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    Care Home Fees Question

    Hi there, Does anyone know what happens next. Mum has gone into a care home, the Financial Assessment has been finalized. Mum's bills from the CH will be paid from her bank account, which we manage. Does the LA take over Mums bank account, or do we continue to manage the payments for the CH...
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    Does this seem right..?

    Hi there, yes it’s all very confusing isn’t it. Mum went into care home urgently, due to uncontrollable wandering. They’ve done the financial assessment. But we don’t really understand it, and awaiting a call back from SS. Does mum get to keep her pension? Going into her bank account, so we...
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    Going a walk by herself

    Id be very careful if Mum makes a habit of going out on her own. Mum had to be admitted to a CH because fo her wandering in March. The carer kept reporting that she was out when they came for the 3 x a day visits. Neighbours brought her home, the police, strangers and another anonymous...
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    Hospital not helping us talk to mum!

    Glad you got to speak to her again. My Mum was accepted into a CH as an emergency end of March, as they are in lockdown we haven't seen or heard from her. Mum doesn't understand the phone anymore, and when we ring and they hand over the phone she doesn't say anything, mutters to herself and...
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    sucessful admission to a care home during covid restrictions...

    Hi Deemus, Our Mum was admitted as an emergency beginning April during lockdown, as she was wandering and putting herself and others at risk not understanding social distancing covid etc. no testing was carried out. Prior to that she was having carers 3 x daily with us visiting in the evening...
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    Mum wandering all the time now, trying to get her into a home today :(

    Hello All, Mum is still in the home, updates from the home manager says she ok, but wandering is a big problem, it goes on all night long. This home placement was temporary measure to cope with the wandering. (as Mum lives alone). We are wondering what will happen at the end of the...
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    Mum wandering all the time now, trying to get her into a home today :(

    Thankyou Canary, Thanks for the advice. We aim to ask for that meeting at the end of the period. In the meantime, Mums home rang us to say 5 residents have passed away with COVID, another few have tested positive and some staff have tested positive. Mum so far seems ok and they've isolated...
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    Mum wandering all the time now, trying to get her into a home today :(

    Thank you so much Pete 1, We were lucky at such short notice.
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    Weird habits with Alzheimer’s

    Hi Poinsettia, I think it probably is usual for Alz sufferers, well it was for Mum. About a year ago my Mum (84 with Alzheimers) started hiding things, cups plates, cutlery, house keys, teeth, hearing aids, anything that came through the letter box. Unplug things that shouldn't be, like the...
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    Mum wandering all the time now, trying to get her into a home today :(

    Hi Pete1, Thank you for your good wishes. Yes we are relieved. As it all happened so fast, we don't know how long Mum will be in the care home, SS has hinted that she could be out after the initial10 weeks placement. The CH is on lockdown, so we are unable to see Mum at all. We rang, but...
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    Mum wandering all the time now, trying to get her into a home today :(

    Thanks Bunpoots. She does have a garden but it wasn't enough for her in the end. Sadly to say we had to put Mum in a care home at the weekend. But thank you for your kind advice.
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    Mum wandering all the time now, trying to get her into a home today :(

    Hi Shedrech, No problem, we were actually thinking it might have to come to sectioning if a bed could not be found for Mum. Unfortunately, Admiral Nurses don't operate in our area we asked a while ago. Thankfully SS found Mum a place at the weekend. At least we know she is safe now. thanks...
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    Residential Care

    Hi BrumUK, We are in exactly the same position. Mum 84, lives alone, Alzheimers, was admitted to a Residential care home as an emergency at the weekend. There was no other way we could guarantee Mums safety, as she had suddenly started wandering. It started off once a week, and increased to...
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    Mum wandering all the time now, trying to get her into a home today :(

    Hi Everyone, Mum 84 lives alone, alzheimers, has started wandering, and its getting worse, and worse. We've been called by concerned neighbours, its been reported to SS by another neighbour too, and people have found her wandering down the road and brought her home, its got to a point where it...
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    Hand washing and staying at home.

    Hi there, My Mum 84, with dementia is the same. Lives alone and doesn't understand anything at all anymore. She has carers coming in 3 x daily and gets very annoyed with them if they dare splash water around the sink, She argued with me when I washed my hands upon arrival at her house, and...
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    Odd habits - Displaying clothes around the house

    Hi Katy M, Yes, oh my we have this scenario too. Mum takes out clothes our of wardrobes and hangs them everywhere. she also hides things, food, plates, cutlery, and in odd places. we fill the fridge and she empties it, hiding perishable food in her underwear drawer, wardrobe, drawers in the...
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    Cancelling holiday

    Hi Heidi Lou, I would've thought that your Travel Insurance is personal to you, and those on the policy, nobody else. The pre-existing question is only relevant to yourself - YOUR pre-existing, not anyone else's health. You don't have to declare the health of your parent on your own Travel...
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    Medicating/ alleviating agitation and frustration

    Hi Hucleberry, We had similar issues with Mum. She attends daycare a few days week. The Manager of the daycare center rang to tell us Mum was aggressive, kicking the doors,. walls, people, generally being disruptive and shouting at everyone. No amount of consoling or reasoning would stop...
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    What to do when a parent no longer knows her children?

    Hi There, I have this too with my Mum. About a month ago she flatly refused to believe I'm her daughter, When she asked me why I was in her house, I explained I'm your daughter, your my Mum!. Her response was heartbreaking for me. She said I am not your mother, how could I be, stop saying...