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    Advice please....

    Thank guys Thanks little shettie, I have been in contact with her carer and she also said we need to elaborate the risks she is exposed to. Writing stuff down is great advice. It will help me remember. My husband is coming down with me but I'm not sure whether having the carer there swell will...
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    Advice please....

    Morning everyone, please could someone help and advise me. My mum has a diagnosis of alzheimers. Two years ago now which she refused to accept. She was offered medication and because she still had capacity at the time of her diagnosis she refused. Two years on, understandably her dementia is in...
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    lasting power of attorney queries

    Thanx for the response. Yes it helps a little. I guess I just have to keep on at social services and the GP when I see the situation getting worse and let them make the decisions. Thank you again. Roz
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    lasting power of attorney queries

    I was just wondering what happens if I do not take lasting power of attorney or go through the courts for deputyship. Will the social services take responsibility for the care and make decisions if I do not want them myself. I've realised it's something I do not want following my up bringing...
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    new help please

    Yes I fear I may have to wait for a crisis but I am trying to avoid that now seeing as I live so far away. I expect I'll just have to wait for another mental capacity assessment and then if she has lost capacity then decide from there. Thank you again. II don't think there is much else I can do...
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    new help please

    Thank you for your reply. I've already spoken to age UK and they have directed me to their solicitors but they are again out of our price range for charges. I am already an appointee for her DWP so I am.able to pay her bills and do her shopping. I'm have just spoken to her gp and she said...
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    new help please

    Hello everyone, I've been away from sometime now and am back to ask for your help. A bit of background so you can get the picture. Mum has Alzheimers and has refused to accept it. It's been a real battle for months. She has refused any care and she only remembers to take her medication when she...
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    mother doesn't seem to know her name

    Yes your right no lasting power of attorney in place. I didn't want to be. And no carers as yet let alone 4 a day. I expect it will take a lot more them to deem her eligible especially as she has the capacity to refuse even though she doesn't realise that refusing is potentially dangerous. A...
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    mother doesn't seem to know her name

    Thanx guys, yeah I think you are absolutely right. I've been reading about extra care housing and essentially it's a one bed flat where she would be expected to live independently. This is precisely what she is having difficulties with. It's something I've thought about for a while, but it was...
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    mother doesn't seem to know her name

    Difficult isn't it. No chance she can come and stay with us. And transferring her will only disorient her more anyway. You sound like at least you have some sort of relationship but I don't. Which comes from both sides. Thank you for the reply though and hopefully you and your husband will...
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    mother doesn't seem to know her name

    Hello friends. Not gonna go into my whole background but my mother has alzheimer's, was diagnosed earlier this year. We've never had a good relationship but I am doing the very least for her. I also live over 300 miles away so only see her once a month if that. She has a social but has refused...
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    What shall I call carers

    Oh well that went down like a lead balloon!!! She flatly refuses. Despite my white lies she wasn't having any of it. Think she managed 2 days then told them there were people out there who needed more help. I tried to tell her if she continued they would help to pay the bills but nope that...
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    What shall I call carers

    Phew, just 12 hours later and progress has been made. My mother's social worker has spoken to my mum and she's accepted the carers!! Well for now at least. Her social worker has offered a start team to come in for a few weeks to get my mum used to visitors as opposed to suddenly having 2...
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    What shall I call carers

    Oh well that went down like a lead balloon!!! She flatly refuses. Despite my white lies she wasn't having any of it. Think she managed 2 days then told them there were people out there who needed more help. I tried to tell her if she continued they would help to pay the bills but nope that...
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    What shall I call carers

    Thank you everyone for you kind words and so many pearls of wisdom. I get from all of you comments that it may take a while to get to a happy medium but I have to try sometime with something and start from there. I have to admit most of you sound like that it was a bit of a battle to begin...
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    What shall I call carers

    advice please Does anyone have any idea how I can gather information that my mother seems to have no recollection of having or receiving. I am trying to apply for sheltered housing or extra care housing for her and there is a list of information that is required. Things like proof of benefits...
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    What shall I call carers

    That's another good idea not really sure which angle to cover now. I've left this a bit late really as they are due on the 6th October so have to think on my feet. I think I could use the medication check for the first visit and I may use your idea for the 2nd visit. Only problem is I won't...
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    What shall I call carers

    That sounds like such a good idea. I may adopt that one. Unfortunately our relationship isn't great so I'm not sure whether she will believe me. She would believe the doctor but I will certainly give that a go. It makes so much sense. Thank you.
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    What shall I call carers

    That's one big issue with her oxy. She still thinks she is fit enough to go to work and even sometimes walks there, where they give her tea and have a chat but she sees that as going to work. I have tried to steer her away from work as it just adds to the confusion and have tried to get her to...
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    What shall I call carers

    Yeah social services are sorting it so not sure who they will use. But no uniforms and Christian names would be ideal. I fear this is gonna be a struggle. I fear all my hard work of getting an assessment, arranging meetings with social workers and numerous other appointments and meetings is...