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    Examples of unusual behaviour that we would love to have input on ...

    My lovely sister who is in a CH insists on writing everything on her pile of paper napkins (not easy and even harder to read!:)). She has about 3 notepads beside her but they remain in pristine condition. I did try asking her why she wont use them but have never received a coherent answer...
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    My mum has been cautioned for shoplifting

    Is it just me?, but I think the Store manager's treatment of your Mum was dreadful! Surely it would have taken him all of 5 minutes to realise your poor Mum was not a 'thief' in the normal sense. He certainly should have not spoken to your Mum on the shop floor in this manner. I was a Sales...
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    Help - we are getting continous broken nights

    Is it possible to do some research and perhaps move to a more caring surgery? This is hard enough without being treated as a 'nuisance' by the professionals who are supposed to be there for you. Bless, Senga x
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    feeling scared

    God Bless xxxx
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    Citalopram

    Hi all, I discovered to my horror that my sister's (aged 77) Care Home had put her on the above anti-depressant in May as she was very 'down', (no consultation with me). At this point in time my husband, to whom she was very close, had been diagnosed with Lung Cancer and, as she has bladder...
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    Who is involved in making the decision?

    I thought I would hold off posting till I had spent some more time with my sister, just to see if there was any change whatsoever. That was last Thursday hubby did the visit and had said she was pretty good. He also went on Friday, she remembered he had been up the day, before he said they...
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    What to say to my lovely sister....

    Thanks for that Fiona, Just had a look at the LPA's....... Wondering if I should go to a solicitor, seems overpowering.... Senga x
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    Social Work Advice

    No nitram, she is not self funding, it will all be paid thru benefits. The decision has been made by 'the Doctor' that she go into the CH, done and dusted without any type of consultation with me.....
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    What to say to my lovely sister....

    Thanks Fiona, What a minefield.... can the SW actually decide on which home? does the family have any rights in law to make this massive decision?? Unfortunately I have found the SW sadly lacking in my frquent dealings in the past. I have labeled most of her clothes as I take her laundry...
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    Who is involved in making the decision?

    Following on from my recent posts, can anyone tell me how many 'professionals' are involved in making a CH decision. Having had the trauma of a broken hip, home after 3 weeks - 11 days later another fall resulting in a broken shoulder, I am concerned this CH decision has been taken too...
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    What to say to my lovely sister....

    It's 2.00 am, I had a nice night out with 2 of my closest friends ( with the instructions nothing be said about my sister, couldn't cope in public..) My sister has never been able to say how she feels but maybe twice a year I would receive a lovely letter from her. Just been reading a couple...
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    Social Work Advice

    It's getting a bit scary now..... I've taken the advice and emailed CAB and Shelter with the details, fingers crossed they get back to me asap. The rent is still being paid as we had hoped, up until Wednesday, that she would be returning home..... I think I will start emptying it over the...
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    Social Work Advice

    This is what's worrying me - that they want the key on the first visit. The last thing she would want is her house contents being left in their hands...... Some of the larger electical items I have bought for her and I do know family who would be grateful for them.......
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    Social Work Advice

    Hi all, My sister has a council house but we have been told she cannot return home and will have to go straight from hospital to a CH. The hospital have told me not to do anything about her house as a social worker will be in touch with me soon. Any advice re what to expect and what to...
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    What to say to my lovely sister....

    Many thanks for your kind words Fiona, it's just so good to be able to release some of these horrible feelings. Well, I went in yesterday and the nurse who gave me the news had spoken to my sister after I left. She said she got really angry and blamed the doctor and the nurses for it.. Then...
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    What to say to my lovely sister....

    Thanks so much for your very kind replies, I can't seem to get control back at all tonight. Just feel as if my heart is breaking. The thought of having to go up and break up her lovely little house is tearing me apart.... I've always been known as the strong one in the family but at the...
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    What to say to my lovely sister....

    My lovely sister (aged 76), had a fall on the 4th July and broke her hip. She was taken to hospital where 4 days later it was operated on. She seemed to go off her head about 4 days after the op but I was told it was prob., due to the anaesthetic. She did get a lot clearer when once again it...