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    What to do ?.....

    Hi Mynn, I'm afraid I can't offer any advice really, but there are some similarities to my Mum's condition. She has advanced AD and until just over a month ago she was in a care home, fully and independently mobile, eating a normal diet and feeding herself. After breaking her hip, she can no...
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    Now being SUED!!

    Hi Jim, Have you tried contacting your local branch of the Alzheimer's Society; they might be able to suggest a suitable solicitor. mjk
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    I'm really struggling to understand...

    Hi Flooz, I think people with AD can quite often put on a good act for short periods - especially when seeing health professionals. I think they kind of concentrate really hard for that period of time and kind of manage it. I'm guessing maybe your Mum does that when she's on the phone to your...
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    advice about chc

    HI Ally, I can't help much I'm afraid, but I just wanted to say that we are in a similar position. My Mum has just been turned down for CHC funding for the second time (last week). We applied intitially last year and she was refused. Whilst we were in the process of appealing she fell and...
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    Today cleaned mums bungalow - why do I bother

    I think some of the things we do for our parents we kind of do for ourselves. I used to go and blitz my Mum's house, wash her clothes etc when she was out of the way. She never noticed but it made me feel better! And I don't think there's anything wrong with that! We have no control over so many...
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    Consultant refusing to carry out surgery

    Hi, Sounds like your consultant is being particularly awkward - there must be lots of situations where the patient is unable to give consent and the hospital proceed without it, or get consent from next of kin. Surely you Mum is also unable to "consent" to the nurse helping her too!! My...
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    Broken hip

    Hi, How's your Mum doing? My Mum broke her hip two weeks ago and has had the op. She is still in hospital and we're waiting to hear when she'll be discharged. Before she went in she had advanced AD but was completely independently mobile, it now looks unlikely that she will ever walk again...
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    Questions about NHS Continuing Healthcare

    Hi Jan, Thanks so much for your reply. It's interesting to hear what level of needs your Dad had as it's quite hard to compare my Mum with people who have much greater physical needs but much leser mental ones. If she is to be eligible (in the near future anyway) it is likely to be more based...
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    Questions about NHS Continuing Healthcare

    Hello, I am just starting to look into the process of requesting an assessment for NHS Continuing Healthcare funding for my Mum who is self-funding. Before I get too bogged down in the reading (I've bookmarked and skimmed through various docs off here, Age Concern and DoH websites), I just...
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    Anyone Still Awake?

    DON'T!!! There is ALWAYS something you'll feel bad about, ALWAYS. There's no point though. You're not superwoman, and it seems to me you're doing a pretty good job at a very tough time. You can only do your best - and you obviously are.
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    Both parents have alzheimer's

    Is there anyone else who's opinion your parents respect who they might listen to? Family friend, vicar? Maybe someone more of their generation (they're probably not used to being told what to do by their "children"!), or someone who could suggest it from a "professional" point of view - GP...
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    Conned!!!!

    No help I'm afraid but we had exactly the same problem with Mum and gardeners. Either no apparent work and large amounts of money paid, or wrong trees taken down etc. It seemed to be the same as in your case, people just coming to the door. I don't know how you stop it. We put tight controls...
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    Tell the truth or not?

    Thaks Brucie and Granny G for your kind replies. You both explain the dilemma very well. I live a long way from Mum's house, but other family members have already started decluttering the house so we can get it on the market asap. I'll be going up to help in a couple of weeks - can't say I'm...
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    I am living a nightmare!

    Well done - it's great to see good news on this forum! :D Just make sure you don't leave it too late before doing the LPA -there are lots of unscrupulous people around. My Mum had "gardeners" coming to the door and saying she owed them money - £300 once - and she'd just hand it over. Never...
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    Tell the truth or not?

    Hi, Thanks for all the replies. It seems that you all pretty much agree on using whatever approach works! Well so far we're talking about Mum being in the home "until she's better". And we don't bring up the subject unless she does (which she does!). It would definitely upset her a great deal...
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    I am living a nightmare!

    What a dreadful situation! As far I know there is nothing to stop you getting your Dad to make another EPA (though I think it would be an LPA now which would also cover making decisons about his care needs), IF the first one hasn't been registered yet. You DEFINITELY need to get professional...
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    Tell the truth or not?

    Hi, I read these forums regularly but rarely post (sorry!) but I just wanted to ask for opinions on the latest situation we find ourselves in. My Mum was diagnosed with AD two years ago (though I reckon it started about 7/8 years ago). Since the diagnosis we've had carers going in twice a...
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    Away From Her -film

    £6.99 including free delivery at www.play.com :) ...can't help on Atonement though
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    Moms shower & Picking her skin Problems!!

    My Mum picks and bites at her fingers constantly. She's done this for years now and they are permanently scabby/bleeding. It's the one little thing that I really CANNOT stand. Sorry, being utterly selfish about this one. She hasnt come to any harm from it so far, so it's not a problem for...