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    'Gifting'

    Here I am again, picking everyone's brains! Very quickly, I'm an only child, my father died last Xmas and my mother has had Alzheimer's for 8 years and is in a local authority run care home. My parents house sold recently and when the funds become available, I would like, on behalf of my...
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    'Important' TV programme to watch!!!!!

    Hi everyone! Just thought you'd all like to know about a telly programme which is on BBC1 next Monday 15th at 7.30pm, called 'Real Story'. In this programme, Fiona Bruce reports on a legal loophole in the care of the elderly that has led to many families being swindled out of thousands of...
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    Security at nursing homes

    Hi everyone. I had an 'annual' review on Thursday with the boss of my mother's nursing home and someone from the local authority's care maintenance team. I say 'annual', because it was 18 months ago that we had the last one, even though I had requested one more recently - apparently, staff...
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    Sad time all round

    Last Friday I attended the funeral of my uncle, who had had Alzheimer's for some 10 years but ultimately died of stomach cancer. It was doubly distressing as, on reading the newspaper obituary, I discovered that his wife (my auntie), had died in April of this year, on the same date as my late...
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    'Gifting'

    Thank you Geraldine for your time and details. I'm in a similar situation, whereby my mother absolutely idolised my son and I want to keep showing that love as best I can, even if it can only be monetary. My dad died last Xmas and I'm an only child, so all this has now fallen on my...
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    'Gifting'

    Hi everyone, me again. Just picking everyone's brains once more about the gifting of monies. I have been in touch with the Guardianship office in London re the above and they have told me to put my request to them in writing, when it will be considered. Is there anyone who has ever done this...
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    'Gifting', attendance allowance and 'Deed of Variation'.

    Once again, thank you all very much for your time and info. I have been in touch with an independent financial advisor and will be arranging a meeting with her when work allows, to discuss the above items. It's difficult trying to make people understand my motives for doing this - I'm not...
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    'Gifting', attendance allowance and 'Deed of Variation'.

    Hi everyone, yes it's me again. Don't get much chance to visit this site as often as I'd like, BUT at least I get sense, help and a laugh, especially from Jude, Sheila and Norman, when I do. So, here goes:- As per the subject matter, can anyone please give me any information at all about...
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    House Sale Proceeds to Nursing Home

    Hi everyone, great to read all these threads and listen to some common sense for a change! Since my last post, my dad's/mother's house has sold and now comes the irritating part where the proceeds go to the court who initially gave me the Court of Protection and the local authority puts a...
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    House sale not covered in will

    Thanks to you both yet again for your replies and info. My dad made his will in 2002, after suffering from a serious illness which needed 2 emergency operations, but at that time, my mother had had Alzheimer's for some 5 years and was at such a point that she couldn't feasibly make a will...
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    House sale not covered in will

    Just a quick one, so I can pick everyone's brains again. When my dad died, he left me everything ( not a lot, poor devil) in his will. My mother has had Alzheimer's for 7 years and is in a local authority run nursing home. When I took the deeds for their house to the solicitors, they found a...
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    The rules governing funds held by Nursing Home residents

    Once again, many thanks to Frazer, Norman and Jude, mainly for your humour as much as for your help - it made me smile for a change! I am starting to come around to your ways of thinking, in that I would like to spend the proceeds of the house sale on my mother to give her what she worked so...
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    The rules governing funds held by Nursing Home residents

    A huge thank you to Frazer, Chris, Sally and Jude for your comments and information. It's nice to know there are people out there who do understand and care. I have received a Court of Protection to handle my mother's affairs - I have been asked to open a bank account in order to control the...
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    The rules governing funds held by Nursing Home residents

    Please be patient with this gripe/question. I am a 47 year old male and an only child. My father died on 23.12.2003 and my mother has been in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for 7 years. My father left their home to my mother when he died and I have now obtained Court of Protection to handle my...