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    Mum is on the way back to god.

    Peggy1967 - so sorry to hear your situation and I too am sending prayers for you and your mum in these next few days. SiSu50 - my condolences to you on the loss of your dad, so soon after your mum going into care. Words cant express how you must feel. My heartfelt thoughts to you too and your...
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    Mom finished her final journey.

    Thomson - So sorry to hear of the loss of your father. He was very lucky to have been in your arms as he took his last breath. Cant imagine how hard that was for you but im sure all the support on here has helped you. Condolences to you and your family and hope time will heal. care4momma...
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    Can I do any more?

    Otiruz Im surprised the care home hasn't asked you about DNR. When my mum went there, I had to fill out forms and one of them was about DNR. As I am mums Deputy as she had no capacity at all, i made that decision, as I know mum would absolutely hate living as she is now. Its on her notes...
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    Can I do any more?

    Otiruz So sorry to hear of how things are with your mum. Situation very different to that of mine, but the main thing I can say, which everyone tells me.... dont feel guilty!! You sound like you have done everything you can, and really can do no more. I agree that we dont get care advise...
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    Nasal feeding for husband who is refusing food and drink

    Ludi So sorry to hear of your husbands situation and it must be hell for your and your daughters. I know the medical staff have a duty of care, but surely they can see how poorly your husband is and if he's stated to you all his wishes, then they should be observed. I notice others have...
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    What now?

    Honeybears So sorry to hear about your mum, even though it was near. Feel so sad for you but relieved in another way as you know her suffering is at an end and she is at peace. I hope this forum will still give you some comfort and hope its helped you on this journey. Ironic as you say that...
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    Quite amazed!

    Hi Baby Bunty Mum had improved when we saw her on Sunday. Still very frail, but up and about, eating and drinking OK. The virus really had taken its toll on her but she's bounced back again. I know how you feel, just waiting for that call. Had a few like that over January when she was...
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    Mom finished her final journey.

    Care 4 momma Please accept my condolences too on the passing of your mum. Take comfort in that you cared for her at home and was with her until the end and she is now at peace. Thats all that anyone can ask is to see the end of anyone suffering.
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    What now?

    Hi Honeybears Amazing your mum is still hanging onto life - it does make you wonder where their strength comes from. She clearly isnt ready to leave yet. At least she is being kept comfortable now and not being moved. Wont be pleasant for you having to remove all her belongings from her...
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    Quite amazed!

    Lady A, thank you for your comments. As Ive said on another thread, the rollercoaster syndrome still goes on. Whilst its great seeing mum better from the virus, and improving in her general overall being, its hard to forget the Alzheimers is still lurking and has my mum in its vice still...
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    What now?

    Thank you Sparks 59. Having seen my mum yesterday, she seems to have bounced back from the virus as you will see in my "Quite amazed" thread. Whilst its great to see her more like herself again, I have to still remember the Alzheimers and the hold it has over her. The rollercoaster effect...
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    Quite amazed!

    Evening everyone As I wrote a few days ago, mum is at last stage of Alzheimers and over christmas had an RS Virus and was told she was very poorly indeed. With the care home being closed as many residents were ill, i hadnt seen her for a while. I visited her today with my brother (who was...
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    What now?

    HI Malengwa So sorry to hear about your mum. Cancer on top of Alzheimers - wow... what a nightmare. Condolences to you and your family but she is free of these awful diseases. Memories in our minds and photographs help keep people "alive" down the generations and im thankful my...
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    What now?

    Hi Sparks First of all, so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. No matter what the circumstances, its one of the the hardest things to face. You will treasure those few days when you "got your mum back" and that she did manage to talk and remember your name... we take it for granted...
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    What now?

    Honeybears Sorry I got your name wrong yesterday. Im amazed when you see such a decline in someone how they can still exist. I didnt think mum would get through 2 winters having chest infections and RS virus, let alone the Alzheimers. I really feel for you right now and you really are in...
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    A few questions...

    Evening aurora76 So sorry to hear how poorly your mum is. I hope you can get some answers to your questions but the reply from LadyA sounds very interesting and i found it useful too. The only experience Ive had with end of life care was that of my dad 2 years ago. His quality of life had...
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    What now?

    honeybees So sorry to read you too are in a similar situation. My mum has same symptoms as yours, but minus the pneumonia. From experience of my dad, who didnt have Alzheimers, but was very poorly, once they finally decided they could do no more for him after yet another hospital...
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    What now?

    Babymare01 Oh my goodness.... i see what you mean.. i could have written your post! I dont live near mums care home and it was closed over December/January with flu virus, so will see her at weekend. I feel so guilty not going as often as I should but i have to gear myself up for each visit...
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    What now?

    Hi Bittermama I completely identify with all you are going through and are feeling. Do we ever know the right things to do, as its all a learning curve? My dad also went into care the same time as mum as he was immobile and frail and and couldnt live alone or cope once mum was taken into...
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    What now?

    Just realised I hadn't done that.. would be grateful if you could please! Please head it "What now?. Thank you