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    Hygiene concerns

    Hi, If you can remove the dirty clothes as your mum takes them off you could replace them with duplicate ones for her to wear without her knowing they've been changed!! Mum says that clothes aren't hers when I put them out for her but I've got them from her wardrobe!!
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    Fluctuating Capacity

    My mum has also just finished a 5day course of antibiotics for low grade chest infection..what a few days I had!!! Tried to get her to have a bath tonight..no chance.. Said to her it's been a few days since you had a bath Mum...oh let's write it down in a book shall we!! She's left her sandals...
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    Fluctuating Capacity

    Yes my mum!! Diagnosed last year with moderate AD..carers will ask her what she wants to eat..she will reply she's not hungry as she's eaten( she can really only make herself a cup of coffee already prepared and put jam on a scone), she doesn't use the cooker or the other stock answer is that...
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    Caring for dad

    Hi TNJJ, I empathise with you as I'm in a similar situation with my mum 84.She was diagnosed last July and unfortunately at the end of Oct my dad died. She won't consider respite and is adamant she won't move. She lives in an old terraced house that is starting to need repairs..upstairs bathroom...
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    What to say when your loved one says 'you dont believe me do you'?

    @LHS...have you seen the key finders on Amazon...Godsend!!! You attach a fob to keys/ handbags or whatever else goes AWOL and have a transmitter which corresponds to the colour of the fob. Just press the colour on main transmitter and a bleeping sound should direct you to the lost item. 6 fobs...
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    How do you cope with being broken hearted?

    This has been such a brilliant thread for me at such a significant time. I too desperately want to keep Mum at home as does she. I go away in 3weeks and have got live in care organised and tbh that will be the only time I will probably relax totally. Mum questions this each time the lovely lady...
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    How do you cope with being broken hearted?

    Mary Joan, Your words could not have hit a more truer note for me today. Mum is 84 ..moderate AD and my hubby and I have noticed such a change these last few weeks. Dad died end of Oct 2018 and I became main carer with care coming in 3 x day. She self funds and I always promised myself I...
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    No sleep

    My mum was diagnosed last July with moderate AD but obvs has symptoms for a few years before. Since my dad died at end of Oct she has started to decline and I’ve noticed that she has ‘sleepy days’ where if left she would sleep the clock round. It’s almost as if her brain has worked so hard all...
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    Sleep problems

    Thankyou Yorkshire Lass, Myself and hubby have been for tea at mums and yet again from carers reports and web cam reviews she's been asleep most of the day. She did eat some tea with us and agreed to a bath this evening..(bonus!!) but is now fast asleep in her nightclothes in the chair. My hubby...
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    Sleep problems

    I'm dealing with change of sleep pattern with my mum who has moderate/mid stage AD. She lives alone at home since dad died end of Oct, n for couple of weeks now has been having unsettled sleep, staying up all night cat napping in the chair or going to bed for few hrs and then getting dressed and...
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    Sleeping all the time

    Hi, I posted a thread on here few days ago about my mum having very sleepy days. She has a day a week which if she's left would spend all day in bed. I try and get her up for a change of scenery but she can be quite nasty with whoever is doing the rousing..even me.(she's generally quite placid...
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    Sleep tips

    Hi everyone, I've been following this thread with interest as my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last July. My dad (her main carer) died at the end of Oct last year and whilst mum found this difficult to process initially she seems to be quite settled with the situation now. We have carers in...
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    My Dad is in a care home with middle stage dementia and my mother is dying

    p Hi, my sympathies are with you in this awful situation. My mum (84 with moderate Alzheimer's) was recently widowed in Oct 2018 and although we were all ( my mum, my hubby and me )at dads bedside when he died ,mum still cannot process the event and still questions where dad is. I've left the...
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    Mum struggling to comprehend dad's death

    Thanks for all your replies..it really is a day to day scenario with mum still asking where dad has gone and then realising later that he has died. She's asking when the funeral is even though I've written it down for her and she has too. Another week to go for the funeral and tbh it can't come...
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    Mum struggling to comprehend dad's death

    Hi everyone.. I'm new to the site but hopefully will gain some valuable info and advice from members. My mum was diagnosed with moderate Alzheimer's in June 2018.. My dad was her main carer but unfortunately he died last night andmum is now obviously struggling to comprehend his death. She will...