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    Challenging Behaviour - medication ?

    My Mum is in a care home and has same issues with aggression. Heartbreaking as this is not her nature at all! She sounds exactly the same as your name - all smiles one minute and then changes! Doctor prescribed pregrablin which she is currently on with a tiny dose of respiridone! I have to say...
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    Memantine

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences- been really helpful. Hoping to persuade my father in law to give it a try!!
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    Memantine

    Thank you so much for that - very encouraging. Anybody else got any perspectives? Thanks again
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    Memantine

    Hi everyone. Haven't posted for a while. Mum has been in a care home now for over 18 months - that's a different story - not sure I will ever get over that dark hole! But anyway my 88 year old father in law has just been diagnosed with Lewy Bodies! He is at home with his wife and although a...
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    Taking mum away

    My Mum is in a care home and I'm taking her on holiday next week for the second time. I slept in the same bedroom so she didn't get confused in the night! I have kylie sheets and lots of pads and pants!! Depends at what stage your Mum is at? All I know is when I spoke to the care home manager...
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    Mum in care home

    Hi Pamann Thank you so much for your reply. I do change Mums pads and help with her personal care and I got her dressed as soon as I went in. I spoke to the care home about me showering her and things and they seem to be one of these that want to do it themselves. I visit Mum at least 3 times a...
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    Mum in care home

    Thanks for that - I do work very hard with the care home and provide lots of support to my Mum even though we are paying quite large top up fees! I have a good relationship with the carers but it's still hard to see your Mum not being able to maintain a bit of dignity
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    Mum in care home

    Hi all. Haven't been on here for a while but read lots! Bit of advice please. Mum is on a good care home and staff are very caring (not enough of them!!) However a couple of issues - I have been in a few times to find my Mum with her door wide open and no clothes on! When I have asked I ha e...
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    Care home review

    Thank you so much Otiruz for your helpful comments and insight. Someone else said they wondered if my siblings feel a little guilty about how much I do for Mum - thank you - I won't stop doing it you are right. I'm beginning to understand that is their problem and not mine. Mind I have been...
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    Care home review

    Hi Fizzie. Thank you so much for your help - it made a big difference to me and gave me the confidence to speak to her. The wine is warming up in preparation!! Lol x
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    Care home review

    Hi all. Just an update and a thank you really. I spoke to the manager today who said maybe it was a bit over the top. She sees three of us regularly when we visit Mum so has suggested just seeing my brother when he comes over and updating him and seeing if he has any concerns! Phew!! She also...
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    No recollection of visits

    Hi Autumn 16. My Mum is in a care home as well - a year now! Must admit I still have problems accepting it but I believe that although your Mum may not remember the visit as such - I'm confident when you are there she feels your love and warmth. I also take my Mum out and bring her to my house...
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    Care home review

    Hello again Fizzie. Bless you for that. I do indeed love her very much and just want her to be happy in whatever way she wants really. I'm not sure how my siblings would feel. My brother lives in Spain so has very little to do with my Mum. He and I (actually and my younger sister) do not...
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    Care home review

    Hi again. I think Fizzie you are right. Mum doesn't like people talking behind her back so much as I'm worried about how she will cope I know it's right she should be there and I'm her biggest advocate to be fair. I want what makes my Mum happy but I spend lots of time with her so know her...
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    Care home review

    Do you know I feel heaps better reading your replies and thank you all for responding. You have brought tears to my eyes. My siblings make me feel I'm the one that is wrong in still wanting to be hands on but I love being with my Mum and I must admit I am there so often that I have a good...
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    Care home review

    The care home manager has said it would be good for them to come. Personally I do believe she doesn't like me taking the interest I do and wanting to help. I believe she is looking to get them on board that all is well when I know Mums not sleeping well which is affecting her and they are not...
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    Care home review

    Hi all. Haven't been on here for a while. Mum has now been in her care home for a year. The home is great and the staff wonderful. I have had a few issues - sleeping and showers in the main! I spend hours with my Mum taking her out and spending time in the home. I think the manager wasn't sure...
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    How often do you visit the care home?

    My Mum is in a care home. I have 2 sisters and they each visit two days a week for 2 hours. I visit the other 3 days but I bring her back to my house for the day once a week and I stay at the care home for tea once a week. I used to spend so much time with her when she was at home that I still...
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    Stimulation in care homes - am I the only one who cares

    Morning. So pleased you raised this. My Mum has been in a care home for 9 months now. I spend a lot of time with her and take her out - thank goodness as she doesn't get much stimulation otherwise. The home have people coming in probably 2-3 times a week which is great. The rest of the time...
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    Mum and Care Home - Should I take her out?

    Big hugs from me to. My mum has been in a care home since May. I think it is the most awful time of my life. However she is eating well and is safe. She had started wandering at nights outside when she was at home! Like you many of the residents are far worse than Mum and so although she loves...