line and on the Government web sites and if you do get stuck make a phone call and just ask x
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    The strangest of things

    An Update I have made enquiries and it is a long and potentially expensive process to get my Dads ashes exhumed. I would need a Court Order and also permission from the Diocese. I also have to have an extremely good reason - not the fact that I dont like where the ashes are. There is also...
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    The strangest of things

    I asked today at the Cemetery and I will have to apply to the Department of Justice, the Church and to the Bishop. I have to have exceptional circumstances for the ashes to be moved, so I may try and say that it is a family plot (although not my Dads) and see what happens. At the moment I am...
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    The strangest of things

    Thank you. That thought had crossed my mind but I will make enquiries. If it is not possible then I will put my Mum with my Dad and so be it. Nothing is ever easy ! x x
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    Day 10 of no food or fluids ..

    Sending you courage and strength. Its the hardest thing ever to watch and wait and knowing there is nothing you can do. My Mum has recently passed after not eating and drinking for what seemed an eternity and I regret I was not with her although I did say goodbye and told her to rest and...
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    The strangest of things

    Thank you to you both. My Dad was not a religious person at all and I was very surprised that my Mum chose to put his ashes in the Church grounds. I do think at the time she found strength from that source. Later she became very anti religion and eventually stopped going to the Church. Her...
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    The strangest of things

    Mums funeral was on Wednesday 5th. The entry music was not what I requested and what Mum had specifically wanted but it was too late to say anything until after the service. Apart from that slight glitch the service was lovely. . Amongst the mourners was my Cousin (she is my Mums sisters...
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    An issue of property and Probate

    Thank you Lemonjuice. Point taken. The current sale is still running although it cannot proceed without Probate that is why I did it myself and took it to the Probate office, and to save time. I have spoken to the household insurance company as that is paid up until May. Water is ok. I have...
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    An issue of property and Probate

    Thank you all for your comments. Yes I think I have charged in a little quick and I think that is my coping mechanism - keep busy and probably too busy. Have been running around for the last few years and it feels strange to slow down and chill. I have done the Probate myself and am now...
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    An issue of property and Probate

    Yes joint executors. As I have said in previous posts I do not have any issues with my Brother and I try to understand how he must feel, but I never had the perfect childhood and teens that he think I had. Im hoping that by the time Probate comes back he will have thought things through and be...